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Children 13
The Sorrow of
Childlessness
Primary Infertility, No Adoption
These
professional women have lived with the sorrow of childlessness throughout
their lives.
In both cases, after primary biological
infertility in the female was established through allopathic medical
methods, and the women did not seek alternative medical treatment, and their
marital negotiation for infant adoption failed -- due to the husband's
resistance.
Parivartamsha
yoga exchange Mangala + Shani
Female 1: married age 36 in Rahu/Ketu
period, public announcement that she intended to
start a family immediately. In this nativity, however, the negative
implications for birth or acquisition of children are much stronger than the
positive effects. The husband's self-destructive 'ethical principles' and
mental practices (domain-8) plus Ketu in putra bhava plus L-5 in domain-6 do
not paint a positive picture.
Negative Child markers:
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Ketu
in putra bhava = ambivalence about children or detachment from
them. Unusual circumstances for the first child, which range from birth
defects to long separation from mother in early infancy often due to
premature birth of child or mother's illness
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L-5
Shukra in domain-6: medical problems in conception
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special problems re: children
characteristic of Kuja in domain-2: Kuja
drishti to both putra bhava (5) and dharma bhava (9)
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Shukra = lord of saptamsha
and navamsha
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Child-karaka
Guru = Moudhya,
in "hidden forces" domain-8
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Graha in randhra
bhava are inherently self-destructive.
L-8 Surya is strong by rashi. L-8 Surya dominates Guru. The L-8 can
trigger massive, forced, sudden
changes against all conscious expectations.
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moudhya L-3/L-12 Guru and L-8 Surya
occupy 5th-from-Chandra
= resistance to incoming baby-beings due to husband's mentality and the
native's own political (Simha) behaviors (potential adoptions were
sabotaged by native's destructive politicking).
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Shani
+ Rahu drishti upon putra bhava, much increased by the exchanged
position of Kuja who joins domain-11 through the Parivartamsha
yoga. Result: All three natural malefics cast drishti upon putra
bhava.
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Through the parivartamsha exchange, Shani
drishti upon Chandra = depression and reduced maternal
empowerment (public work duties dominate the maternal agenda)
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Shani
+ Kuja drishti upon Guru
- pressure of work duties, focus on money and material accumulation, reduces
fertility of Guru
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Shani owns and aspects the 5th navamsha;
and 5th navamsha contains Mangala.
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Guru = karaka for the first husband. In
domain-8, the husband has certain anti-social and self-destructive
qualities. Husband's fertility will be reduced. After adding impact of Moudhya
(combustion), husband enters the realm of biological sterility.
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5th-from-Guru (children's role in the
husband's life) = vyaya bhava
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The husband's fierce sense of
principle (Surya) came to dominate his greater wisdom (Guru). Husband opposed
adoption on grounds uncertain racial purity with a child from outside the family. The
more liberal-minded wife was not concerned with caste genetics.
The husband's excessive "ethical" position caused cancellation of
attempted adoptions.
Positive Child markers:
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Guru in a friendly rashi of Surya
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Guru
drishti upon Chandra, a major positive for fertility
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L-5
Shukra = swakshetra and in kendra-1 of navamsha
Step-children and
step-grandchildren, but none of her own
Some women marry a divorced man with
children, thinking him to be a "family man" by nature (because he is
always talking about his children). In order to convince her to marry him, this man
may "hide his cards" regarding his actual intent regarding the
possibility of producing more children. The woman may find out after marriage
that her
husband feels burdened by the time and financial pressures involved in raising
children, wants to invest his limited resources into his existing children,
and therefore he will not expand his family any further.
Child markers:
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hungry Rahu in 5 in a barren rashi
(Kanya).
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Putra bhava receives oppressive,
delaying drishti of Shani, and
anti-change agent Shani is very uncomfortable in the realm of
destroy-and-recreate domain-8.
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Child-karaka Vrischika-Guru
occupies the rashi of friendly Mangala, but Guru is placed
8th-from-Chandra
Chandra = maternal
instincts:
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Chandra in Shukra-ruled Bharani suggests that the native
emotionally interprets most life experience as carrying a
burden, and is psychically grounded through managing
and conserving natural resources (Shukra = wealth).
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The native is emotionally
identified with the task of carrying collected or
historic wealth (the burden).
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Chandra in 12 suggests a private
personality who does not naturally share one's thoughts and
perceptions with others. Such a mind may struggle to understand and
accept others who are not defined by their asset-collections or by
their burden-carrying work.
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Similar to the female-1, the female-2
was married in Chandra/Rahu
period
with the stated intent to start her family "ASAP".
Female nativity =
L-8
Guru in yuvati bhava. First marriage contains much secret
information, hidden debts (Shani in 8) and other deception, including the
husband who talks positive (Guru) about children but in truth does not
want them.
This man wants to enjoy a sexual
relationship with his new wife, uninterrupted by cycles of pregnancy. He also
wishes to channel the income of the new wife, who can earn a steady salary
because she has no children, into the maintenance funding for his existing
children. The new wife feels exploited and most likely she will be deprived of
her own children for the remainder of her lifetime. (Exceptions, see below.)
This woman married a man who had two
children from his first marriage as a young teenager. Despite her deep desire to
conceive a child within her first and only marriage, allopathic medical
advisers told her that either medical
fertility intervention or adoption would be required for her to become a
mother.
The husband, feeling exhausted by
his existing child-maintenance responsibilities, would not cooperate with
his young wife's medical fertility intervention, and would not abide the expense of legal
adoption.
The female native "accepted" the
deprivation of children. She adjusted with some
bitterness to the role of wage-earner whose salary went to support her
husband's children in a distant city, and a once-yearly duty of stepmotherhood
when these difficult and expensive children came to visit her!
She remains
critical and judgmental of her stepchildren and their offspring, and will
probably take the unresolved sorrow of her own childlessness to her grave.
Negative Child markers:
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as in the female nativity above, the
central difficulty = Rahu-Ketu
in domain-5 without a correction
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Rahu
in a barren rashi (Kanya)
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Behari says, "Rahu will deny the birth of
children, but will make you deeply and truly philosophical.
..."
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L-5 Budha in the highly problematic Ashlesha
nakshatra = emotionally anxious and manipulative. As L-2/L-5,
Budha's most anxious and manipulative behavior is focused on family (2)
and children (5).
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 extremely
hard-working L-9 Shani in self-destructive randhra bhava
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Ketu
in 5th-from-Guru - husband's ambivalence toward the native's
children
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Hot and self-focused graha in 5th-from-Chandra:
Surya + Shukra + Kuja.
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Kuja = karaka for miscarriage in
5th-from-Chandra
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Surya = karaka for selfishness in
5th-from-Chandra
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Shukra = Moudhya
due to retrograde
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Guru
in 6th-from-Chandra
Neutral:
Positive Child markers:
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L-5 Budha receives drishti of
Guru
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L-5 Budha in the gainful
11th-from-putra bhava (but Parashara says that children are only
guaranteed when L-5 occupies dhana, putra or dharma bhava)
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drishti of L-9 Shani upon domain-5.
Shani provides the stepchildren, with an emphasis on their uncontrollability
[8] and the amount of work required to support them [Shani]
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Adoption is not ruled out with Rahu/Kanya/5 and its drishti
upon domain-9. It is possible that the native could be called upon to
adopt one of her step-grand-children.
Vimshottari Dasha
influence on fertility and children
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An increasingly child-hopeless mahadasha
of L-3 Bharani
Chandra
in domain-12 saw the female tossed and turned
indecisively over options or lack of them for acquiring her own children,
and generally pouring most of her energy into her work (Bharani =
"bear and carry"; Bharani = womb)
instead of mounting a campaign for children.
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Kuja = lord of Chandra and Mangala
occupies the self-destructive 8th-from-Chandra.
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The subsequent mahadasha
of L-12/L-7 Kuja continued
her childless experience. Stepchildren claimed a significant portion of
her time and money, yet the native was not supported in quest for medical
fertility intervention.
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During Kuja period, the native acquired
a prestige home property (Kuja strong in bandhu bhava). After this
expense, no funds for adoption could be
available. At the husbands request, the female native, possessed of a
spectacularly strong service-dedicated Shani, plunged into the domain-4
(see Kuja) project of home-property development in lieu of having
children.
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Rahu
mahadasha returned the female's life focus to children, but having
entered her 5th decade she focused on grandchildren. Indeed
step-grandchildren arrived in her home. Naturally, given Mula Shani's
problematic nature (taking on tasks far beyond His realistic abilities)
the native has developed a negative "cold hospitality"
relationship to her steps, dominated by law-and-order
L-9 Shani whose character is destroyed in domain-8.
Sorrow of
Shani's
rigidity,
Rahu's hunger, and
destructive cycles of domain-8
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Change-resistant Shani is very
uncomfortable in domain-8, the natural house of His enemy
Mangala-the-rejuvenator, and home-base of apathetic Ketu.
Also, nearly any graha in Mula
(except Ketu) is subject to over-estimation of one's abilities, followed
by painful consequences and often retractions
L-9 (Mula) Shani's karmic rigidity
and punitive judgementalism is further unsettled and upset by
Rahu's volatile and passionate hungers
regarding children.
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During Rahu/Shani period, the native
invited her grandchildren to live in her home.
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However the native, now a grandmother,
was unable to tolerate (Shani) the perceived lawlessness
and inadequate work ethic (Shani) of the children she had
invited into her home.
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As a result, she evicted her own
grandchildren (8 = sudden, forced changes).
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In doing so, Shani's
destroyed her own access to the happiness that grandchildren might bring.
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In domain-8, "letter of the law" Shani is forced into
engagement with repeating self-destructive cycles. Three times during Rahu/Shani period,
the step-children and their progeny returned to the native's home, moved
in, then were evicted due to their "poor work habits".
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