Divorce and Remarriage
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"All that is accumulated is finally to vanish and all that rises ends in fall.
All unions end in separation and life in death. "
~~ Valmiki Ramayana, 2.105.16
"Like birds collecting on a tree in the night and then going their separate ways in the morning,
the union of all beings inevitably ends in separation."
~~ Buddha Charita 6.46
Divorce
"... from Old French: 'divorce', from Latin. divortium"separation, dissolution of marriage,"
from divertere"to separate, leave one's husband, turn aside" (see divert)."
He who does not have mother in the house and has a wife of harsh speech,
should go to a forest:
(for him) as is the forest so is his house.
~~ Brihanaradiya Purana, 10.44
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~~ Mahabharata Shanti Parva, 139.93
"One should avoid from a distance a bad son,
a bad king, a bad friend,
a bad relationship and a bad country."
~~ Shantideva, Verse 6,
Guide to the Bodhisattva's Way of Life
"When someone whom I have helped
Or in whom I have placed great hopes
Mistreats me in extremely hurtful ways
May I regard him still as my precious teacher."
Jyotisha Timing Agents for Alienation and Legal Dissolution Alienation
Triggers
There are typically four divorce triggers.
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Bhukti of the lord of bhava-8 can produce a sudden forced change, similar to the death of the spouse. The native may be served with divorce papers, be shocked and traumatized when a spousal secret affair is suddenly revealed, or the spouse may be found engaged in some other hidden behavior such as a drug addiction (less likely) or mishandling of money (more common).
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Bhukti of lord of 2 can trigger a sudden instinct toward self-destruction and rebirth on the part of the native him/herself. The celebrity divorce of Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston is a great teaching example of that phenomenon in action. Pitt had just entered the swabhukti of his very strong Guru (also significator for children) when his life changed suddenly, forcefully and (because of Guru) expansively.
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Bhukti of the lord of 6 triggers the dissolution of the legal contract (12th from 7th) and in general signifies a period of animosity and ill-health, sometimes poverty, due to an eruption of the inner conflicts onto the stage of social relationships. Generally the periods of L-2 and L-8 will institute the emotional shift but the legal change of status requires bhukti of L-6 sometimes also 6th from Chandra. In the celebrity divorce Aniston-Pitt, it was Ms. Aniston going through her Rahu bhukti who filed the divorce papers -- her Rahu + Shani promotes the effect of constrictive, depressive, isolating Shani, the L-6 from her Kanya lagna L-6.
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Bhukti periods of chidakaraka Ketu = disconnection, disorientation, uncoupling (explained in the myth of Rahu-Ketu)
Also, disaffection if not necessarily disconnection during periods of: radix L-12 or 12th-from-Chandra = Alienation
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12th-from-1st= loss or detachment from personal identity (foreign travel, seclusion, etc.) A private experience (12) of dissolution of identity. Different from the dissolution of the legal contract under L-6.
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6th-from-7th= spouse behaves like an enemy, interpersonal conflict with spouse, agreements feel unsustainable but the effect is felt in the private sensory imagination, not a public statement. One may form an attachment to another outside the marriage, not necessarily physical but an 'escape' alternative for daydreams during periods of L-12.
Alienation radix L-6 or 6th-from-Chandra= Legal Dissolution
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12th-from-7th= loss of marital agreement, loss of balance, interpersonal conflict, loss of marital identity. Dissolution of the legal contract, reallocation of assets.
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6th-from-1st= one feels animosity and sickness, initiates conflict, experiences ill-will and imbalance, attracts enemies. Typically people get physically sick during and after the legal dissolution.
H.H. Tenzin Gyatso. (2006). How to Expand Love: Widening the Circle of Loving Relationships . Jeffrey Hopkins (Trans.and Ed.) Atria Pub. :
Anger + Anger = Disaster Anger + Kindness = Peace
"Anger cannot be overcome by anger.
If a person shows anger to you, and you show anger in return, the result is a disaster. In contrast, if you control your anger and show its opposite -- love, compassion, tolerance, and patience--then not only will you remain in peace, but the anger of others also will gradually diminish.
No one can argue with the fact that in the presence of anger, peace is impossible. Only through kindness and love can peace of mind be achieved.
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...human beings can judge and reason; we understand consequences and think in the long term. It is also true that human beings can develop infinite love.... However, when humans become angry; all of this potential is lost.
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No enemy armed with mere weapons can undo these qualities, but anger can.
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It is the destroyer.
If you look deeply into such things, the blueprint for our actions can be found within the mind. Self-defeating attitudes arise not of their own accord but out of ignorance. Success, too, is found within ourselves.
Out of self-discipline, self-awareness, and clear realization of the defects of anger and the positive effects of kindness will come peace."
Particular problems in marriage agreement related to graha placement Shani in 5 the strong 3rd drishti from Shani upon yuvati bhava = idleness and stagnation in marriage. - Boredom, unresolved frustration with negative habits of the spouse, and Stubborn resistance to change while burdened with responsibilities for children.
- Stays in the marriage "for the children".
- Lord Shani is a force of orderliness therefore Shani alone will not enforce a divorce. But if other factors pressure a split, one of the long-term grievances of the abandoning partner may well be endurance of decades of "motion without progress" due to the stubborn resistance (Shani) of the spouse preventing any creative forward movement on matters of lingering disagreement.
- Conflict resolution is stalled and a pattern of work exhaustion combined with a focus on the routines of child-raising and structured entertainments (such as family vacations, school performances, sports competitions etc) tend to replace intimate marital communication. This is a rather long-term problem and it may indeed persist until death do them part.
Simha lagna special conditions Simha in lagna or Chandra lagna faces a special set of marriage challenges. kalatrakaraka Shukra+ L-7 Shani = both enemies of lagnesha Surya. - The Simha native requires an inordinate amount of attention, however the spouse tends to be focused on the external network of social relationships to the exclusion (or so it feels) of the intimate needs of the native.
- One may feel sidelined, or simply deprived of that focused, exclusive praising attention which Simha demands. Slightly more acute for the Simha-Chandra than for the Simha-lagna.
- If Simha Chandra is in radix lagna, the perceived shortfall of personal attention, regardless of abundant attention received from the public audience, lacking from the spouse may be too much for the native to bear in marriage and divorce may result. [Madonna, Rajiv Gandhi ]
Dhanushya lagna Dhanushya in lagna or Chandra lagna faces a special set of marriage challenges. - kalatrakaraka Shukra L-6+L-11 from Dhanushya = enemy of lagnesha Guru
- L-7 trivial-chat Budha = enemy of lagnesha
Guru.
- Guru-Budha animosity = contempt or patronizing attitudes in marriage
- The guru-identified humanistic philosophical native may become highly frustrated with the commercialized, wisdom-adversarial Budha-behaviors of the spouse.
Meena lagna Meena in lagna or Chandra lagna faces a special set of marriage challenges.
- kalatrakaraka Shukra L-3+L-8 from Meena = enemy of lagnesha Guru
- L-7 trivial-chat Budha = enemy of lagnesha
Guru.
- Guru-Budha animosity = contempt or patronizing attitudes in marriage
- The guru-identified humanistic philosophical native may become highly frustrated with the commercialized, wisdom-adversarial Budha-behaviors of the spouse.
Jyotisha Disposition of Wife and Multiple Marriages
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"If Shukra is in Yuvati, the native will be exceedingly libidinous.
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If Shukra yuti a malefic in any Bhava, it will cause loss of wife."
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If Yuvati Lord is devoid of strength and is relegated to Ari, 8th, or Vyaya, or, if Yuvati Lord is in fall,
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the native’s wife will be destroyed (i.e. she will die early).
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If Chandra is in Yuvati, as Yuvati Lord is in Vyaya and the Karaka ( Shukra ) is bereft of strength, the native will not be endowed with marital happiness.
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One will have two wives, if Yuvati Lord is in fall, or in a malefic Rashi along with a malefic, while Yuvati Bhava, or the 7th Navamsha belong to a eunuch planet.
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If Mangala and Shukra are in Yuvati, or, if Shani is Yuvati, while the Lord of Lagna is in Randhra, the native will have 3 wives.
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There will be many wives, if Shukra is in a Dual Rashi, while its Lord is in exaltation, as Yuvati Lord is endowed with strength.
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Should Chandra be in Yuvati from Shukra ,
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while Budha is in Yuvati from Chandra
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and Randhra Lord is in Putra (from the Lagna),
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there will be marriage in Karma year followed by another in the 22nd year and yet another in the 33rd year.
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Ketu= karaka for permanent separations (not death! Rahu-Ketu are perpetually looking at each other across the sky). When Ketu occupies bhava-8, great emotional detachment from the divorce process - it occurs, but neither native nor spouse are much impacted. If L-9 (communications in marriage) = beneficial, the partners remain in sibling-style "team" communication even after divorce.
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Rahu, especially if Rahu's lord = L-2 or L-8. When Rahu occupies bhava-8, great drama of passion and betrayal in the divorce process. Native may receive a surprisingly large divorce payment if Rahu's lord is favorable.
Divorce is so cataclysmic and
identity-transforming that a Transit
of gochara Rahu-Ketu to key axes in the nativity is usually
required also.
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8th-from-1st = sudden, forced changes in one's own life - such as surprise inheritance, death of spouse, emergency surgery, or natural catastrophe
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2nd-from-7th = under severe astrological conditions, this bhukti can indicate the death of the spouse. More often in younger years, during the long-lived modern age+ L-8 can indicate a spouse-initiated divorce.
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If L-8 is strong, spouse's family (one's in-laws) and spouse's assets become powerful actors on life's stage
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if L-8 is harsh, the spouse may feel that no further marital interaction is possible because the relationship is "dead"
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When L-8 is the divorce bhukti, the spouse has in some powerful psychic or physical sense become "dead". The marriage work is done, and something in the spouse's behavior (including a decision to leave their body, but usually a living behavior pattern of some sort) makes the spouse intolerable. Divorce ensues as a way of confirming that this person is "dead to me".
Unlike divorce under timing of L-2, there is "no one else" - that is, the divorce is not motivated by the native having undertaken a marriage-breaking outside relationship.
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8th-from-7th = sudden, forced changes in the spouse's life. Divorce during a period of the native's L-2 is frequently initiated by the native. The spouse feels the L-8 effect.
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2nd-from-1st = bhukti of L-2 indicates a return to the native's own family (having removed obligations to the spouse's family), a return to one's own wealth and values, family customs, language/speech habits etc. One determines to seek a new spouse "more aligned with one's own values".
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if L-2 is strong and beneficial, the second spouse appears quickly, through the auspices of one's own family. The 2nd spouse typically appears in the period of 2nd-from-Shukra, or of 2nd navamsha, but there are other conditions also.
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If L-2 is troubled by malefics, the family or its values do not assist the native's transformation from first marriage to second marriage. Native-initiated divorce is not accepted by the family. Finding a second spouse may be difficult or delayed. However, when and if the second marriage is accomplished, difficult graha affecting bhava-2 indicate karmic effort regarding the 2nd spouse.
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When L-2 is the divorce-lord, there is "someone else". traditional ly L-2 rules the second marriage after widowhood. However in the modern age, a L-2 also signifies divorce caused by the native falling in love with someone outside the marriage. The new connection is so powerful that the first marriage must be dissolved.
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Occurs in period of L-6. (6th-from-Chandradissolves the emotional balance, but physical matters are best judged from Radix lagna.)
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Depending on the nature of the break-up and the radix lagna of the nativity, a formal dissolution of marriage might occur quite some time after the psychic "death" which tells the native or the spouse that the marriage is finished. (See the table of lagnas for divorce.)
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Gochara Rahu/Ketu will return to a partnership lagna:
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to nodal axis in radix
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to nodal axis in navamsha
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to lagna axis of radix
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to lagna axis of navamsha
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to axis of radix Moon
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If L-12 is also lord of Ketu, the native is personally alienated or disconnected from the matters of the house in which Ketu resides.
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If L-6 is also the lord of Ketu, disagreements with others are not acknowledged, the native acts hostile toward others but does not see his own role in creating conflict
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If Shani is Ketu's lord, somber neutrality and detachment applies to the matters of the house in which Ketu resides.
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If Ketu is yuti Soma,in any domain, the native is emotional detached from life. (The native may be a successful person with a good home and family; but their underlying emotional connection is weak.)
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If Ketu occupies bhava-7 in either radix or navamsha, the native is disconnected and alienated in marriage. (There may be plenty of external indications of success, but the interior of the marriage relationship is disconnected.) Sometimes the spouse is a spiritual figure, but normally the partner is inaccessible emotionally, and marriage is alienated.
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If Ketu occupies bhava-2,the same alienation (cultural, religious, emotional, physical) with the second spouse. And the same repeating attempts to keep connecting. (See the Myth of Ketu.)
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If L-12 is also a benefic,(natural or temporal) the alienation experience may have some highly positive aspects, such as the intrigue of foreign travel or long periods of fruitful seclusion in a research or meditation sanctuary space. Alienation can be a good and necessary thing for the accomplishment of certain goals. Typically the period of L-12 causes the native to leave their own country or habitual social culture during the bhukti.
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If L-12 is also a malefic, there is physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual imprisonment. (For Vrishabha lagna and Dhanusha lagna, the alienating behavior of the spouse may be aggressive.)
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For marriage, The period of L-12as 6th-from-7th does give alienation from the spouse.
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If L-12 is a benefic, the reasons for alienation may be good and ultimately beneficial, such as the spouse is working on profitable foreign business; or the spouse is in seclusion for professional reasons, for research or mediation; or the spouse is taking valuable medical treatment.
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If L-12 is malefic, the alienation is bitter and feels effortful (karmic).
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Overall condition of bhava-7 and 7th navamsha. A strong bhava-7 will withstand the siege of all divorce factors, including periods of L-12,
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if the spouse in question is 2nd or subsequent marriage, check the lagnas for those marriages
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If L-12 is benefic, there may be genuine benefits coming from the alienation. Benefic L-12 may not be a harbinger of later divorce unless there is a connection between Ketu and L-12.
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If L-12 is malefic and the client is reporting a rough time, check the overall strength of L-12 in D-1 and D-9. Check also the next occurrence of Vimshottari bhukti of L-2 or L-8, which are the karakas for divorce.
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for Mesha lagna, Vimshottari period of the conflict-trigger L-6 Budha, is followed immediately the "I give up" Ketu period, then by the divorce-trigger L-2 Shukra period. Ketu does gives time for stabilization or cool-down between the L-6 irritationand the L-8 "dead to me" experience, but Ketu can also exacerbate separative tendencies. If L-6, Ketu, and L-2 are strong, Mesha can experience a divorce during this bhukti sequence. Also applies to Mesha Chandra. (This sequence cannot occur in Ketu Mahadashaor Shukra Mahadasha.)
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For Vrishabha lagna, the period of L-12 Kuja signals imbalance and aggressive disagreeableness for the spouse also gives withdrawal for the native. Kuja bhukti is followed by Rahu bhukti, which can enflame the passions and generate some acting-out. After Rahu's wild time comes the period of L-8 Guru. Check the strength of the graha involved. (This sequence cannot occur in Rahu Mahadashaor Guru Mahadasha.)
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For Simha lagna, periods of L-6 Shani can be especially taxing, and they are followed inexorably by periods of L-2 Budha. Unless supported by benefics, Simha has a notoriously difficult time in marriage for this and other reasons.
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Thula has the reverse sequence to Mesha: Vimshottari period of the detachment-trigger L-12 Budha, is followed immediately by the divorce-trigger L-8 Shukra. Little time for recovery of engagement between the withdrawing of L-12 and the L-8 "dead to me" experience which dissolves the union. If L-12 and L-8 are both strong, Thula can experience a divorce during this bhukti sequence. Also applies to Thula Chandra.
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Vrischika has the reverse sequence to Vrishabha, with identical results: L-6 spousal animosity from Kuja bhukti is followed by Rahu bhukti, which can enflame the passions and generate some acting-out. After Rahu's wild time comes period of L-2 Guru. Check the strength of the graha involved.
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Maraka lagna, period of L-12 Guru for spouse's illness or animosity, is followed by period of L-2 Shani for divorce. Shani is a natural malefic so this setup is worth watching during the relevant Vimshottari periods.
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Similarly for Kumbha lagna, period of L-12 Shani period for spouse's illness or animosity, is followed by period of L-8 Budha for divorce. Budha is not a natural malefic like Shani but Budha can still cause trouble!
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Mithuna, Karka, Kanya, Dhanau, and Meena lagna have no back-to back conflict-divorce periods.
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If L-8 is an auspicious graha,divorce may be amicable or gainful.
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If L-8 is a troubled graha, expect difficulties.
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If L-8 is a neutral graha(Budha in favorable rashis for Vrishabha, Kumbha lagnas) divorce may give a sense of neither loss nor gain, but simply moving on through the cycle of life
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Grahain occupation of bhava-8 suggest involvement with secret matters. The scope of bhava-8 includes, but is not limited to, secret extramarital sexual relationships.
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Suryain house-7 (self-righteousness in marriage)
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Surya in house-5 (native craves romantic attention)
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Rahu or Ketu in house-7
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Rahu/Ketu yuti radix L-7, or (to a lesser power)
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Rahu-Ketu yuti navamsha L-1 or L-7 indicates craving for new partners, frequent remarriages
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L-7 in dushthamsha
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mutual drishti of enemy Grahain navamsha 1/7 axis
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Guru and Rahu drishti upon L-7 or Shukra
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Rahu cycles are 9, 18, 27, 36, 54, And63years.
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Shani cycles are durations of 14-15, 29-30, Or 44-45 years.
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her radix Moon axis should matches either his navamsha nodal axis, or his navamsha nodal axis
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her radix Moon axis should matches either her navamsha nodal axis, or her navamsha nodal axis
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for non-traditional committed unions, partner-1 must match partner-2 as above
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if one's radix Moon is not "matched" to the navamsha lagna or nodes (or possibly, navamsha Moon) of the other partner, One remains "emotionally invisible" to the partner.
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A12 = arudha lagna of house-12 = upapada
A7
= arudha lagna of house-7 = darapada -
if the Upapada (A12) is strong,
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but the 7th house becomes weak
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A nd 8th house effects are felt,
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from the first spousewhether by death or divorce is seen in the bhukti of lord of 2nd-from-7th , randhra bhava. [After age 32, also consider 8th-from-Moon.]
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from the second spousewhether by death or divorce is seen in the bhukti of lord of 2nd-from-2nd , Sahaja bhava. [After age 32, also consider 3rd-from-Moon.]
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from the Third spousewhether by death or divorce is seen in the bhukti of lord of 2nd-from-9th , karma bhava. [After age 32, also consider 10th-from-Moon.]
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Venus and the 7th house indicate marriage.
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If you are sure that the first will either die or separate from the husband, take the planets in the 7th or associated with Venus.
The strongest will determine the second wife.
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In a female horoscope, take Saturn in the place of Venus (Prasna Marga).
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Some authors want us to read the 11th house and this may also be adopted."
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Shukra = karaka for marriageand all other contractual agreements also. Shukra = karaka for harmony, partnership, balance, mutual support, diplomacy.
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If there is damage to Shukra (e.g., Shukra + Ketu) then the marriage expectations are weakened and the liklihood of second marriage increases. Naturally the Vimshottari Dasha timing must trigger a divorce, but without the pre-existing weakness no trigger will work.
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Shukra and bhava-7 specifically indicate marriage for men who prefer to marry women.
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As Shri Raman says, Women have their own system in Jyotisha.
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For women, Shukra is not the direct profile of the husband but rather the disposition of marriage contract and her expectations of harmony in the union.
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Guru indicates the first husband, Shani is the 2nd husband, and graha associated with Shani indicate third and subsequent husbands. In my records, there is a case of a woman known to me who was married and divorced five times before the age of 42. In her nativity, all graha except handra-rahu occupy a rashi of Shani. Marriage-1 comes from Guru. Marriages 2-3-4-5 come from Shani and three graha with Shani. After she exhausted the karma of each of Guru in a rashi of Shani, then Shani, then three graha with Shani, she stopped getting married and entered a monastery. She is now a great healer and saint.
Many Western clients have three or more marriages.
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Rahu-Ketu
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There is a certain type of person who re-marries rather consistently with each nodal return (approx every 9 years, and more often during Rahu-Ketu periods). Also, frequently, in nativities of multiple-marriage persons, bhava-7 is empty, and neither Shani nor Shukra have co-tenants.
In my practice (at least so far!) I find that L-2 is the best significator of the 2nd marriage partner male or female, and that most public aspects of the 2nd spouse's life can be read from bhava-2 as lagna. (e.g., career of 2nd spouse = 10th-from-2nd, = native's bhava-11).
L-9 = significator of 3rd spouse; L-4 = 4th spouse; L-11 = 5th spouse; etc.
Marriage and all remarriages will follow the same timing rules:
Bhukti of one of these classic marriage-makers:
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Shani, Shukra, Rahu or Ketu
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navamsha L-7 or navamsha L-1
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D-1 or D-9 nodal axis
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D-1 or D-9 lagna axis
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D-1 or D-9 axis of Moon
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1st spouse lagna = house=7
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2nd spouse lagna = house-2
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3rd spouse lagna = house-9
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4th spouse lagna = house-4
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career of 1st spouse = 10th-from- 7th = bandhu bhava [also see the radix lord of the 4th navamsha]
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career of 2nd spouse = 10th-from-2nd= labha bhava [also see the radix lord of the 11th navamsha]
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career of 3rd spouse = 10th-from-9th= ripu bhava [also see the radix lord of the 6th navamsha]
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(previous) children of 2nd spouse = 5th-from-2nd = ari bhava [also see the radix lord of the 6th navamsha]
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(previous) spouse of 2nd spouse = 7th-from-2nd = randhra bhava [also see the radix lord of the 8th navamsha]
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Rather, randhra bhava = *Awareness* of death, or more properly, awareness of the cycle of birth and death.
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Near-death experiences, divorce,emergencies, great healings, and esoteric transformation teachings are all part-and-parcel of Randhra bhava, the 8house.
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People come together for the highest work that their mutual awareness will allow.
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When the work is completed, they move on.
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Longer-lasting and stronger bodies offer the opportunity to process a large and diverse array of karmic backlogs with in one lifetime.
Rahu/Ketu transitthrough one of these axes
What to expect in the next spouse:
Public characteristicsof the next-in-line spouse are seen through the following lagnas:
Determine each spouse's previous marriages, children, relatives, and business affairs by counting geometrically from the lagna of the relevant spouse-house.
E.g.,
Marriage is seen via Yuvati and Romance --entertainment, love-affair and love-of-children-- is seen via putra bhava.
Even if no marriage is forthcoming, your love life might be fabulous!
If house-5 and its Lord are strong, periods of L-5 will bring plenty of love. L-5 love is not concerned with social duty but rather is a celebration of the self. Typically L-5 periods produce pure love (with either lovers or children) that does not require the social validationand/or bondage of legal marriage.
It is quite possible to have a life filled with marvelous romance while living completely free of marriage - and vice versa!
Benefics in yuvati sthana
Guru in yuvati does not prevent divorce, but rather creates a friendly post-divorce relationship. Example = divorce 7.
Guru or Shukra in randhra bhavais also helpful for positive resource sharing post-divorce: generous alimony, continuing friendly concern for the welfare of the ex-spouse, cooperative co-parenting, etc.
Some philosophical Jyotisha observations about Divorce:
Whatever happens is by definition for the highest good. No need to fret. More relaxing to accept and go with the flow.
Astrologically any planets in the 8house will serve the spirit' s interests by heightening the person' s awareness of the turning of the cycle of birth and death. Planetary periods of 8house planets - especially such a detached, philosophical agent at Ketu - must create the type of events that serve to heighten awareness of death.
bhava-8 is not especially concerned with physical death. (Physical death = dhana bhava, the 2nd house.)
In fact, There is no success or failure in marriage.
One will reconnect with your current spouse again in your next life. Our reincarnation groups are remarkably small. The groups consist of only 75-100 people who batch together for intensive interactive psychic work, over and over again.
One can be certain that you have been married to this person before, and quit likely will be again. You have also been their mother and father before, been their child and boss before, their guru and their student before.
In our long-life era, most westerners can expect Two or three significant love unions. Compared to our ancestors of previous millennia, we have incredible health and strength. Our sense of possibility is vastly expanded from the survival obsessions of generations past.
In many parts of the world, marriage is no longer a survival-driven choicepropelled by material necessity. Many folks incarnated within the past two centuries have enjoyed the privilege of choosing their own partner for purposes of psycho-emotional developmentrather than for sheer physical or social survival.
Interpersonal psycho-emotional work is not any easier or more amusing than the work of physical or social survival. It is just another level of karmic backlog that is sitting there waiting to get worked out, i.e., ignorance transformed into wisdom. Nevertheless it is an earned privilege to reach the level of material luxury which allows even the possibility of multiple, voluntarily chosen marriage unions.
Yes, divorce is a privilege!
We can deal with karmic emotional backlogs of two or three or more previous-life marriages, within one lifetime, these days! To move the ignorance-to-wisdom process along more quickly, to keep the pace of karmic story-processing fast and active, divorce is essential.
Yes, divorce is essential. Death is essential.
Quite frequently, I see aware people who are asking me for advice on marriage number four or number five. (Usually they are in their 50' s and 60' s for the 4th or 5th marriage, but occasionally much younger.)
In my twenties I was more judgmental, accepting the conventional social wisdom that it' s better to build character by staying with one difficult partner rather than indulging in multiple sexual attractions. But I' ve come to appreciate, through seeing thousands of astrological charts, that marriage is the key karmic work of our era. We need to do as much of this relationship work as possible, which often means multiple marriage commitments, and that is Agood thing.
Some people have chosen fast-track incarnations where they are healing a huge amount of old karmic backlog, by reconnecting with multiple serial monogamous partners. The key indication of success in a multiple-marriage lifetime, IMO, is whether one can remain neutral friends with the former spouse.
That is the proof IMO that the work was truly completed, and everyone feels good about what was accomplished. Many people are able to enjoy good relationships with former spouses these days. The social judgment of " failed marriage" runs off them like water off a duck' s back.
Yes, it's all for the highest good.
You know this as a spirit. Shani who governs social controlhas only one simple goal: absolute stability. Society very much criticizes change of any kind, particularly changes in caste, level, or power such as change of marital status. Social control judgment will punish you with criticismof " failed marriage" . But The spirit itself has only one simple goal: transformation of ignorance into wisdom - i.e., change!
Naturally,there are times when the spirit and society are very much at loggerheads. At these times, including during the divorce process, it is validating and healing to re-assert the primacy of spirit, and to acknowledge that one is actively engaging in healthy transformative change. Divine Intelligence does not punish, criticize, or judge.
Society and social control agents do punish, criticize, and judge - often vigorously. Therefore be on the alert for punishment energy and be ready to re-assert the primacy of spirit!!
For best results, ignore social opinion, and go with the spirit.
As the Apostle Paul said: "Choose Life!"
View on counseling the participants in Extra-marital Affairs
Q: Dear Barbara,The man I've been asking about, we are technically married but guess what I have just heard that he is also "married" to a couple of other women. Not legally but he has children with them, still "visits" overnights when he goes for birthdays, mother's day. We had a blowout fight over whether he is ENTITLED to keep those women in his life. I know you told me that the Moons don't work for us. I am the squeezing needy type and he is the kingly self-righteous type. You said he would push me away because he makes his own rules. I could not belief that about my sweet man --- until it happened! I had him in my love grip and I was so sure it would work!
Now just like you predicted it's divorce-court for us (my fifth time yes when will I learn!) and I am sure sure sure I want out due to these other women he claims he has a "right" to but I wonder... could he change? We have been married such a short time and I sure would like this one to work. Could he change for me because he loves me?
A: from a Jyotisha perspective, you are entering the bhukti of the lord of Ari Bhava, which is normally time for some animosity and accusations, leading to the dissolution of legal contracts. So no, the change you want - that sense of permanence and trust based on a deep agreement with the intimate partner -- will likely not come from this external person adapting their behavior to better mate with you. The external partner is only a mirror image of your internal narrative, your deepest inner expectations, and your most cherished beliefs.
The change will come, as it must, from within.
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When she'd finished, she went into each and every room and deposited a few half-eaten shrimps dipped in caviar into the hollow center of the curtain rods.
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Air fresheners were hung everywhere.
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Exterminators were brought in to set off gas canisters, during which time the two had to move out for a few days,
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and in the end they even paid to replace the expensive wool carpeting.
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Nothing worked!
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None of the negative emotions, no matter how powerful, have a solid foundation.
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On the other hand, the positive emotions , such as compassion or wisdom, have A solid basis : there is a kind of grounding and rootedness in reason and understanding, which is not the case with afflictive emotions like anger and hatred.
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A: "Only by cultivating certain qualities within our mindstream.
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Unless we possess high spiritual qualifications, there is no doubt that the events life throws upon us will give rise to frustration, emotional turmoil, and other distorted states of consciousness.
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These imperfect states of mind in turn give rise to imperfect activities, and the seeds of suffering are ever planted in a steady flow.
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On the other hand, when the mind can dwell in the wisdom that knows the ultimate mode of being, one is able to destroy the deepest root of distortion, negative karma and sorrow."
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"According to worldly norms of human behavior, when we help someone and place great trust in them and They mistreat us in return,it is seen as reasonable to be angry with them because we have been hurt.
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However, practitioners of bodhicitta must not give in to this type of conventional thinking.
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Instead, we should learn to view such people in a special way, as objects for our practice of forbearance and loving kindness.
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We must in fact recognize these people as our spiritual teachers."
Subject: Curtain Rods Priceless
On the first day, she sadly packed her belongings into boxes, crates and suitcases.
On the second day, she had the movers come and collect her things.
On the third day, she sat down for the last time at their beautiful dining-room table, by candle-light; she put on some soft background music, and feasted on a pound of shrimp, a jar of caviar, and a bottle of spring-water.
She then cleaned up the kitchen and left.
On the fourth day, the husband came back with his new girlfriend, and at first all was bliss.
Then, slowly, the house began to smell.
They tried everything; cleaning, mopping, and airing-out the place.
Vents were checked for dead rodents, and carpets were steam cleaned.
People stopped coming over to visit.
Repairmen refused to work in the house.
The maid quit.
Finally, they couldn't take the stench any longer, and decided they had to move, but a month later - even though they'd cut their price in half - they couldn't find a buyer for such a stinky house.
Word got out, and eventually even the local realtors refused to return their calls.
Finally, unable to wait any longer for a purchaser, they had to borrow a huge sum of money from the bank to purchase a new place.
Then the ex-wife called the man and asked how things were going.
He told her the saga of the rotting house. She listened politely and said that she missed her old home terribly and would be willing to reduce her divorce settlement in exchange for having the house.
Knowing she could have no idea how bad the smell really was, he agreed on a price that was only 1/10 th of what the house had been worth ... but only if she would sign the papers that very day.
She agreed, and within two hours his lawyers delivered the completed paperwork.
A week later,the man and his girlfriend stood smiling as they watched the moving company pack everything to take to their new home
...... And to spite the ex-wife, they even took the curtain rods!
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"If you want to sacrifice the admiration of many men for the criticism of one, go ahead, get married."
~ Katharine Hepburn
"Instead of getting married again, I'm going to find a woman I don't like and just give her a house."
~~ Steven Seagal
"Relationships are hard. It's like a full time job, and we should treat it like one.
If your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to leave you, they should give you two weeks' notice. There should be severance pay, and before they leave you, they should have to find you a temp."
~~ Bob Ettinger
"I am a marvelous housekeeper. Every time I leave a man I keep his house."
~~ Zsa Zsa Gabor
"Marriage is a great institution -- but I'm not ready for an institution yet."
~~ Mae West
"Ah, yes, divorce . . . from the Latin word meaning: to rip out a man's genitals through his wallet."
~~ Robin Williams
Where does hatred come from?
Q: Where does hatred come from?
A: Dalai Lama:
"That is a question which requires long hours of discussion. From the Buddhist viewpoint, the simple answer is that it is beginningless. As a further explanation, Buddhists believe that there are many different levels of consciousness.
The most subtle consciousness is what we consider the basis of the previous life, this life, and future lives. This subtle consciousness is a transient phenomenon which comes about as a consequence of causes and conditions.
Buddhists have concluded that consciousness itself cannot be produced by matter. Therefore, the only alternative is to accept the continuation of consciousness. So that is the basis of the theory of rebirth.
Where there is consciousness, ignorance and hatred also arise naturally. These negative emotions, as well as the positive emotions, occur right from beginningless time. All these are a part of our mind. However, these negative emotions actually are based on ignorance, which has no valid foundation.
The basic nature of the subtle consciousness itself is something neutral. So it is possible to purify or eliminate all of these negative emotions. That basic nature we call Buddha-nature.
Hatred and negative emotions are beginningless; hey have no beginning, but there is an end.
Consciousness itself has no beginning and no end; of this we are certain."
~~ H.H. Dalai Lama, Healing Anger: The Power of Patience from a Buddhist Perspective.Geshe Thupten Jinpa (Trans.). www.snowlionpub.com
~~ H.H. Dalai Lama, The Path to Enlightenment . Glenn H. Mullin (Trans. and Ed.).
Q: How can we eliminate the deepest source of all unsatisfactory experience?
When someone whom I have helped
Or in whom I have placed great hopes
Mistreats me in extremely hurtful ways
May I regard him still as my precious teacher.
~~ Shantideva, verse 6, Guide to the Bodhisattva's Way of Life
Reconciliation with the Divine, Purification, Disclosure, Transformation
"It makes no sense to brood anxiously on the harmful actions we have committed in the past to the point where we become paralyzed. They are done, it is over.
If the person is a believer in God, the appropriate action is to find some means of reconciliationwith Him.
So far as Buddhist practice is concerned, there are various rites and practices for purification.
When the individual has no religious beliefs, however, it is surely a matter of Acknowledgingand accepting any negative feelings we may have in relation to our misdeeds and developing a sense of sorrow and regret for them.
But then, rather than stopping at mere sorrow and regret, it is important to use this as the basis for resolve, for a deep-seated commitment never again to harm others and to direct our actions all the more determinedly to the benefit of others.
The act of disclosure, or confession, of our negative actions to another--especially to someone we really respect and trust--will be found to be very helpful in this.
We are quite wrong if we merely acknowledge the gravity of our actions inwardly and then, instead of confronting our feelings, give up all hope and do nothing. This only compounds the error.
Above all, we should remember that as long as we retain the capacity Of concern for others, the potential for transformation remains."
~~ H. H. Dalai Lama. ( 1999). Ethics for the New Millennium. Riverhead Press.
Mistreatment in Relationships
~~ H.H. Dalai Lama. (2005). Lighting the Way. Geshe Thupten Jinpa (Trans.). www.snowlionpub.com
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Multiple Marriages
Three Marriages
Timing Agents Alienation for Psychological and Physical Death of Spouse
(First and subsequent divorces follow these same timing rules) Bhukti periods of:
Radix L-8 or 8th-from-Chandra =
Radix L-2 or 2nd-from-Chandra =
Material Dissolutionof legal marriage contract, splitting of assets, reversal of vows:
Formal Dissolution of the marital financial estatemay occur in period of L-7 = 12th-from-8th = attorneys, advisors, court arguments, restoration of balance..
Ketu= alienation and detachment:
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Shil-Ponde. (1939). Hindu Astrology Joytisha-Shastra. p 280: "If Ketu be in the seventh house at birth, the partner will dieduring [Ketu] period or be separatedfrom the native. He will suffer from urinary complains and some disease of the generative organs. He will encounter many obstacles to his career and will lose money because of the rivalry and competition of enemies." |
L-12
In consultation, clients who are experiencing a difficult bhukti of L-12 or Ketu may ask if their marriage is heading toward divorce. The answer will depend on several other conditions:
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L-6 / L-12 = Rashi-pati for "loss of agreement" = conflict, animosity and ill-will |
L-2 / L-8 =Rashi-pati for death of partner, or divorce |
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The total experience of divorce(social, emotional, physical, psychological, financial, familial, etc.) is defined primarily by the conditions of bhava-8and its lord.
'Du-sthana' means 'difficult' - but dushthamsha does not mean 'evil in any permanent sense.
'Randhra bhava is not an inherently "bad" house; rather it is the bhava which represents the cycle of destruction and rebirth.
Divorce is not an inherently evil event, Rather it is, socially and emotionally, 4a passage from one phase of life into the next. The conditions applying to bhava-8 will indicate whether the experience of divorce is part of the native's tantric path in this lifetime (for many, it is not); and if divorce is in the script, how will divorce affect the native? Divorce can be impoverishing or enriching, exhausting or exhilarating.
bhava-8 = "the joint assets of marriage". Upon dissolution of marriage, the location of L-8 = into which department of life the joint assets travel. (Also true of spouse's money in general.)
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Some Divorce Effects (must be combined with the natal conditions of bhava-8, 8th-from-Chandra, drishti etc.) |
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The divorce experience ( if indicated) shapes the native's personality. This native is prone toward sudden, forced changes in life - divorce or death of spouse being only one example. If L-8 = benefic, native is associated with privileged, secret, transformative processes. If L-8 = malefic, frequent accidents and shocks. Financial proceeds from settlement of joint accounts, if any, will fund development of the physical vehicle including intentional changes made to the body and brain. This native likes to change their appearance and social identity frequently. Karaka formultiple cycles. |
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proceeds of divorce or death of the first spouse are re-invested in the second marriage, or used to develop the traditions of the native's birth family. This is more typically a setup for widowhood from the 1st marriage and less frequently divorce. | |
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Divorce lord has entered the mentality house. Monies from the joint assets of marriage or divorce settlements may be invested in business communications, into the siblings, or into mental pursuits. Frequently the native fears more sudden changes, and purchases insurance policies as protection. | |
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Divorce lord has entered the sheltering house. Divorce if indicated advances the native's philosophical awareness and emotional stability in life, causing maturity and redoubled commitment to a good home life. The mother was likely also divorced, and she may provide valuable guidance to negotiating the changes.. | |
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Divorce lord has entered the creative intelligence house. Divorce (if indicated) benefits the native's career. Settlement funds may promote speculative investment such as stock market or financial backing of creative ventures. The divorce process stimulates the native's awareness of the cycle of life and death which promotes creative harmonization with that cycle. Exaggerated cycle of gains and losses, but if the graha = benefic, native will see that nothing at all is lost.Trouble for the oldest child who may have mysterious or difficult to diagnose conditions. Surgical procedures toward fertility, or upon the eldest child. |
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Divorce lord has entered the conflict house. Assets acquired through joint efforts of the spouses gets redirected to managing perpetual post-divorce conflict. The native is gainful financially after divorce but he must spend heavily for policing of the terms of the settlement; agreements are often broken. Distributing the marital estate is a contentious, conflicted process that may continue indefinitely. Lots of trouble getting a lasting agreement on rules for distributing joint assets. However the total effect of separating his assets from his spouse's control, despite the method of distribution being constantly in contention, is profitable financially. Continuous disagreements with and interference from the ex-spouse. Along with financial gainfulness , this conflict destroys creates ill-will toward and sometimes hidden illness. Ironically the native's post-divorce gainfulness is proportional to the level of conflict. | |
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upon divorce (which is likely with this yoga) joint assets of marriage will tend to remain with the spouse. The native may give up all claims to the joint assets, and go wandering. | |
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Assets of marriage tend to remain with the native after divorce. If strong and auspicious+ L-8 in swakshetra suggests that sudden turns of the cycle of birth and death such as widowhood or divorce may be both frequent and beneficial. Benefits from tax schemes. | |
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Divorce settlements are financially and religiously beneficial. The native's father may have been divorced, and he can offer valuable guidance to move through the process of re-negotiation of identity. Native is favored in child-custody discussions, and often receives any children produced by the marriage without a struggle. Good fortune through sudden, mysterious changes in general. | |
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Divorce affects public standing in a mixed way, usually tends toward a negative effect. Native may suffer some mental illness or pressure to rationalize his divorce. Financially neutral, tends toward slowly regaining lost investments over time. | |
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Divorce and life's difficult transformations in general will prove to be gainful. Proceeds from divorce may permit the native to purchase properties or vehicles, or fund formal education. Divorce also increases access to friends and to more diverse areas of the marketplace. (Spouse may have been a socially restrictive force.) | |
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No material profit from divorce settlement, but potentially good spiritual results. The process of identity loss can yield wisdom and calm, develop the imagination and stimulate creative coaching. After marriage identity loss, the native transfer identity to universal forces, which looking back will be realized as a great benefit although it was painful at the time of forced separation from the beloved. Makes a compassionate therapist. |
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self-righteous and feels entitled to keep their social standing. Generally resists divorce, would much rather seek extramarital romance. Strong ego attachment to dignity of married status. |
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healing and caretaking toward the ex-spouse and may continue an emotional relationship long after the legal relationship is ended. Sentimental, treats the spouse like their child. |
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ex-spouses develop a sibling relationships, verbal, good divorce agreements is Budha is auspicious |
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optimistic and expansive toward the divorce/renegotiation of identity process. If Guru is auspicious, much appreciation toward the ex-spouse and the native is well-treated in the divorce process; continuing collegiality après-divorce. |
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divorce may be gentle and sweet, with good will toward the ex's remarriage. |
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divorce delayed or denied, native has long life with minimal contributions to the joint assets pool from their spouse. Requires stability of social status. Spouse from a lesser social rank, but karmic obligation to remain in the relationship at least at the legal level. |
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if divorce occurs, the native is not involved in it. May not show up in court or respond to legal action. Extreme detachment from the process. |
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The stronger the karaka by rashi, drishti etc. the stronger its divorce-remarriage effects:
Shani in yuvati bhava
is not a divorce karaka but rather signifies determined hard-working plodding through an an arduous or disappointing marriage.
Gives determination to tolerate a emotionally or financially withholding, or low-caste or underperforming, spouse.
Depending on other "permission" graha, the native may not need to accept their marital oppression indefinitely.
This placement of Shani/7 typically shows sustained karma of a troublesome spouse for a long period, even if divorce does eventually occur when bhukti of a divorce graha (see table above) releases the karma..
Best results with an Older or conservative spouse. For social reasons, Shani in bhava-7 is generally an easier placement for a female.
Irreconcilable differences leading to physical separation frequently occur at milestones of 9-10, 14-15, 17-18, 27-28 -or- 29-30, 36-37, or 45-48 years.
Legal Divorce may occur some years after the physical separation, depending on the strength of the arudha lagna.
There are very few divorces after 45 years of marriage. (Yes, there are some, due to vimshottari dasha considerations not affected by these transit cycles.)
Any of these milestone "returns" that might occur simultaneously with bhukti of L-2 or L-8, can contribute considerable momentum to a divorce.
Psycho-emotional connections:
If these connections are not present, structural weakness in the marriage enhances likelihood of divorce:
Where we are lucky enough to have verified birth data for both spouses in a divorce case, it is almost always the case that one spouse will be "invisible" to the other and that this inability to recognize the other person's psycho-emotional reality is the underlying cause of "irreconcilable differences" in divorce.
Physical separation vs. legal divorce Timing of "divorce" most often means, he bhukti and gochara nodes in effect when couple physically separates with a clear intention to divorce. "Moving out" and "starting over" often happens years before a final legal settlement is reached. Divorce related events such as when the legal divorce petition is "filed" or when it is "final" do often follow quickly, and are completed within the initial physical separation bhukti.. These actions are less personal and more about social position, property, custody, etc. If the twelfth house (of illusions) has a very strong Arudha lagna -- which is to say there is a strong power of Public Illusion functioning in the person's life -- and he seventh house is also weak - the public admission of divorce (legal decree) may occur many years after moving-out. In real life the gap between an internally (spiritually/emotionally) weak marriage and the external, public appearance of a strong bond is often found in couples who are public figures, pillars of their community, who hold political or religious office, or otherwise have an instrumental need to maintain a convincing public "face" of continuing marriage long after they have separated. Should a person's radix chart display this combination of weak-7th with strong Upapada, they are not marked as a hypocrite or a compulsive liar. Usually the forces of public expectation are much stronger than the individual's own courage to be honest, and the consequences of public announcement of divorce too painful to one or both parties. Watch for the period of the lord of 2nd-from-Upapadato see the public announcement.
Upapada and Darapada: The Power of Public Illusion
Marriage is not only a private relationship, but it is also a public institution. Regardless of private truth, public perceptions can determine the marriage public status.
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Writings of Pt. Sanjay Rath at Shri Jagannath Vedic Center Jyotisha Pandit Sanjay Rath says: In fact, this will mean physical separation between the couple and marriage as such may continue to survive in this world of illusion. Thus people or outsiders will continue to consider the couple as husband and wife when they are physically separated. The second house from the Upapadagives the exact timing of the Actual breakage of marriage as everyone gets to know that this separation, divorce or death of spouse has occurred. The eighth house from Venuswill bring those people who will Activate this breakage of marriage either PHYSICALLY, OR ACTUALLY. ... If the lord of the second is associated with Darapada (A7) then the person had physical relationship before the marriage and this by itself can be a cause of break of the first marriage. In this manner, all other things can also be studied. |
2nd-from any house shows the saturation(death) of matters contained in that house. 7th house rules marriage, the first marriage in particular. Timing of "saturation point" when this life's karma in the matter of marriage relations is completed, is set by the scheduled period of the lord of 2nd-from-current-marriage.
Of course the regular dasha rotations of separation-causing house lords do not guarantee separation of marriage partners. Far from it!
Marriage as The core social and emotional bondof adult life, will remain secure by defaultunless significant destabilizing yogas affect Venus, Jupiter, or the marriage house(s).
Marriage is a powerful yoga! For most people, ego-attachment to the marriage partner's body/personality is second only to ego-attachment to one's own body/personality!
Only if other factors are leading to instability in marriage, do we go looking for the culprit "2nd-from" lord to indicate timing of separation.
The
spirit
will use any means at its disposal.
Divorce is a form of Death. The spouse has become spiritually unrecognizable, and the love bond is severed. Often divorce induces grief more profound than physical death. With bodily death one can acknowledge the guiding hand of destiny, but with divorce one may hold oneself ethically responsible for having lost the ability to recognize the soul of the once beloved. Therefore divorce can be emotionally and spiritually as traumatic as death.
From a karmic point of view, divorce is the result of a marriage contract having become saturated and completed. In these dark days of Kali Yuga, when our experience of the "natural" is "iron-ically" reversed, divorce is natural and necessary separation experience that completes a specific karmic agenda.
The social and emotional experience of divorce is often profoundly painful, but like most forms of dis-enchantment, the divorce experience can willingly serve the spirit's hunger for karmic rectification.
Depending on the individual's level of consciousness, the divorce experience, of alienation, separation, often disappointment or even despair, may serve as a valuable spiritual exercise, preparing the aware person for the inescapable separation experience which awaits them at death.
he difficulty with divorce lies not in the natural fact that the cycle of birth and death moves constantly forward, but rather with social and personal resistance to this natural cycle. A persistent social condemnation of Divorce -- even in the face of the " 50%" reality - is rooted in our hopeless and puerile resistance to Death.
Those who fear the great cycles will fear the small cycles. Therefore it is recommended to adopt a larger view of the cycle of birth and death. Allow your fear of all these little changes to melt away.
Traditionally it is recommended to stay with a difficult partnership as a form of religious austerity -- unless and until the marriage begins to cause more harm than good. It will be useful to see which distasteful aspects of oneself the now-abhorrent partner is mirroring, in order to gain self-knowledge, neutrality -- and release petty control. However after that summary knowledge is gained, divorce may naturally -- often compassionately -- be sought.
Divorce can be forecast from the astrological charts. Unfortunately, he who cannot admit the transient nature of all reality, will prefer to shoot the messenger! So please do not ask for astrological advice on this subject unless you really want to know.
If yuvati bhava is afflicted by separative planets like Saturn and Mars , the person may experience multiple marriages within a single lifetime. The "yoke " binding two separate persons in marriage is weakened by past-life karma, and may be broken repeatedly. The yoga of Mars afflicting the rashi seventh house OR seventh-from-Moon is called kuja-dosha.
Kuja dosha tells us that there will be an adversarial situation in the first marriage along with a strong sexual instinct. Kuja dosha suggests a pattern of impatience with the intimate partner, leading to many, relatively short, relationships. There are weaker and stronger versions of kuja dosha, so if you have this condition don't panic - it can be corrected through awareness!
Saturn affecting yuvati may show loneliness, with few relationships or none. Rahu/Ketu on the 1-7 axis, or afflicting the 7th Lord, may give long absences, multiple partners, obsessions, and cultural conflicts.
Material separation through divorce alienates the partners only on the temporary material plane of the current incarnation. It does not alienate the two souls eternally. Actually, the separation will be caused by past-life karma and will be precisely what each soul needs in order to advance its wisdom in the current lifetime. Yes, we live in Kali Yuga - but evolution proceeds. Two people who are divorcing each other are providing each other an important spiritual service. whether they recognize that or not.
One of the greatest benefits of death and divorce (along with other types of separation-induced suffering) is that the person may, if blessed with sufficient consciousness, use their anger and dissatisfaction as jet-fuel to propel them out of normal reality, into divine reality. The great Saints have all suffered terrible grief. However, they didn't get stuck in it. They weren't attached to their frustration. They used their social "failure" as a reason to quest higher. And shortly thereafter they were glad they did!
Nevertheless, separations of all kinds cause suffering, and divorce like death often produces suffering of the most acute type. Not only is the person suffering emotional loneliness and invalidationwithin the broken partnership, but they are often simultaneously being punished by society at large. Because society values stability more than any other virtue, those who quake the pillars can expect to be reprimanded!
Compassion demands that we take special care to review the esoteric structure of karmic cycles when discussing divorce and death. It is important to observe neutrally, with an objective eye. The spirit will use any means at its disposal to advance its quest for wisdom. If death, miscarriage, divorce, bankruptcy, foreclosure, or other apparent losses are required to meet the spirit's agenda, so be it.
We know in advance that the fruits of separation-caused sufferings are wisdom, freedom, and bliss. We observe Saturn, Mars, and "evil" house Lords doing their karmic duty. After pruning, the tree bears sweet fruits.
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B.V. Raman.
A Catechism of
Astrology , Q. 111 "Q: From which house or planet do you predict a second marriage? A: |
Shukra karaka for spouse?
Mainly for male nativity.
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He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men; yet they cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end. -- Ecclesiastes 3:11 |
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