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When marital conflict energy gets high and stays high: Vimshottari dasha timing sequences for the 12 lagnas
"1377, from Old French: divorce, from Latin. divortium "separation, dissolution of marriage," from divertere "to separate, leave one's husband, turn aside" (see divert)."
~~ www.etymonline.com
"When someone whom I have helped
Or in whom I have placed great hopes
Mistreats me in extremely hurtful ways
May I regard him still as my precious teacher."
~~ Shantideva, Verse 6, Guide to the Bodhisattva's Way of Life
Jyotisha Timing Agents for Alienation
Major opportunities for alienation are Bhukti periods of:
Ketu = karaka for disconnection, disorientation, uncoupling (explained in the myth of Rahu-Ketu)
radix L-12 =
12th-from-1st = loss or detachment from personal identity (foreign travel, seclusion, etc.)
6th-from-7th = spouse behaves like an enemy, conflict with spouse
radix L-6 =
12th-from-7th = loss of marital agreement, loss of balance, conflict, loss of marital identity
6th-from-1st = one feels animosity, initiates conflict, experiences ill-will & imbalance, attracts enemies.
Alienation does not itself signify divorce. Usually there are additional marriage-supporting factors in the nativities of the couple, which will sustain them through difficult periods of their respective L-6 and L-12.
However, if persistent and unresolved, the L-6/L-23 loss of agreement and identity resulting in alienation is the first step toward divorce.
Jyotisha Timing Agents for Divorce:
(First and subsequent divorces follow these same timing rules)
Bhukti periods of:
Ketu = karaka for permanent separations (not death! the couple are perpetually looking at each other across the sky). When Ketu occupies domain-8, great emotional detachment from the divorce process - it occurs, but neither native nor spouse are much impacted. If L-9 = communications in marriage = beneficial, the partners remain in sibling-style communication even after divorce.
Rahu, especially if Rahu's lord = L-2 or L-8. When Rahu occupies domain-8, great drama of passion and betrayal in the divorce process. Native may receive a surprisingly large divorce payment if Rahu's lord is favorable.
Divorce is so cataclysmic and identity-transforming that a transit of gochara Rahu-Ketu to key axes in the nativity is usually required also
Radix L-8 =
8th-from-1st = sudden, forced changes in one's own life - such as surprise inheritance, death of spouse, emergency surgery, or natural catastrophe
2nd-from-7th = under severe astrological conditions, this bhukti can indicate the death of the spouse. More often in younger years, during the long-lived modern age, L-8 can indicate a spouse-initiated divorce.
If L-8 is strong, spouse's family (one's in-laws) and spouse's assets become powerful actors on life's stage
if L-8 is harsh, the spouse may feel that no further marital interaction is possible because the relationship is "dead"
Radix L-2 =
8th-from-7th = sudden, forced changes in the spouse's life. Divorce during a period of the native's L-2 is frequently initiated by the native. The spouse feels the L-8 effect.
2nd-from-1st = bhukti of L-2 indicates a return to the native's own family (having removed obligations to the spouse's family), a return to one's own wealth and values, family customs, language/speech habits etc. One determines to seek a new spouse "more aligned with one's own values".
if L-2 is strong and beneficial, the second spouse appears quickly, through the auspices of one's own family. The 2nd spouse typically appears in the period of 2nd-from-Shukra, or of 2nd navamsha, but there are other conditions also.
If L-2 is troubled by malefics, the family or its values do not assist the native's transformation from first marriage to second marriage. Native-initiated divorce is not accepted by the family. Finding a second spouse may be difficult or delayed. However, when & if the second marriage is accomplished, difficult graha affecting domain-2 indicate karmic effort regarding the 2nd spouse.
Formal Dissolution of legal marriage contract
would most likely occur in period of L-6.
Depending on the nature of the break-up and the radix lagna of the nativity, a formal dissolution of marriage might occur quite some time after the psychic "death" which tells the native or the spouse that the marriage is finished. (See the table of lagnas for divorce.)
Formal Dissolution of the marital financial estate may occur in period of L-7 = 12th-from-8th = attorneys, advisors, court arguments, restoration of balance..
Gochara Rahu/Ketu will return to one of these marriage lagnas:
nodal axis in radix
nodal axis in navamsha
lagna axis of radix
lagna axis of navamsha
axis of radix Moon
Ketu= alienation & detachment:
If L-12 is also lord of Ketu, the native is personally alienated or disconnected from the matters of the house in which Ketu resides.
If L-6 is also the lord of Ketu, disagreements with others are not acknowledged, the native acts hostile toward others but does not see his own role in creating conflict
If Shani is Ketu's lord, somber neutrality & detachment applies to the matters of the house in which Ketu resides.
If Ketu is yuti Soma, in any domain, the native is emotional detached from life. (The native may be a successful person with a good home and family; but their underlying emotional connection is weak.)
If Ketu occupies domain-7 in either radix or navamsha, the native is disconnected and alienated in marriage. (There may be plenty of external indications of success, but the interior of the marriage relationship is disconnected.) Sometimes the spouse is a spiritual figure, but normally the partner is inaccessible emotionally, and marriage is alienated.
If Ketu occupies domain-2, the same alienation (cultural, religious, emotional, physical) with the second spouse. And the same repeating attempts to keep connecting. (See the Myth of Ketu.)
"If Ketu be in the seventh house at birth, the partner will die during [Ketu] period or be separated from the native.
He will suffer from urinary complains and some disease of the generative organs.
He will encounter many obstacles to his career and will lose money because of the rivalry and competition of enemies."
~~ Shil-Ponde. (1939). Hindu Astrology Joytisha-Shastra. p 280.
L-12
If L-12 is also a benefic, (natural or temporal) the alienation experience may have some highly positive aspects, such as the intrigue of foreign travel or long periods of fruitful seclusion in a research or meditation sanctuary space. Alienation can be a good and necessary thing for the accomplishment of certain goals. Typically the period of L-12 causes the native to leave their own country or habitual social culture during the bhukti.
If L-12 is also a malefic, there is physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual imprisonment. (For Vrishabha and Dhanau lagna, the alienating behavior of the spouse may be aggressive.)
For marriage, the period of L-12 as 6th-from-7th does give alienation from the spouse.
If L-12 is a benefic, the reasons for alienation may be good and ultimately beneficial, such as the spouse is working on profitable foreign business; or the spouse is in seclusion for professional reasons, for research or mediation; or the spouse is taking valuable medical treatment.
If L-12 is malefic, the alienation is bitter and feels effortful (karmic).
In consultation, clients who are experiencing a difficult bhukti of L-12 or Ketu may ask if their marriage is heading toward divorce. The answer will depend on several other conditions:
overall condition of domain-7 and 7th navamsha. A strong domain-7 will withstand the siege of all divorce factors, including periods of L-12,
if the spouse in question is 2nd or subsequent marriage, check the lagnas for those marriages
If L-12 is benefic, there may be genuine benefits coming from the alienation. Benefic L-12 may not be a harbinger of later divorce unless there is a connection between Ketu and L-12.
If L-12 is malefic and the client is reporting a rough time, check the overall strength of L-12 in D-1 and D-9. Check also the next occurrence of vimshottari bhukti of L-2 or L-8, which are the karakas for divorce.
Lagna
L-6 / L-12 = Rashi-pati for "loss of agreement" = conflict, animosity & ill-will
L-2 / L-8 =Rashi-pati for death of partner, or divorce
Budha, Guru
Shukra, Kuja
Shukra, Kuja
Budha, Guru
Shukra, Kuja
Chandra, Shani
Budha, Guru
Surya, Shani
Chandra, Shani
Budha, Guru
Surya, Shani
Shukra, Kuja
Budha, Guru
Shukra, Kuja
Shukra, Kuja
Budha, Guru
Shukra, Kuja
Chandra, Shani
Budha, Guru
Surya, Shani
Surya, Shani
Budha, Guru
Surya, Shani
Shukra, Kuja
When marital conflict energy gets high and stays high: Vimshottari dasha timing sequences for the 12 lagnas
for Mesha lagna, Vimshottari period of the conflict-trigger L-6 Budha, is followed immediately the "I give up" Ketu period, then by the divorce-trigger L-2 Shukra period. Ketu does gives time for stabilization or cool-down between the L-6 irritation and the L-8 "dead to me" experience, but Ketu can also exacerbate separative tendencies. If L-6, Ketu, and L-2 are strong, Mesha can experience a divorce during this bhukti sequence. Also applies to Mesha Chandra. (This sequence cannot occur in Ketu mahadasha or Shukra mahadasha.)
For Vrishabha lagna, the period of L-12 Kuja signals imbalance & aggressive disagreeableness for the spouse also gives withdrawal for the native. Kuja bhukti is followed by Rahu bhukti, which can enflame the passions & generate some acting-out. After Rahu's wild time comes the period of L-8 Guru. Check the strength of the grahas involved. (This sequence cannot occur in Rahu mahadasha or Guru mahadasha.)
For Simha lagna, periods of L-6 Shani can be especially taxing, and they are followed inexorably by periods of L-2 Budha. Unless supported by benefics, Simha has a notoriously difficult time in marriage for this and other reasons.
Thula has the reverse sequence to Mesha: Vimshottari period of the detachment-trigger L-12 Budha, is followed immediately by the divorce-trigger L-8 Shukra. Little time for recovery of engagement between the withdrawing of L-12 and the L-8 "dead to me" experience which dissolves the union. If L-12 and L-8 are both strong, Thula can experience a divorce during this bhukti sequence. Also applies to Thula Chandra.
Vrischika has the reverse sequence to Vrishabha, with identical results: L-6 spousal animosity from Kuja bhukti is followed by Rahu bhukti, which can enflame the passions and generate some acting-out. After Rahu's wild time comes period of L-2 Guru. Check the strength of the grahas involved.
Maraka lagna, period of L-12 Guru for spouse's illness or animosity, is followed by period of L-2 Shani for divorce. Shani is a natural malefic so this setup is worth watching during the relevant Vimshottari periods.
Similarly for Kumbha lagna, period of L-12 Shani period for spouse's illness or animosity, is followed by period of L-8 Budha for divorce. Budha is not a natural malefic like Shani but Budha can still cause trouble!
Mithuna, Karka, Kanya, Dhanau, and Meena lagna have no back-to back conflict-divorce periods.
The total experience of divorce (social, emotional, physical, psychological, financial, familial, etc.) is defined primarily by the conditions of domain-8 and its lord.
If L-8 is an auspicious graha, divorce may be amicable or gainful.
If L-8 is a troubled graha, expect difficulties.
If L-8 is a neutral graha (Budha in favorable rashis for Vrishabha, Kumbha lagnas) divorce may give a sense of neither loss nor gain, but simply moving on through the cycle of life
Grahas in occupation of domain-8 suggest involvement with secret matters. The scope of domain-8 includes, but is not limited to, secret extramarital sexual relationships.
'Du-sthana' means 'difficult' - but dusthana does not mean 'evil in any permanent sense. 'Randhra bhava is not an inherently "bad" house; rather it is the bhava which represents the turning of the cycle of life & death. Divorce is not an inherently evil event, Rather it is, socially and emotionally, 4a passage from one phase of life into the next.
The conditions applying to domain-8 will indicate whether the experience of divorce is part of the native's tantric path in this lifetime (for many, it is not); and if divorce is in the script, how will divorce affect the native? Divorce can be impoverishing or enriching, exhausting or exhilarating.
Domain-8 = "the joint assets of marriage".
Upon dissolution of marriage, the location of L-8 = into which department of life the joint assets travel. (Also true of spouse's money in general.)
When L-8 occupies this domain
Some Divorce Effects
(must be combined with the natal conditions of Domain-8, 8th-from-Chandra, drishti etc.)
The divorce experience ( if indicated) shapes the native's personality. This native is prone toward sudden, forced changes in life - divorce or death of spouse being only one example. If L-8 = benefic, native is associated with privileged, secret, transformative processes. If L-8 = malefic, frequent accidents and shocks.
Financial proceeds from settlement of joint accounts, if any, will fund development of the physical vehicle including intentional changes made to the body and brain. This native likes to change their appearance and social identity frequently. Karaka for multiple cycles.
proceeds of divorce or death of the first spouse are re-invested in the second marriage, or used to develop the traditions of the native's birth family. This is more typically a setup for widowhood from the 1st marriage & less frequently divorce.
Divorce lord has entered the mentality house. Monies from the joint assets of marriage or divorce settlements may be invested in business communications, into the siblings, or into mental pursuits. Frequently the native fears more sudden changes, and purchases insurance policies as protection.
Divorce lord has entered the sheltering house. Divorce if indicated advances the native's philosophical awareness & emotional stability in life, causing maturity and redoubled commitment to a good home life.
The mother was likely also divorced, and she may provide valuable guidance to negotiating the changes..
Divorce lord has entered the creative intelligence house. Divorce (if indicated) benefits the native's career.
Settlement funds may promote speculative investment such as stock market or financial backing of creative ventures. The divorce process stimulates the native's awareness of the cycle of life & death which promotes creative harmonization with that cycle.
Exaggerated cycle of gains and losses, but if the graha = benefic, native will see that nothing at all is lost. Trouble for the oldest child who may have mysterious or difficult to diagnose conditions. Surgical procedures toward fertility, or upon the eldest child.
Divorce lord has entered the conflict house. Assets acquired through joint efforts of the spouses gets redirected to managing perpetual post-divorce conflict. The native is gainful financially after divorce but he must spend heavily for policing of the terms of the settlement; agreements are often broken. Distributing the marital estate is a contentious, conflicted process that may continue indefinitely.
Lots of trouble getting a lasting agreement on rules for distributing joint assets. However the total effect of separating his assets from his spouse's control, despite the method of distribution being constantly in contention, is profitable financially. Continuous disagreements with and interference from the ex-spouse.
Along with financial gainfulness, this conflict destroys creates ill-will toward and sometimes hidden illness. Ironically the native's post-divorce gainfulness is proportional to the level of conflict.
upon divorce (which is likely with this yoga) joint assets of marriage will tend to remain with the spouse. The native may give up all claims to the joint assets, and go wandering.
Assets of marriage tend to remain with the native after divorce. If strong and auspicious, L-8 in swakshetra suggests that sudden turns of the cycle of birth and death such as widowhood or divorce may be both frequent and beneficial. Benefits from tax schemes.
Divorce settlements are financially & religiously beneficial. The native's father may have been divorced, and he can offer valuable guidance to move through the process of re-negotiation of identity.
Native is favored in child-custody discussions, and often receives any children produced by the marriage without a struggle. Good fortune through sudden, mysterious changes in general.
Divorce affects public standing in a mixed way, usually tends toward a negative effect. Native may suffer some mental illness or pressure to rationalize his divorce. Financially neutral, tends toward slowly regaining lost investments over time.
Divorce & life's difficult transformations in general will prove to be gainful. Proceeds from divorce may permit the native to purchase properties or vehicles, or fund formal education. Divorce also increases access to friends and to more diverse areas of the marketplace. (Spouse may have been a socially restrictive force.)
No material profit from divorce settlement, but potentially good spiritual results. The process of identity loss can yield wisdom & calm, develop the imagination & stimulate creative coaching.
After marriage identity loss, the native transfer identity to universal forces, which looking back will be realized as a great benefit although it was painful at the time of forced separation from the beloved. Makes a compassionate therapist.
Grahas in domain-8: Effects on Divorce
(if multiple karakas in house-8, results of each karaka have to be combined and rebalanced with the other occupying karakas)
self-righteous & feels entitled to keep their social standing. Generally resists divorce, would much rather seek extramarital romance. Strong ego attachment to dignity of married status.
healing & caretaking toward the ex-spouse and may continue an emotional relationship long after the legal relationship is ended. Sentimental, treats the spouse like their child.
divorce is competitive, a fight
ex-spouses develop a sibling relationships, verbal, good divorce agreements is Budha is auspicious
optimistic & expansive toward the divorce/renegotiation of identity process. If Guru is auspicious, much appreciation toward the ex-spouse and the native is well-treated in the divorce process; continuing collegiality après-divorce.
divorce may be gentle & sweet, with good will toward the ex's remarriage.
divorce delayed or denied, native has long life with minimal contributions to the joint assets pool from their spouse. Requires stability of social status. Spouse from a lesser social rank, but karmic obligation to remain in the relationship at least at the legal level.
crazy & unpredictable turn of events in divorce. May divorce and remarry the same person twice or even thrice.
if divorce occurs, the native is not involved in it. May not show up in court or respond to legal action. Extreme detachment from the process.
Karakas for Divorce/Multiple Marriages:
The stronger the karaka by rashi, drishti etc. the stronger its divorce-remarriage effects:
Surya in house-7 (self-righteousness in marriage)
Surya in house-5 (native craves romantic attention)
Rahu or Ketu in house-7
Rahu/Ketu yuti radix L-7, or (to a lesser power)
Rahu-Ketu yuti navamsha L-1 or L-7 indicates craving for new partners, frequent remarriages
L-7 in dusthana
mutual drishti of enemy grahas in navamsha 1/7 axis
Guru and Rahu drishti upon L-7 or Shukra
Shani in yuvati bhava
is not a divorce karaka but rather signifies longevity in an arduous or disappointing marriage.
Gives determination to tolerate a emotionally or financially withholding, or low-caste or underperforming, spouse.
Depending on other "permission" graha, the native may not need to accept their marital oppression indefinitely.
This placement of Shani/7 typically shows karma of a troublesome spouse for a long period, even if divorce does eventually occur when bhukti of a divorce graha (see table above) releases the karma..
Irreconcilable differences leading to physical separation frequently occur at milestones of 9-10, 14-15, 17-18, 27-28 -or- 29-30, 36-37, or 45-48 years.
Legal Divorce may occur some years after the physical separation, depending on the strength of the arudha lagna.
There are very few divorces after 45 years of marriage. (Yes, there are some, due to vimshottari dasha considerations not affected by these transit cycles.)
Rahu cycles are 9, 18, 27, 36, 54, and 63 years.
Shani cycles are durations of 14-15, 29-30, or 44-45 years.
Any of these milestone "returns" that might occur simultaneously with bhukti of L-2 or L-8, can contribute considerable momentum to a divorce.
Psycho-emotional connections:
If these connections are not present, structural weakness in the marriage enhances likelihood of divorce:
her radix Moon axis should matches either his navamsha nodal axis, or his navamsha nodal axis
her radix Moon axis should matches either her navamsha nodal axis, or her navamsha nodal axis
for non-traditional committed unions, partner-1 must match partner-2 as above
if one's radix Moon is not "matched" to the navamsha lagna or nodes (or possibly, navamsha Moon) of the other partner, one remains "emotionally invisible" to the partner.
Where we are lucky enough to have verified birth data for both spouses in a divorce case, it is almost always the case that one spouse will be "invisible" to the other and that this inability to recognize the other person's psycho-emotional reality is the underlying cause of "irreconcilable differences" in divorce.
Physical separation vs. legal divorce
Timing of "divorce" most often means, the bhukti & gochara nodes in effect when couple physically separates with a clear intention to divorce.
"Moving out" and "starting over" often happens years before a final legal settlement is reached.
Divorce related events such as when the legal divorce petition is "filed" or when it is "final" do often follow quickly, and are completed within the initial physical separation bhukti..
These actions are less personal and more about social position, property, custody, etc.
If the twelfth house (of illusions) has a very strong Arudha lagna -- which is to say there is a strong power of Public Illusion functioning in the person's life -- and the seventh house is also weak - the public admission of divorce (legal decree) may occur many years after moving-out.
In real life the gap between an internally (spiritually/emotionally) weak marriage and the external, public appearance of a strong bond is often found in couples who are public figures, pillars of their community, who hold political or religious office, or otherwise have an instrumental need to maintain a convincing public "face" of continuing marriage long after they have separated.
Should a person's radix chart display this combination of weak-7th with strong Upapada, they are not marked as a hypocrite or a compulsive liar. Usually the forces of public expectation are much stronger than the individual's own courage to be honest, and the consequences of public announcement of divorce too painful to one or both parties. Watch for the period of the lord of 2nd-from-Upapada to see the public announcement.
Upapada & Darapada: The Power of Public Illusion
Marriage is not only a private relationship, but it is also a public institution. Regardless of private truth, public perceptions can determine the marriage public status.
A12 = arudha lagna of house-12 = upapada
A7 = arudha lagna of house-7 = darapada
Jyotisha Pandit Sanjay Rath says:
In fact if the Upapada (A12) is strong, but the 7th house becomes weak and 8th house effects are felt, this will mean physical separation between the couple and marriage as such may continue to survive in this world of illusion.
Thus people or outsiders will continue to consider the couple as husband & wife when they are physically separated.
The second house from the Upapada gives the exact timing of the actual breakage of marriage as everyone gets to know that this separation, divorce or death of spouse has occurred.
The eighth house from Venus will bring those people who will activate this breakage of marriage either PHYSICALLY, OR ACTUALLY.
...If the lord of the second is associated with Darapada (A7) then the person had physical relationship before the marriage & this by itself can be a cause of break of the first marriage. In this manner all other things can also be studied.
--Writings of Pt. Sanjay Rath at Shri Jagannath Vedic Center
2nd-from any house shows the saturation (death) of matters contained in that house. 7th house rules marriage, the first marriage in particular. Timing of "saturation point" when this life's karma in the matter of marriage relations is completed, is set by the scheduled period of the lord of 2nd-from-current-marriage.
Physical separation from the first spouse whether by death or divorce is seen in the bhukti of lord of 2nd-from-7th, randhra bhava. [After age 32, also consider 8th-from-Moon.]
Physical separation from the second spouse whether by death or divorce is seen in the bhukti of lord of 2nd-from-2nd, sahaja bhava. [After age 32, also consider 3rd-from-Moon.]
Physical separation from the third spouse whether by death or divorce is seen in the bhukti of lord of 2nd-from-9th, karma bhava. [After age 32, also consider 10th-from-Moon.]
Of course the regular dasha rotations of separation-causing house lords do not guarantee separation of marriage partners. Far from it!
Marriage as the core social and emotional bond of adult life, will remain secure by default unless significant destabilizing yogas affect Venus, Jupiter, or the marriage house(s).
Marriage is a powerful yoga! For most people, ego-attachment to the marriage partner's body/personality is second only to ego-attachment to one's own body/personality!
Only if other factors are leading to instability in marriage, do we go looking for the culprit "2nd-from" lord to indicate timing of separation.
The spirit will use any means at its disposal.
Divorce is a form of Death. The spouse has become spiritually unrecognizable, and the love bond is severed. Often divorce induces grief more profound than physical death. With bodily death one can acknowledge the guiding hand of destiny, but with divorce one may hold oneself ethically responsible for having lost the ability to recognize the soul of the once beloved. Therefore divorce can be emotionally and spiritually as traumatic as death.
From a karmic point of view, divorce is the result of a marriage contract having become saturated and completed. In these dark days of Kali Yuga, when our experience of the "natural" is "iron-ically" reversed, divorce is natural and necessary separation experience that completes a specific karmic agenda.
The social & emotional experience of divorce is often profoundly painful, but like most forms of dis-enchantment, the divorce experience can willingly serve the spirit's hunger for karmic rectification. Depending on the individual's level of consciousness, the divorce experience, of alienation, separation, often disappointment or even despair, may serve as a valuable spiritual exercise, preparing the aware person for the inescapable separation experience which awaits them at death.
The difficulty with divorce lies not in the natural fact that the cycle of birth and death moves constantly forward, but rather with social and personal resistance to this natural cycle. A persistent social condemnation of Divorce -- even in the face of the "50%" reality - is rooted in our hopeless and puerile resistance to Death.
Those who fear the great cycles will fear the small cycles. Therefore it is recommended to adopt a larger view of the cycle of birth and death. Allow your fear of all these little changes to melt away.
Traditionally it is recommended to stay with a difficult partnership as a form of religious austerity -- unless and until the marriage begins to cause more harm than good. It will be useful to see which distasteful aspects of oneself the now-abhorrent partner is mirroring, in order to gain self-knowledge, neutrality -- and release petty control. However after that summary knowledge is gained, divorce may naturally -- often compassionately -- be sought.
Divorce can be forecast from the astrological charts. Unfortunately, he who cannot admit the transient nature of all reality, will prefer to shoot the messenger! So please do not ask for astrological advice on this subject unless you really want to know.
If yuvati bhava is afflicted by separative planets like Saturn and Mars, the person may experience multiple marriages within a single lifetime. The "yoke" binding two separate persons in marriage is weakened by past-life karma, and may be broken repeatedly. The yoga of Mars afflicting the rashi seventh house OR seventh-from-Moon is called kuja-dosha. Kuja dosha tells us that there will be an adversarial situation in the first marriage along with a strong sexual instinct. Kuja dosha suggests a pattern of impatience with the intimate partner, leading to many, relatively short, relationships. There are weaker and stronger versions of kuja dosha, so if you have this condition don't panic - it can be corrected through awareness!
Saturn affecting yuvati may show loneliness, with few relationships or none. Rahu/Ketu on the 1-7 axis, or afflicting the 7th Lord, may give long absences, multiple partners, obsessions, and cultural conflicts.
Material separation through divorce alienates the partners only on the temporary material plane of the current incarnation. It does not alienate the two souls eternally. Actually, the separation will be caused by past-life karma and will be precisely what each soul needs in order to advance its wisdom in the current lifetime. Yes, we live in Kali Yuga - but evolution proceeds. Two people who are divorcing each other are providing each other an important spiritual service. whether they recognize that or not.
One of the greatest benefits of death and divorce (along with other types of separation-induced suffering) is that the person may, if blessed with sufficient consciousness, use their anger and dissatisfaction as jet-fuel to propel them out of normal reality, into divine reality. The great Saints have all suffered terrible grief. However, they didn't get stuck in it. They weren't attached to their frustration. They used their social "failure" as a reason to quest higher. And shortly thereafter they were glad they did!
Nevertheless, separations of all kinds cause suffering, and divorce like death often produces suffering of the most acute type. Not only is the person suffering emotional loneliness and invalidation within the broken partnership, but they are often simultaneously being punished by society at large. Because society values stability more than any other virtue, those who quake the pillars can expect to be reprimanded!
Compassion demands that we take special care to review the esoteric structure of karmic cycles when discussing divorce and death. It is important to observe neutrally, with an objective eye. The spirit will use any means at its disposal to advance its quest for wisdom. If death, miscarriage, divorce, bankruptcy, foreclosure, or other apparent losses are required to meet the spirit's agenda, so be it.
We know in advance that the fruits of separation-caused sufferings are wisdom, freedom, and bliss. We observe Saturn, Mars, and "evil" house Lords doing their karmic duty. After pruning, the tree bears sweet fruits.
B.V. Raman says:
Q:
From which house or planet do you predict a second marriage?
A:
Venus & the 7th house indicate marriage.
If you are sure that the first will either die or separate from the husband, take the planets in the 7th or associated with Venus.
The strongest will determine the second wife.
In a female horoscope, take Saturn in the place of Venus (Prasna Marga).
Some authors want us to read the 11th house & this may also be adopted.
~~ B.V. Raman, A Catechism of Astrology, Q. 111
In my own practice, I find the above rules unhelpful. Many Western clients have three or more marriages. Frequently in nativities of multiple-marriage persons, domain-7 is empty, and neither Shani nor Shukra have co-tenants.
In my practice (at least so far!) I find that L-2 is the best significator of the 2nd marriage partner male or female, and that most public aspects of the 2nd spouse's life can be read from domain-2 as lagna. (e.g., career of 2nd spouse = 10th-from-2nd, = native's domain-11).
L-9 = significator of 3rd spouse; L-4 = 4th spouse; L-11 = 5th spouse; etc.
Marriage and all remarriages will follow the same timing rules:
Bhukti of one of these classic marriage-makers:
Shani, Shukra, Rahu or Ketu
navamsha L-7 or navamsha L-1
Rahu/Ketu transit through one of these axes
D-1 or D-9 nodal axis
D-1 or D-9 lagna axis
D-1 or D-9 axis of Moon
What to expect in the next spouse:
Public characteristics of the next-in-line spouse are seen through the following lagnas:
1st spouse lagna = house=7
2nd spouse lagna = house-2
3rd spouse lagna = house-9
4th spouse lagna = house-4
Determine each spouse's previous marriages, children, relatives, and business affairs by counting geometrically from the lagna of the relevant spouse-house.
E.g.,
career of 1st spouse = 10th-from-7th = bandhu bhava [also see the radix lord of the 4th navamsha]
career of 2nd spouse = 10th-from-2nd = labha bhava [also see the radix lord of the 11th navamsha]
career of 3rd spouse = 10th-from-9th = ripu bhava [also see the radix lord of the 6th navamsha]
(previous) children of 2nd spouse = 5th-from-2nd = ari bhava [also see the radix lord of the 6th navamsha]
(previous) spouse of 2nd spouse = 7th-from-2nd = randhra bhava [also see the radix lord of the 8th navamsha]
What am I trying to learn psycho-spiritually via the mirror of this marriage?
1-7 axis of navamsha =core dynamic of marriage (i.e., what you see about yourself in the mirror of the first marriage)
Typically the lord of the 7th navamsha, as He behaves in radix, describes the spouse while the lord of 1st navamsha, as He behaves in radix, describes oneself. However these classic roles can easily be reversed, with Self being more the L-7 and Other being more the L-1. Because marriage is inherently interactive the spouses can switch roles during the course of the marriage also. What matters is, do you see the repeating pattern in the mirror?
for first marriage, radix L-7's navamsha lord, as He behaves in radix
e.g., if Vrishabha rashi owns radix-7, find Shukra's navamsha. Then find the lord of Shukra's navamsha in radix.
You can see your matching energy which attracts you (for good or evil) to this spouse. The matching energy is a dormant part of yourself which you will only see through the mirror of the spouse's behavior. The spouse will relate to other people in different ways, but your spouse will relate to you in a way that specifically
for second marriage, radix L-2's navamsha lord, as He behaves in radix
e.g., if radix dhana bhava = Dhanau, find Guru's navamsha. Then find that navamsha lord in radix. The radix graha will show what part of *yourself* you are seeking to develop within the 2nd-marriage partnership.
for third marriage, radix L-9's navamsha lord, as He behaves in radix
e.g., if radix dharma bhava = Karka, find Chandra's navamsha. Then find that navamsha lord in radix. The radix graha will show what part of *yourself* you are seeking to develop within the 3rd-marriage partnership.
How to Profile Future Spouses -
For all marriages, the psycho-emotional experience of relating to the spouse should be measured from Chandra lagna.
To appreciate the deeper psycho-emotional impact of the marriage partnerships, read the emotional character of marriages as
7th-from-Moon (marriage-1),
2nd-from-Moon (marriage-2),
9th-from-Moon (marriage-3)
11th-from-Moon (marriage-4)
and so forth.
Be sure to examine any graha which might occupy these houses. Graha's in the domain indicated will characterize the emotional tenor of marriages.
analytical (Budha)
constrained or disciplined (Shani),
pleasure-loving and indulgent (Shukra),
competitive (Kuja),
expansive and inclusive (Guru),
withdrawn and disconnected (Ketu),
passionate and desiring experiences (Rahu)
Also the house lords should be considered - a full analysis of this relative-to-Chandra house is required.
THEN, have a look at the angle formed between radix Chandra and the appropriate marriage house.
marriage-1 = the angle formed by the distance between radix Chandra and domain-7
marriage-2 = the angle formed by the distance between radix Chandra and domain-2
marriage-3 = the angle formed by the distance between radix Chandra and domain-9
marriage-4 = the angle formed by the distance between radix Chandra and domain-11
and so forth
How do you feel about the prospects of this forthcoming marriage? Is there a graha or cluster of graha's in this house? The distance between Chandra and the marriage-house will reveal a match between the spouse and another member of your family or community environment.
E.g., distance between Chandra and domain-2 for second marriage = 3/9, with the 2nd-marriage house being 9th-from-Chandra. Surely there will be strong emotional parallels between the 2nd spouse and one's father. If there are graha in this house, there is a historic pattern of strong interactions (positive or negative) with the father which will color the relationship to the 2nd spouse.
Example - distance between Chandra and the marriage house(s)
Here is the D-1/D-9 of a woman who has been married three times;
Vrischika = domain-7 = her first marriage. The angle from Chandra to domain-6 is unfavorable, domain-7= 6th-from-Chandra
The native experienced much animosity and emotional conflict in her first marriage.
(Furthermore, the lord of domain-7 is very strong in 6th-from-7th, an additional indicator of animosity and social conflict, hard to maintain the marriage contract. Also indicates that the husband was an athlete, an engine mechanic and a surgeon.)
The first marriage ended in a moderately amicable divorce.
The second marriage angle between Chandra and domain-2 is an auspicious 1-1 angle: that is, Chandra occupies domain-2.
The native is powerfully identified with the second spouse and deeply emotionally attached to him. She finds that her core identity is stored in this marriage and she remains deeply involved with this spouse despite cultural disconnection (Ketu) and due to shared children (Guru).
Furthermore Mithuna - domain-2 - is also the navamsha lagna, loaded up with an intense complex of graha. Clearly most of the native's relationship energy is invested in marriage-2.
The second marriage ended in a complex divorce involving children (Guru) and the emotional connection while partially severed does continue. Mithuna is a highly sexual rashi and that phenomenon continues also, due to the emotional-attachment pull of the Moon.
The third marriage indicated by domain-9 is also inauspiciously located in 8th-from-Moon.
The third spouse is a religious authority figure with an excellent public reputation but also many hidden interests, 8th-from-Chandra.
The third marriage ended in divorce with an excellent financial settlement for the native, due to favorable graha in domain-8.
It is fine to examine domain-1 and angles from domain-1 to understand the material behaviors of the first spouse, such as their profession, their values, their health etc.
Similar for domain-2 for the second spouse, domain-9 for the third spouse, domain-4 for spouse #4, domain-11 for spouse #5 etc.
Examples:
Third spouse = your 9th house. Third spouse's mother will be the 4th-from-your-9th, i.e. your house 12 (a house of loss and release - this relationship may be foggy and emotionally draining unless you consciously manage your psychic boundaries.) Be sure to examine the 4th- from- your-9th in BOTH your rashi and your navamsha.
Note on navamsha: The navamsha picture is frequently more accurate for the affairs of the spouse. If the profile of the specific relative does not emerge by reading the relevant spouse from the 7th, 2nd, or 9th navamsha, a further step of reading the relevant spouse from the 1st, 8th, or 3rd navamsha may be required.
Fourth spouse = your 4th house. Fourth spouse's younger brother will be the 3rd-from-your-4th i.e. house 6 (a difficult house full of animosity, debt and illness - this relationship naturally feels like work and can slip into victim mentality unless you consciously manage your contracts and agreements.) Be sure to examine the 3rd-from-your-4th in BOTH your rashi and your navamsha. The navamsha picture is frequently more accurate for the affairs of the spouse.
On a more pleasant note, the third spouse's oldest child, while rarely your biological child, will normally look and act like you! This odd but usually successful bond is due to this relationship occurring in 5th-from-your-9th, your rashi lagna! (Of course, if your rashi lagna is troubled, look for a mirror image of those troubles in this child.) Be sure to examine the 5th- from- your-9th in BOTH your rashi and your navamsha. The navamsha picture is frequently more accurate for the affairs of the spouse.
Marriage is seen via yuvati and Romance --entertainment, love-affair & love-of-children-- is seen via putra bhava.
Even if no marriage is forthcoming, your love life might be fabulous!
If house-5 & its Lord are strong, periods of L-5 will bring plenty of love. L-5 love is not concerned with social duty but rather is a celebration of the self. Typically L-5 periods produce pure love (with either lovers or children) that does not require the social validation and/or bondage of legal marriage.
It is quite possible to have a life filled with marvelous romance while living completely free of marriage - and vice versa!
Benefics in yuvati sthana
Guru in yuvati does not prevent divorce, but rather creates a friendly post-divorce relationship. Example = divorce 7.
Guru or Shukra in randhra bhava is also helpful for positive resource sharing post-divorce: generous alimony, continuing friendly concern for the welfare of the ex-spouse, cooperative co-parenting, etc.
Some philosophical Jyotisha observations about Divorce:
Whatever happens is by definition for the highest good. No need to fret. More relaxing to accept and go with the flow.
Astrologically any planets in the 8th house will serve the spirit’s interests by heightening the person’s awareness of the turning of the cycle of birth and death. Planetary periods of 8th house planets – especially such a detached, philosophical agent at Ketu – must create the type of events that serve to heighten awareness of death.
Domain-8 is not especially concerned with physical death. (Physical death = dhana bhava, the 2nd house.)
Rather, randhra bhava = *awareness* of death, or more properly, awareness of the cycle of birth and death. So near-death experiences, divorce, emergencies, great healings, and esoteric transformation teachings are all part-and-parcel of Randhra bhava, the 8th house.
In fact, there is no success or failure in marriage. People come together for the highest work that their mutual awareness will allow. When the work is completed, they move on.
You will reconnect with your current spouse again in your next life. Our reincarnation groups are remarkably small. The groups consist of only 75-100 people who batch together for intensive interactive psychic work, over and over again.
You can be certain that you have been married to this person before, and quit likely will be again. You have also been their mother and father before, been their child and boss before, their guru and their student before.
In our long-life era, most westerners can expect two or three significant love unions. Compared to our ancestors of previous millennia, we have incredible health & strength. Our sense of possibility is vastly expanded from the survival obsessions of generations past.
Longer-lasting and stronger bodies offer the opportunity to process a large & diverse array of karmic backlogs with in one lifetime.
In many parts of the world, marriage is no longer a survival-driven choice propelled by material necessity. Many folks incarnated within the past two centuries have enjoyed the privilege of choosing their own partner for purposes of psycho-emotional development rather than for sheer physical or social survival.
Interpersonal psycho-emotional work is not any easier or more amusing than the work of physical or social survival. It is just another level of karmic backlog that is sitting there waiting to get worked out, i.e., ignorance transformed into wisdom. Nevertheless it is an earned privilege to reach the level of material luxury which allows even the possibility of multiple, voluntarily chosen marriage unions.
Yes, divorce is a privilege!
We can deal with karmic emotional backlogs of two or three or more previous-life marriages, within one lifetime, these days! To move the ignorance-to-wisdom process along more quickly, to keep the pace of karmic story-processing fast and active, divorce is essential.
Yes, divorce is essential. Death is essential.
Quite frequently, I see aware people who are asking me for advice on marriage number four or number five. (Usually they are in their 50’s & 60’s for the 4th or 5th marriage, but occasionally much younger.)
In my twenties I was more judgmental, accepting the conventional social wisdom that it’s better to build character by staying with one difficult partner rather than indulging in multiple sexual attractions. But I’ve come to appreciate, through seeing thousands of astrological charts, that marriage is the key karmic work of our era. We need to do as much of this relationship work as possible, which often means multiple marriage commitments, and that is a good thing.
Some people have chosen fast-track incarnations where they are healing a huge amount of old karmic backlog, by reconnecting with multiple serial monogamous partners. The key indication of success in a multiple-marriage lifetime, IMO, is whether one can remain neutral friends with the former spouse.
That’s the proof IMO that the work was truly completed, and everyone feels good about what was accomplished. Many people are able to enjoy good relationships with former spouses these days. The social judgment of “failed marriage” runs off them like water off a duck’s back.
Yes, it's all for the highest good.
You know this as a spirit. Shani who governs social control has only one simple goal: absolute stability. Society very much criticizes change of any kind, particularly changes in caste, level, or power such as change of marital status. Social control judgment will punish you with criticism of “failed marriage”. But the spirit itself has only one simple goal: transformation of ignorance into wisdom – i.e., change!
Naturally, there are times when the spirit and society are very much at loggerheads. At these times, including during the divorce process, it is validating and healing to re-assert the primacy of spirit, and to acknowledge that one is actively engaging in healthy transformative change. Divine Intelligence does not punish, criticize, or judge.
Society and social control agents do punish, criticize, and judge - often vigorously. Therefore be on the alert for punishment energy and be ready to re-assert the primacy of spirit!!
For best results, ignore social opinion, and go with the spirit.
As the Apostle Paul said: "Choose Life!"
View on counseling the participants in Extra-marital Affairs
If you want to sacrifice the admiration of many men for the criticism of one, go ahead, get married.
~~ Katharine Hepburn
Instead of getting married again, I'm going to find a woman I don't like and just give her a house.
~~ Steven Seagal
Relationships are hard. It's like a full time job, and we should treat it like one.
If your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to leave you, they should give you two weeks' notice. There should be severance pay, and before they leave you, they should have to find you a temp.
~~ Bob Ettinger
I am a marvelous housekeeper. Every time I leave a man I keep his house.
~~ Zsa Zsa Gabor
"Marriage is a great institution -- but I'm not ready for an institution yet."
~~ Mae West
"Ah, yes, divorce . . . from the Latin word meaning: to rip out a man's genitals through his wallet."
~~ Robin Williams
Q:
Where does hatred come from?
A:
Dalai Lama:
"That is a question which requires long hours of discussion. From the Buddhist viewpoint, the simple answer is that it is beginningless. As a further explanation, Buddhists believe that there are many different levels of consciousness.
The most subtle consciousness is what we consider the basis of the previous life, this life, and future lives. This subtle consciousness is a transient phenomenon which comes about as a consequence of causes and conditions.
Buddhists have concluded that consciousness itself cannot be produced by matter. Therefore, the only alternative is to accept the continuation of consciousness. So that is the basis of the theory of rebirth.
Where there is consciousness, ignorance and hatred also arise naturally. These negative emotions, as well as the positive emotions, occur right from beginningless time. All these are a part of our mind. However, these negative emotions actually are based on ignorance, which has no valid foundation.
None of the negative emotions, no matter how powerful, have a solid foundation.
On the other hand, the positive emotions, such as compassion or wisdom, have a solid basis: there is a kind of grounding & rootedness in reason and understanding, which is not the case with afflictive emotions like anger and hatred.
The basic nature of the subtle consciousness itself is something neutral. So it is possible to purify or eliminate all of these negative emotions. That basic nature we call Buddha-nature.
Hatred and negative emotions are beginningless; they have no beginning, but there is an end.
Consciousness itself has no beginning and no end; of this we are certain."
~~ H.H. Dalai Lama, Healing Anger: The Power of Patience from a Buddhist Perspective. Geshe Thupten Jinpa (Trans.). www.snowlionpub.com
Q: How can we eliminate the deepest source of all unsatisfactory experience?
"Only by cultivating certain qualities within our mindstream. Unless we possess high spiritual qualifications, there is no doubt that the events life throws upon us will give rise to frustration, emotional turmoil, and other distorted states of consciousness.
These imperfect states of mind in turn give rise to imperfect activities, and the seeds of suffering are ever planted in a steady flow.
On the other hand, when the mind can dwell in the wisdom that knows the ultimate mode of being, one is able to destroy the deepest root of distortion, negative karma and sorrow."
~~ H.H. Dalai Lama, The Path to Enlightenment. Glenn H. Mullin (Trans. & Ed.). www.snowlionpub.com
When someone whom I have helped
Or in whom I have placed great hopes
Mistreats me in extremely hurtful ways
May I regard him still as my precious teacher.
~~ Shantideva, verse 6, Guide to the Bodhisattva's Way of Life
It makes no sense to brood anxiously on the harmful actions we have committed in the past to the point where we become paralyzed. They are done, it is over.
If the person is a believer in God, the appropriate action is to find some means of reconciliation with Him.
So far as Buddhist practice is concerned, there are various rites and practices for purification.
When the individual has no religious beliefs, however, it is surely a matter of acknowledging and accepting any negative feelings we may have in relation to our misdeeds and developing a sense of sorrow and regret for them.
But then, rather than stopping at mere sorrow and regret, it is important to use this as the basis for resolve, for a deep-seated commitment never again to harm others and to direct our actions all the more determinedly to the benefit of others.
The act of disclosure, or confession, of our negative actions to another--especially to someone we really respect and trust--will be found to be very helpful in this.
We are quite wrong if we merely acknowledge the gravity of our actions inwardly and then, instead of confronting our feelings, give up all hope and do nothing. This only compounds the error.
Above all, we should remember that as long as we retain the capacity of concern for others, the potential for transformation remains.
~~ H. H. Dalai Lama. ( 1999). Ethics for the New Millennium. Riverhead Press.
"According to worldly norms of human behavior, when we help someone and place great trust in them and they mistreat us in return, it is seen as reasonable to be angry with them because we have been hurt.
However, practitioners of bodhicitta must not give in to this type of conventional thinking.
Instead, we should learn to view such people in a special way, as objects for our practice of forbearance and loving kindness.
We must in fact recognize these people as our spiritual teachers."
~~ H.H. Dalai Lama. (2005). Lighting the Way. Geshe Thupten Jinpa (Trans.). www.snowlionpub.com
updated: 30 August 2008
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