Divorce 7:
Nine-year Marriage, No children,
Incommensurable Values lead to Amicable Divorce
This couple married for love in their late twenties.
raised in different countries/cultures
overt values conflict regarding social status, wealth, & children;
covert patterns of mental & emotional illness originating in childhood trauma
First marriage for both partners.
The marriage produced no children.
Neither partner remarried, although both have entered subsequent partnerships.
Male marriage timing:
Shukra/Shani period - where Shani is a karaka for marriage
Rahu/Ketu in Pisces/Virgo, crossing radix Chandra & navamsha lagna
Female marriage timing:
Shukra/Shukra period - where Shukra is navamsha L-7
Rahu/Ketu in Pisces/Virgo, crossing radix nodal axis
Psycho-emotional connections:
her radix Moon axis matches his navamsha nodal axis, navamsha Moon
his radix nodal axis matches her radix lagna axis, & her navamsha Moon
his radix Moon axis matches her radix nodal axis
however, note that his radix Moon is *not* matched in her navamsha (match would occur if she had navamsha nodes or navamsha lagna in Kanya/Meena, or even navamsha Moon in Kanya/Meena, although the D-9 Moon match is weaker)
This couple have a rather nice prognosis with many cross-overs in their mutual charts. They enjoyed the first few years of their marriage.
Unfortunately, the psycho-emotional result is unfavorable for the male whose raidx Moon goes unmatched in the female's navamsha. He can "recognize" the spouse's emotional reality but he remains "emotionally invisible" to her.
Where we are lucky enough to have verified birth data for both spouses in a divorce case, it is almost always the case that one spouse will be "invisible" to the other and that this inability to recognize the other person's psycho-emotional reality is the underlying cause of "irreconcilable differences" in divorce.
What he expected in a wife:
Profile of female seen from male's charts:
Radix 7th house: occupied by Budha L3/L12
Lord of radix 7th = Shani yuti Kuja/Rahu in Vrischikha
Navamsha 7th house: lord Budha fallen with Mangal, in D-7 lagna
Note that male auspice for 1st wife is less favorable due to:
Budha L12 occupies yuvati bhava [suggests inherent animosity of spouse, her interests in things hidden from him] receiving the 3rd aspect of Shani
7th navamsha receives kuja dosha; and the aspect of its fallen lord [confused mind]
However 7th-from-Chandra is aspected by exalted Shukra, which is very lovely
She was a svelte, youthful but sophisticated young foreigner [Budha, L-12 ruling foreigners], gifted with charming speech in several languages [Budha, L-3 ruling languages], with professional medical training [Makara] & a strong competitive/communicative connection to the younger sibling [Budha, L-3 ruling siblings].
Also she was very musical with a beautiful singing voice & enjoyed the company of children [7th-from-Chandra aspected by exalted Shukra ]
She was a tall, athletic sportswoman; extremely concerned with matters of physical body; prone toward fasting & extreme diets. [Budha with Mangala/D-9; Shani with Mangala/D-1]
During his Surya/Kuja period, she became physically violent, & appeared to be suffering mental illness [navamsha Kuja yuti fallen Budha].
Note male's Surya/8 poorly disposed in Kumbha an enemy's sign, receiving the harsh & controlling aspect of Kuja, while Kuja also dominates Shani who finally dominates Surya himself.
In Surya/Kuja period female launched numerous attacks of violence and male filed for divorce.
L-7 navamsha transferred to radix result, revealing subconscious expectations:
L-7 Shani occupies a navamsha of Mercury, so subconscious expectations are dominated by Budha, as described above.
What she expected in a husband:
Profile of male seen from female's charts:
Radix 7th house: Scorpio occupied by Guru L8/L11 - Bepin Behari in Planets in Signs & Houses says:
"Jupiter will not produce the satisfaction necessary to stabilize you. You will be socially respectable, health will be good and family members will be satisfactory, but you will be dissatisfied with marriage. The cantankerous temperament of the spouse will drive you crazy."
Lord of radix 7th = Mangala /Mithuna /2
Navamsha 7th house: exalted Shukra in navamsha 12th
Note that female auspice for 1st husband is unfavorable due to:
Guru L8 occupies yuvati bhava [damages longevity of marriage]
Shani 7th-from-Chandra occupies 6th-from-Moon (animosity)
The male spouse enjoyed some inherited wealth [Guru L8] and earned nicely from a clever independent business and successful networking [Guru L11] and was a junk collector too [Guru L8] . He held idealistic political beliefs [Guru L11] and a deep interest in religion and healing [Guru L8].
He socialized widely and perhaps indiscriminately with many gifted artists and musicians [exalted Shukra in navamsha] amongst a very large and eccentric network of associations with people from many walks of life [Mangala /Mithuna /2].
Male was also musically gifted, not in voice but in architecture and design of musical instruments, where he was a master craftsman [exalted Shukra lord of navamsha 7th].
L-7 navamsha transferred to radix result, revealing subconscious expectations:
L-7 Shani occupies a navamsha of Saturn, so subconscious expectations are dominated by Shani = animosity and divorce (Shani occupies house-8), as described above.
The native's parents were raised in conflicting cultures, suffered severe animosity in the native's childhood, and were divorced during her school years. No doubt this childhood reality coordinates with her "Shani" expectations.
Presenting issues at time of divorce:
A complete breakdown of communication and inability to locate shared goals generated irresolvable conflicts including:
overt values differences regarding social status, wealth, and children
female was raised lacking social stability. She wanted the male to provide high social status, wealth, and children; however she did not herself wish to invest any personal effort (such as holding a job) toward achieving these goals.
male was a capable earner raised with high levels of social stability including position and wealth. He valued artistic creativity and free time more than additional wealth, and was highly ambivalent about investing time and money in children.
covert patterns of mental and emotional illness originating in childhood trauma
female escalated through physical violence and superstitious cult behaviors
male escalated through passive-aggressive distancing and logical argument
Female's approach to values conflict = cult behavior
Early in the female's Shukra/Shukra period under the powerful rising Vrishabha Shukra (see how strong is Shukra in shad-bala -->>) she entered a female-guru religious cult that promised its members effortless achievement material wealth and elite status. Cult member profile included weak personalities suffering significant childhood trauma, coupled with strong desire for justification through wealth and power.
Although professionally educated and childless, she adamantly refused to work, insisting that children AND wealth were her birthright.
During Shukra/Chandra who rules family communication, siblings, and motherhood she became jealously obsessed with her more stable younger sibling, a working bank manager married with children. She talked constantly of the sibling (who lived in a far-distant country) and phoned her intrusively, even when asked to demur.
Donating more and more of her husband's earnings to the cult, she received none of the promised magical wealth although she did perform dawn-to-dusk in volunteer work.
Behari says of Moon in the 4th padaa of Pushya nakshatra: "You have the tendency to be careless with other peoples money. You will have strained relations with your family. You may be respected by those who are not accepted by society."
As the male became angrier & more bewildered at her irrational, emotionally ill behavior, the female dug in deeper with her hours-long magical practices, jealous obsession with her sibling, & refusal to apply her extensive professional education toward gainful work.
The planetary culprit in female's emotionally ill cult behavior seems to be Guru.
Guru casts a strong drishti onto Shukra, the 20-year mahadasha lord.
Guru owns fallen Budha and Ketu
Ketu casts drishti onto the maternal Moon.
Guru is the 8th-lord, who when deranged will enmesh the native in occult ritualism and superstitious magic.
Behari says of Scorpio Guru in kalatra bhava: " Jupiter will not produce the satisfaction necessary to stabilize you. You will be socially respectable... but you will be dissatisfied with marriage. The cantankerous temperament of the spouse will drive you crazy..."
Guru is also female's Trimshamsha lord, bringing misfortune through inflated beliefs
Female spent most of her divorce windfall quickly. This woman is trained in a high-earnings profession; she performed well in school and is naturally gifted. However, after divorce she neither remarried, produced children, nor deployed her professional skills into earning work. Rather, she remained jealously obsessed with the sibling, and deeply involved in the magical wealth cult, throughout Shukra mahadasha.
Male's approach to values conflict = rational argument
A highly rational person with academic training in formal logic, the husband was appalled at his wife's cult behavior.
Entering his Surya/Surya period, the male reacted with distancing and despair, trying to argue rationally that this envied sibling obtained her success by practical lifestyle and hard work. He encouraged his luxury-loving wife to follow the sibling's methods not simply envy her results.
Surya is the karaka for rational thought and clear, convincing arguments.
Unfortunately Kumbha-Surya is weakened by sign and location in randhra bhava. Note Surya's low gravity in shad-bala -->>.
His Surya arguments failed to impress his emotionally damaged wife, and he retreated into divorce.
Note the male's radix chart severely impacted in putra bhava, making children an impossibly painful issue for him.
Ultimately he granted much of his current wealth to the female and experienced the usual level of loss expected from an 8th-house mahadasha-pati.
However he soon regenerated and magnified his naturally strong financial position in Chandra mahadasha, where Chandra is L-1 in the all-good 9th house yuti exalted Shukra.
Why counseling wasn't used: Budha problems
This couple's apples-and-oranges strategy for resolving their values conflicts might have been resolved in skillful marriage counseling supported by good intentions in each spouse.
It is true that the male has a deep-seated planetary resistance to children and it is also true that the female has a deep-seated resistance to paid work (she wants windfalls not earnings). However counseling could have gone a long way toward releasing the trauma that held them in their lockdown, absolutely incompatible, positions.
The male was amenable to counseling but the female firmly believed that only magical power could bring her happiness. Therefore she refused to participate in counseling.
Budha the karaka for communications is handicapped:
Male's own radix Budha is owned and aspected by his troubled 5th-house Shani, making his communication pessimistic, dry, and inflexible- particularly regarding the karmic issue of children.
Budha fallen with Mangala in male's navamsha (which represents the mental process of his spouse) shows that he subconsciously expects a fairly aggressive and irrational wife.
Fallen Budha also occupies female's radix house of gains and income [her marketplace earnings] yuti the very mystical, impractical Ketu - showing her entrenched in foggy, poorly-analyzed, superstitious beliefs about wealth
Interestingly, Budha is exalted yuti Guru in the female's navamsha, which suggests that the male's rational thought process is functionally superior to the female's entrenched beliefs. Unfortunately Shukra/Budha period occurred well after her divorce.
From gochara-Rahu-Meena to gochara-Rahu-Kanya, the classic 9-year Rahu cycle:
Male Divorce timing:
Rahu/Ketu in Virgo/Pisces, in the axis of his rashi Chandra, and his navamsha nodes [exact opposition from time of marriage]
Surya/Shani period - where Shani is radix L-8, the divorce-maker
Female Divorce timing:
Rahu/Ketu in Pisces/Virgo, returning to radix nodal axis [exact opposition from time of marriage]
Shukra/Guru period - where Guru is radix L-8, the divorce-maker
May all beings venerate life as a state of deep spiritual intimacy.
updated: 15 October 2006
