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Divorce
7:
Nine-year Marriage, No children,
Incommensurable Values lead to AmicableDivorce
This
couple married for love in their late twenties.
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raised in different countries/cultures -
Overt values conflict regarding social status, wealth,
and children; -
covert patterns of mental and emotional illness
originating in childhood trauma
First marriage for both partners.
Neither partner remarried, although both have entered subsequent partnerships.
 Male
marriage timing:
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Shukra/Shaniperiod -
where Shani is a karaka for marriage -
Rahu/Ketu
in Pisces/Virgo,crossing radix Chandra and navamsha lagna
Female
marriage timing:
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Shukra/Shukraperiod -
where Shukra is navamsha L-7 -
Rahu/Ketu
in Pisces/Virgo,crossing radix nodal axis
Psycho-emotional connections:
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her radix Moon axis matches his
navamsha nodal axis, navamsha Moon
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his radix nodal axis matches her radix
lagna axis, and her navamsha Moon
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his radix Moon axis matches her radix
nodal axis
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however, note that his radix Moon is
*not* matched in her navamsha(match would occur if she had navamsha
nodes or navamsha lagna in Kanya/Meena, or even navamsha Moon in
Kanya/Meena, although the D-9 Moon match is weaker)
This couple have a rather nice prognosis
with many cross-overs in their mutual charts. They enjoyed the first few
years of their marriage.
Unfortunately, the psycho-emotional result
is unfavorable for the male whose raidx Moon goes unmatched in the female's
navamsha. He can "recognize" the spouse's emotional reality
but he remains "emotionally invisible" to her.
Where we are lucky enough to have verified
birth data for both spouses in a divorce case, it is almost always the case
that one spouse will be "invisible" to the other and that this
inability to recognize the other person's psycho-emotional reality is the
underlying cause of "irreconcilable differences" in divorce.
What he expected in a wife:
Profile of female seen from male's charts:
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Radix 7th house: occupied by Budha L3+L12
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Lord of radix 7th =
Shani yuti Kuja/Rahu in Vrischikha
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Navamsha 7th house:
lord Budha fallen with Mangal, in D-7 lagna
Note that male
auspice for 1st wife is less favorable due to:
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Budha L12 occupies
yuvati bhava [suggests inherent animosity of spouse, her interests in things
hidden from him] receiving the 3rd Aspect of Shani
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7th navamsha
receives kuja dosha; and the aspect of
its fallen lord [confused mind]
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However
7th-from-Chandra is aspected by exalted Shukra, which is very lovely
She was a svelte, youthful but sophisticated young foreigner
[Budha+ L-12 ruling foreigners],
gifted with charming speech in several languages [Budha+ L-3 ruling languages], with professional medical
training [Makara] and a strong competitive/communicative connection to the younger
sibling [Budha+ L-3 ruling siblings].
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she was very musical with a beautiful singing voice and enjoyed the company of
children [7th-from-Chandra aspected by exalted Shukra ]
She was a tall, athletic sportswoman; extremely concerned
with matters of physical body; prone toward fasting and extreme diets.
[Budha with Mangala/D-9; Shani with Mangala/D-1]
During his Surya/Kujaperiod, she became physically violent,
and appeared to be suffering mental illness [navamsha
Kuja yuti fallen Budha].
Note male's Surya/8 poorly disposed in Kumbha an enemy's sign,
receiving the harsh and controlling aspect of Kuja, while Kuja also dominates
Shani who finally dominates Surya himself.
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In Surya/Kuja periodfemale launched numerous attacks
of violence and male filed for divorce.
L-7 navamsha transferred to radix
result, revealing subconscious expectations:
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L-7 Shani occupies a navamsha of
Mercury, so subconscious expectations
are dominated by Budha,
as described above.
What she expected in a husband:
Profile of male seen from female's charts:
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Radix 7th house: Scorpio occupied by Guru L8+L11- Bepin Behari in Planets
in Signs and Houses says:
"Jupiter will
not produce the satisfaction necessary to stabilize you. You will be socially
respectable, health will be good and family members will be satisfactory, but
you will be dissatisfied with marriage. The cantankerous temperament of the
spouse will drive you crazy."
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Lord of radix 7th =
Mangala /Mithuna /2
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Navamsha 7th house:
exalted Shukra in navamsha 12th
Note that female
auspice for 1st husband is unfavorable due to:
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Guru L8 occupies
yuvati bhava [damages longevity of marriage]
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Shani
7th-from-Chandra occupies 6th-from-Moon (animosity)
The male spouse enjoyed some inherited wealth [Guru L8] and
earned nicely from a clever independent
business and successful networking [Guru L11] and was a junk collector too
[Guru L8] . He held idealistic political beliefs [Guru L11] and a
deep interest in religion and healing [Guru L8].
He socialized widely and perhaps indiscriminately with many
gifted artists and musicians [exalted Shukra in navamsha] amongst a very large
and eccentric network of associations with people from many walks of life
[Mangala /Mithuna /2].
Male was also musically gifted, not in voice but in
architecture and design of musical instruments, where he was a master
craftsman [exalted Shukra lord of navamsha 7th].
L-7 navamsha transferred to radix
result, revealing subconscious expectations:
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L-7 Shani occupies a navamsha of
Saturn, so subconscious expectations
are dominated by Shani =
animosity and divorce (Shani occupies house-8), as described above.
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the native 's parents were raised in
conflicting cultures, suffered severe animosity in the native 's childhood,
and were divorced during her school years. No doubt this childhood
reality coordinates with her "Shani" expectations.
Presenting issues at time of divorce:
A complete breakdown of communication and inability to locate shared
goals generated irresolvable conflicts including:
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Overt values differences regarding social status, wealth,
and children
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female was raised lacking social stability. She
wanted the male to provide high social status, wealth, and children; however she
did not herself wish to invest any personal effort (such as holding a job)
toward achieving these goals. -
male was a capable earner raised with high levels of
social stability including position and wealth. He valued artistic
creativity and free time more than additional wealth, and was highly ambivalent
about investing time and money in children.
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covert patterns of mental and emotional illness
originating in childhood trauma
 color="#000080">Female's approach to values conflict = cult
behavior
Early in the female's Shukra/Shukra periodunder the powerful rising
Vrishabha
Shukra (see how strong is Shukra in shad-bala-->>) she entered a female-guru religious cult that
promised its members effortless achievement material wealth and elite status.
Cult member profile included weak personalities suffering significant childhood
trauma, coupled with strong desire for justification through wealth and power.
Although professionally educated and childless, she adamantly refused to work,
insisting that children AND wealth were her birthright.
During Shukra/Chandrawho rules family communication, siblings, and
motherhood she became jealously obsessed with her more stable younger sibling, a
working bank manager married with children. She talked constantly of the
sibling (who lived in a far-distant country) and phoned her intrusively, even
when asked to demur.
Donating more and more of her husband's earnings to the cult, she received none
of the promised magical wealth although she did perform dawn-to-dusk in
volunteer work.
Behari says of Moon in the 4th Pada of Pushya Nakshatra : "You have the tendency to be careless with other peoples
money. You will have strained relations with your family. You may be respected
by those who are not accepted by society."
As the male became angrier and more bewildered at her irrational, emotionally
ill behavior, the female dug in deeper with her hours-long magical practices,
jealous obsession with her sibling, and refusal to apply her extensive
professional education toward gainful work.
The planetary culprit in female's emotionally ill
cult behavior seems to be Guru.
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Guru casts a strong drishti onto Shukra, the 20-year mahadasha lord.
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Guru owns fallen Budha and Ketu -
Ketu casts drishti onto the maternal Moon. -
Guru is the 8th-lord, who when deranged will enmesh the native in occult
ritualism and superstitious magic. -
Behari says of Scorpio Guru in kalatra bhava: " Jupiter will not produce the
satisfaction necessary to stabilize you. You will be socially respectable... but
you will be dissatisfied with marriage. The cantankerous temperament of the
spouse will drive you crazy..." -
Guru is also female's Trimshamsha lord, bringing misfortune through inflated
beliefs
Female spent most of her divorce windfall quickly. This woman is trained
in a high-earnings profession; she performed well in school and is naturally
gifted. However, after divorce she neither remarried, produced children,
nor deployed her professional skills into earning work. Rather, she remained
jealously obsessed with the sibling, and deeply involved in the magical wealth
cult, throughout Shukra Mahadasha.
Male's approach to values conflict =
rational argument
A highly rational person with academic training in formal logic, the husband was
appalled at his wife's cult behavior.
Entering his Surya/Surya period, the male reacted with distancing and
despair, trying to argue rationally that this envied sibling obtained her
success by practical lifestyle and hard work. He encouraged his
luxury-loving wife to follow the sibling's methods not simply envy her results.
 Surya
is the karaka for rational thought and clear, convincing arguments.
Unfortunately Kumbha-Surya is weakened by sign and location in randhra
bhava. Note Surya's low gravity in shad-bala -->>.
His Surya arguments failed to impress his emotionally damaged wife, and he
retreated into divorce.
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Note the male's radix chart severely impacted in putra bhava, making children an
impossibly painful issue for him. -
Ultimately he granted much of his current wealth to the female and experienced
the usual level of loss expected from an 8th-house mahadasha-pati. -
However he soon regenerated and magnified his naturally strong financial
position in Chandra
Mahadasha
, where Chandra is L-1 in the all-good 9th house
yuti exalted Shukra.
Why counseling wasn't used: Budha problems
This couple's apples-and-oranges strategy for resolving their values conflicts
might have been resolved in skillful marriage counseling supported by good
intentions in each spouse.
It is true that the male has a deep-seated planetary resistance to children and
it is also true that the female has a deep-seated resistance to paid work (she
wants windfalls not earnings). However counseling could have gone a long
way toward releasing the trauma that held them in their lockdown, absolutely
incompatible, positions.
The male was amenable to counseling but the female firmly believed that only
magical power could bring her happiness. Therefore she refused to
participate in counseling.
Budha the karaka for communications is handicapped:
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Male's own radix Budha is owned and aspected by his troubled 5th-house Shani,
making his communication pessimistic, dry, and inflexible- particularly
regarding the karmic issue of children. -
Budha fallen with Mangala in male's navamsha (which represents the mental
process of his spouse) shows that he subconsciously expects a fairly aggressive
and irrational wife. -
Fallen Budha also occupies female's radix house of gains and income [her
marketplace earnings] yuti the very mystical, impractical Ketu - showing her
entrenched in foggy, poorly-analyzed, superstitious beliefs about wealth -
Interestingly, Budha is exalted yuti Guru in the female's navamsha, which
suggests that the male's rational thought process is functionally superior to
the female's entrenched beliefs. Unfortunately Shukra/Budha period
occurred well after her divorce.
From gochara-Rahu-Meena to gochara-Rahu-Kanya, the classic 9-year Rahu cycle:
Male Divorce timing:
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Rahu/Ketu in
Virgo/Pisces,in the axis ofhis rashi Chandra, and his navamsha
nodes [exact opposition from time of marriage] -
Surya/Shaniperiod - where
Shani is radix L-8, the divorce-maker
Female Divorce timing:
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Rahu/Ketu in
Pisces/Virgo,returning to radix nodal axis [exact opposition from time
of marriage] -
Shukra/Guruperiod -
where Guru is radix L-8, the divorce-maker
May all beings venerate life as a
state of deep spiritual intimacy.
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file update: 15-May-2012