Shukra and Guru Ratna
Jewels for Venus and Jupiter
White sapphire (diamond)
for Shukra
Yellow sapphire (pukhraj)
for Guru
supporting positive change in prospects for female re-marriage
a step-by-step evaluation of which graha to strengthen
comments on radix & navamsha profiles for remarriage
recommending carat weight and a reputable vendor
Guru [Jupiter]
gururatna
Pushparaga / Pushparaja
Vascapati vallabha
English: yellow sapphire
Hindi: Pukhraj
gold
cold
yellow (golden) topaz
yellow beryl (heliodor)
yellow tourmaline
citrine (yellow quartz)
Set in gold.
Place on the index finger of the right hand,
on a Thursday, within an hour of sunrise.
Chant Guru mantra."Aum brim brihaspataye namah" * 108
alleviates liver, fatty, or congestion problems - if warranted.
Not good for Thula lagna!
Shukra [Venus]
bhaargavapriya
akshaja
azira
heera /heeraka
ratnamukhya
maaniraja
English: diamond
Hindi: Hira
silver
hot
white (colorless) sapphire
white topaz
white zircon
colorless quartz
Set in silver, white gold, or platinum.
Place on the middle finger of right hand,
on a Friday.
Chant Shukra mantra."Aum Shum Shukraya namah"* 16
Alleviates romantic problems & enhances sensual attractiveness - if warranted
(diamond is excellent for Kumbha lagna)
Q:
Which gem might help me find a suitable husband? Traits I am looking for in my next marriage include mutual emotional intimacy, stability and satisfaction, spiritual progress, moral rectitude, financial security.
My past experience with marriage has been traumatic... After leaving an abusive situation, I did enter a second intimate trusting relationship. That too ended traumatically, leaving me shocked, demoralized, and damaged for a long time.
For the past few years have been searching for a good partner, but really haven't met anyone appropriate. I feel ready to receive what I want in my life, in the time and space where I need it. I am diligently seeking a mutually beneficial trustworthy companionship.
Many thanks!
A:
The recommendation is for
Yellow Sapphire (Pukhraj)
White Sapphire (Diamond)
Either gem is good in a pendant on a chain, to touch your front heart chakra. Both together is also good so long as they are set in gold into a pendant to touch your heart chakra, and the two stones touch your skin but they do not touch each other.
If you have to choose only one, the Diamond is more powerful and directly beneficial, but probably also much more expensive. Diamond carat weight should be approx 2 carats, not much more.
If you prefer to wear only the Pukhraj (yellow sapphire) that is fine and will give fine results, especially financially! However a yellow sapphire should be at least 3-4 carats, and flawless, so this gem might be quite expensive also. You might get good results from a lesser guru-ratna such as citrine, so long as the citrine was large - 5-6 carats at least. If you prefer the large citrine option, a pendant set in gold with the gem to touch the skin at one's heart chakra center point, will be most effective.
Here is the record of my reasoning process:
I am looking at your nativity to select an appropriate gem for enhancing benefits in your second marriage.
I see you are currently in the Vimshottari dasha of Budha-Kanya-8/Rahu-Kumbha-1.
My own philosophy of ratna prescription is to strengthen weak benefics only. There is a school of thought that prescribes the stone which matches the mahadasha pati or the bhukti pat even if those grahas are malefic; and there is a school of thought to choose a gem for the worst malefic in order to 'cancel it out'. However I don't follow those schools. My experience says that strengthening a graha which is essentially a good influence but which might suffer from handicap of unfavorable drishti or combustion or other minor problem, will give the healthiest results.
Good to Strengthen Shani?
As you know, the Shani/Mesha combination in your radix chart is " neechha" in nature. Although graha in upachaya sthana *do* improve with time, we do not want to strengthen malefic Shani.
Good to Strengthen Kuja?
Kuja is a nice graha which brings you good income in domain-11, but Mangala is really a career graha for you - L-10 for leadership and L-3 for business administration.
BTW we must pay special attention to Kuja in matters regarding second marriage because Kuja is lord of 7th & 2nd navamsha. Mangala's character suggests that one subconsciously expects approximately the same behavior from both the first husband and the second husband.
Of course there is a difference in the radix characteristics of marriage-1 and marriage-2.
Domain-7 for first marriage = clearly a house of moral distress with domineering swakshetra Ravi + fixated, apathetic and tending-toward-victim-mind Ketu.
Dhana bhava for 2nd marriage looks much calmer!
But still psychologically it bears attention, how Kuja in radix & navamsha is rather restless. This physical restlessness can be calmed easily with exercise to balance the body, massage, and emotional healing.
Puja to Mangala (or just taking daily exercise!) will benefit your career, but I would not recommend wearing Kuja's coral stone. As L-10 in domain-11, Kuja can drain away some of your income if He is overly empowered.
Kuja is fine, just as He is, without gem manipulation!
Good to Strengthen Rahu?
I do not recommend the gomedha stone for Rahu despite Rahu's auspicious angle in the radix lagna.
Rahu amplifies the effect of neechha Shani.
Good to Strengthen Surya?
Surya is a lovely graha for business activities, for all forms of counseling and advising. Ravi = wonderful for ethical & authoritative relationships with clients and professional peers.
Unfortunately, Ravi has powerful malefic effects for marriage. You are strong willed & rational-minded. You need a great deal of executive & moral control in the marriage.
Being female, it is likely that you would psychologically project most of your leadership & control initiative on to the personality of the husband, while you try to direct his career or guide the marriage.
It is always troublesome for a female to have Surya in domain-7, because of the conflict with social expectations that the female should somehow take a subordinate role in directing the joint goals of marriage.
In this female nativity, the end result of combining Simha-Ravi with Ketu = "passive-aggressive" manipulation of the husband, of which the female is usually in severe denial. She usually believes whole-heartedly that she was doing her regal best to support & promote the spouse's interests, placing him in the center throne of the marriage. However in reality one with Ravi/Simha + Ketu in domain-7 is not able to "share" very much.
In career one is a wise & gifted adviser, but in marriage a powerful Ravi dysfunctionally independent and overly rationalized. Emotional sensitivity to the partner's needs is much reduced whenever Surya occupies domain-7.
Empathetic response is replaced with rational ambition and equality is replaced with high-handed ethical principle. The husband feel ego-dominated and fight back with his own sense of entitlement. Ketu adds disregard for moral codes, and L-7 is neechha in domain-3 for mental health. Demoralization and depression ensure. The wife has no idea what has gone wrong since she was acting on high moral principle. Unfortunately, moral superiority is not a firm foundation for mutual tolerance - or mutual anything! Ravi emphasizes Self, Soul, and Moral Truth. Ravi in Simha must always be Right.
The first husband has ego dysfunction (both over-inflated and confused!) from the Surya-Ketu yoga.
As Bepin Behari/Das says re: Ketu/Simha/7, "You may intellectualize about sex or dwell on it and this may disturb your mental balance. You may be abnormal in your approach to marriage because of this. If you can find a balance that works in life, that would be most helpful."
So, a Ruby/Manik for Ravi is not a beneficial gem choice
Good to Strengthen Ketu?
Ketu in domain-7 is known to be problematic for finding the sexual balance so neither chrysoberyl nor turquoise for Ketu are good choices.
Natural Malefic candidates eliminated
OK so we have eliminated all of the malefics (Ravi, Kuja, Shani, Rahu, Ketu). Most likely these malefics would have been eliminated anyway, because malefics usually show their true nature eventually and our goal is to support love and bliss.
Natural benefic candidates
Definitely the benefic grahas (Shukra, Guru, Chandra, possibly Budha) have a better potential for helping bring forward a better second marriage!
Good to Strengthen Shukra?
Shukra in Ari Bhava/Karkata is the lovely yogakaraka ruler of auspicious houses - domain-4 for the home shelter, and domain-9 for wisdom religion.
Shukra is furthermore exalted in navamsha
Shukra is lord of swamsha ('the soul's portion, navamsha lagna).
Uccha Shukra = a karaka for long-lasting, comforting relationships
Vedic Diamond for Shukra might be an excellent choice. The only caveat would be that Shukra occupies house-6 of imbalance. If you are a physician by trade, you are already working to heal disease in others and therefore your own aura is protected from the worst effects of Shukra in Ari Bhava.
Seva will prevent unseemly side-effects of Shukra
When Shukra occupies domain-6, there is always the chance of drug or alcohol addiction or prostitution because Shukra/6 gives imbalanced indulgence in sweet things such as drugs & sex.
However if you have a practice of medical healing for women esp. mother-child medicine, this over-sugaring threat can be eliminated through Seva.
I recommend a Vedic (flawless, non-heat-treated) Diamond with the condition that you should also do healing service for mother-child (Karka), female reproductive system, sexually transmitted disease (Shukra/6), perhaps even prostitutes (Shukra/6) & female drug addicts (Shukra/6), as protection against falling victim to these imbalances oneself through the amplification of Shukra.
Service can take the form of counseling for women, or fund-raising for targeted charities, or direct medical service if you have the skills.
The aim of the seva is to make sure that one's consciousness gets a taste of the over-indulgence it is craving but one serves victims of it so one does not become the victim of it. The cure for any graha in domain-6 is always selfless service. "Serve or suffer"! If you're like me you'd rather serve!
Good to Strengthen Guru?
Guru does qualify as a weak benefic which would give better material results if Brihaspati were strengthened.
Second marriage profile
Specifically, Guru is lord of radix domain-2, which is the virtual lagna for the second marriage. You can describe the profile of the second husband and your general experience in the second marriage by using Meena, your domain-2, as the lagna for the 2nd husband.
Strengthening your relationship to Meena is a good thing! Not only is Guru good for your second marriage -- Guru is also the lord of your two main Money houses, domain-2 and domain-11.
If we strengthen Guru for 2nd-marriage purposes, we will also get a nice by-product of improving financial life. Guru is OK in navamsha relative domain-9 with Rahu - Guru has good wisdom-bring potential.
Again, Guru is lord of the 6th navamsha. If you choose a Yellow Sapphire (Pukhraj) for Guru, it would also be necessary to ensure some regular charitable work in health care to the less fortunate or "victim class".
Ideally this seva would be charitable work in reproductive health services. Guru is lord of chakra-2, for reproduction. Seva is targeted to prevent the effects of disease or loss of marital agreement in one's spouse.
Good to Strengthen Chandra?
Chandra in dharma bhava brings wisdom. Soma is a beautiful graha for your spiritual and religious life.
However as lord of domain-6, Moon is not good to strengthen with pure pearl. I cannot think of any good reason to strengthen a functional malefic. Unfortunately regarding marriage, L-6 Moon encourages loss of marital agreement.
Good to completely avoid pearls! Not even to wear pearls in the Vimshottari dasha of the Moon! Give your pearls to your female relatives, perhaps a daughter or beloved female friend who is not a Kumbha-lagna person. Pearls make trouble for you. Considering the condition of your domain-7, that type of trouble is good to avoid!
Good to Strengthen Budha?
Budha is the only remaining gem candidate.
Budha = uccha, which makes you remarkably intelligent with an excellent memory and fine study skills. And Budha = lord of creative, genius domain-5.
Yet unfortunately for marriage purposes, Budha is also lord of divorce-house domain-8.
Domain-8 is good for a great many things, especially surgery and psychotherapy, also true tantric transformation and handling of secret information. However domain-8 is a house of sudden, forced changes and therefore a marriage-killer... marriage should be long-lasting and stable to give its best fruits. Therefore I do not recommend the Emerald for Budha.
Conclusion: White Sapphire for Shukra, and Yellow Sapphire for Brihaspati
Your quest for love, stability, respect, prosperity, and good will in remarriage is best served by the gem for Guru - the Yellow Sapphire, or Pukhraj. It will be good to supplement the Pukhraj with a Vedic Diamond for Shukra, the .
Be sure to have one or both properly energized by a reputable pujari before you apply the gems to your skin.
You can have them set in pure gold -- no zinc! -- into a pendant to touch your heart chakra. Hang on a gold chain.
If you choose only the white sapphire for a ring, select a setting in silver or platinum.
If you do choose Pukha-raja or Shukra-ratna, please consider that both of these beautiful stones will in addition to enhancing the love and prosperity in your re-marriage also evoke conditions of the sixth house of radix or navamsha. Therefore a discipline of Seva, selfless service, will necessary to ensure that only good results occur.
Do consider the possibility of adding a small amount of volunteer service in health care for women in reproductive distress, caring for sick children, or perhaps prostitutes/drug addicts (too much Shukra!) as the best insurance against the small potential for amplification "overflow" of the house-6 energies built into our gem prescription.
Instructions for application of remedy:
Diamonds should be applied on Friday at sunrise after reciting 16 times : "Aum shum shukraya namah"
Yellow Sapphire should be applied on Thursday one hour before sunset, after reciting the 19 times : "Aum brim brihaspataye namah"
Gems must be flawless. But more importantly, one's heart should be flawless!
Carat weights & a reputable vendor
Diamond (white sapphire) if you choose to use it should not exceed 2 carats. Shukra as Daityaguru, teacher of the demons, ought not to be overly empowered. Just a little diamond is good.
The Pukhraj (yellow sapphire) however gets better as it gets larger.
Although generally yellow sapphire is prescribed at 3 carats and higher, IMO a smaller stone can give excellent results so long as you really like it. Any weight from 1.5 carats and higher for yellow sapphire will be effective. Ideally the stone should be flawless and bright yellow. Above 3 carats is desirable. 4 carats is wonderful but getting too large for a woman's gold-set ring unless one has a very large hand (and enough servants to not need to cook or clean : ))
Larger than 5 carats = a very large stone that would be indeed efficacious as a remedial gem, but it would need to be worn as a pendant, because it's too large for a normal finger .
In a Jyotisha ring setting where the gem must touch the skin (ideally, the setting allows maximum touching of largest possible amount of skin), the amount of gold in the setting that is necessary to hold a large stone properly against the skin is quite expensive also, and the ring becomes very heavy to wear. Esp. for the gem of Guru, which must be worn on the index finger, such a ring could be awkward to wear in many professional settings.
So, I would suggest for a woman's hand (to be worn on the right hand index finger) 2.5-to-3.5 carats max, but for a woman's pendant if your budget will allow, the largest flawless sapphire one can afford, set in gold to touch the heart chakra, on a gold chain.
I'm sure you know, but pls. do deal only with reputable Jyotisha gem providers.
I have bought from Bill Kent at http://www.jyotishgem.com and I recommend Bill without hesitation. Bill has white sapphires (diamonds) occasionally and also he handles zircon for Shukra. Zircon = less intensity than sapphire but = still beautiful and still moderately efficacious as a remedy. Bill's yellow sapphires are wonderful. He personally obtains the gems during his frquent trips to the mines in Shri Lanka, and as a result he has very close quality control.
More on Remedial Seva
Consider serving women whose lives have been terribly damaged by marriage trauma - perhaps an occasional medical or psychological or simple peer-advising session where you can mentor women coming up behind you. Perhaps you can offer some wisdom or solidarity.
You have been terribly hurt and severely disappointed. Your path is not easy ! Even while you have stunningly sharp intelligence, beauty, and financial skills -- you will need to work diligently to prepare your heart for your next marriage.
The biggest task is to try to completely forgive your first husband. He has hurt you deeply - but if you can forgive his ignorance, you can be ready to marry again. Also to as much as humanly possible forgive your lover after marriage.
You are a gifted healer; you have helped many to transform & move forward. However you are currently in a bhukti of Rahu, and Rahu amplifies the bitterness & resentment of your neechha Shani. The bitterness may not be known to you - you might just feel a generalized frustration, grief and depression. That is why a bit of Seva for the women who need your guidance can bring so much personal healing also. The women in your "downstream" will mirror some feelings that perhaps right now you cannot see in yourself. You are holding on to some blood anger which may be preventing the welcome to your next marital agreement. Try to release resentment and replace with love for yourself & trust in divine guidance.
This will open the door much faster than any gem!
Remarriage timing
The timing of your next marriage could be as early as this year, since gochara Rahu-Ketu is currently moving across the axis of your natal Venus. If re-marriage occurs in this short-term, there is some medical or financial imbalance involved.
Remarriage is better undertaken after the age of 40, due to your Mula Kuja.
Navamsha shows Soul Matching
Be sure of the detailed profile you are looking for in spousal characteristics, and be sure you can "match" those characteristics in your own soul.
Be very specific in articulating not only the traits which are opposite to your previous husband ("rebound" traits) but also look closely at your navamsha . The navamsha will reveal the parts of yourself that are not fully known to you, but which require a partner to mirror that self-knowledge back to you.
Marriage cannot bring new character traits into one's personality.
Marriage can only develop the existing traits in your radix & navamsha.
Study of the navamsha will bring out wisdom of self-knowledge in regard to the karmic script for marriage partnership. If the traits you seek in the spouse are present in your navamsha, the spouse will surely have those traits!
Conversely, if you notice unwanted negativity in the navamsha, try to deal with it consciously. Don't blame the projection screen for showing the contents of the movie!
Mula Kuja as lord of both navamsha 7th and navamsha 2nd suggests that you will benefit from waiting until after age 40 to attempt the 2nd marriage.
Ketu-Shukra period in 2015 would be the best time. A woman of your youth and beauty will not enjoy the thought of waiting so long, but indeed Mula Mars does not "mature" until age 40.
Hope this viewpoint and the gem recommendation will bring love and good will into your life. Best wishes for your continuing success!
Sincerely,
Barbara Pijan Lama, Jyotisha
Q:
I am quite concerned about making sure that these two gems will be beneficial for a second or even a third marriage. If what we are calling "remarriage" would be calculated as a third marriage for me, will it be still alright wear these two gems?
I apologize ... but its my real concern, given two very painful experiences . I feel so careful to ensure that these gems will only positively affect the prospect of a loving and lasting marriage.
A:
Yes the gems will be fine for any marriage for you. All marriage are a product of your inner self. We are not strengthening the marriages. We are strengthening you!
Marriage is not an experience which occurs outside of the consciousness, but rather the experience of being married is a direct projection of one's own expectations and feelings upon the blank canvas of the relationship. One projects one's unfinished business upon the spouse. And one chooses precisely the spouse who can receive precisely one's projection! So our target is to strengthen you and help release some of your projected anxiety. Remedial jewels can help a bit in counteracting the anxiety with a stronger, gem-assisted stream of positive feelings.
The gems will assist you in building up positive thoughts and feelings in your own body. You can add much more vitality to the gem's actions by cooperating with your own thoughts. In particular, the gems act best when they have "space" to operate in the thought channels. If the channels are clogged with anger, blaming, victimization anxiety, and other common post-marital grief, the gems will not operate so successfully. 'Forgiveness' is the deep-cleaner-thought that will unclog the thought channels and allow the gems to do their best.
Forgiveness is not approval or forgetting. It is a statement by you to the other person, and to the divine, that one has officially completed the transaction at spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical levels. Fait accompli. Forgiveness is the act of sending back to the perpetrator, the complete portfolio of your interest in the matter. It means, really "done".
Forgiveness doesn't mean that the person who harmed you was right. They weren't right to abuse your trust, they harmed you, and they *will* pay the price in their own karma in the fullness of time. Of that we can be certain! Forgiveness = readiness to let go of one's grievance, usually because one is sick and exhausted from managing the toxins which arise upon each review of the case. For the sake of one's own health and prospects for a positive future, consider a practice of spiritual "de-tox" forgiveness as an excellent way to clear the channels for most efficacious effects of the gems.
Forgiveness is a repeating practice. It's like housecleaning - has to be done frequently as new dust apparently comes from nowhere to settle in one's house! However if one has a regular forgiveness practice, starting with forgiveness of the parents for their shortcomings, then forgiving siblings, then moving on to romantic partners and spouses, forgiveness will clear the thought channels so that the gems can do their work.
Humans attract spouses to mirror back to the unseen details of one's own subconscious expectations. Spouses & romantic partners evoke one's most passionate dreams and one's worst fears.
For a woman, each of her marriages is a variation replay of troubles in her own parents' marriage, and in particular each husband will recreate/re-stimulate the unresolved difficulties of the girl's relationship to her father.
If one is concerned about possible negative outcomes of future marriages (which is very reasonable if past marriages have been painful!) there can be great benefit to a careful review of one's own role in the previous marriage collapse. One must forgive oneself and grant permission to move forward in loving respect to those who have brought one so much pain! Otherwise one clings to the wreckage of past failures, and wastes so much precious energy in going over old memories, looking to assign blame and not grasping that this painful experience has greatly deepened one's compassion.
Looking at domains 7, 2, and 9 which would represent one's first, second, and third marriages respectively, there are issues and problems in each of these marriage domains. In the first and "blueprint" marriage (which contains the model for all the later marriages, with slight variations) the obvious issues includes Ketu which tends to fixate on sex, and Surya which tends toward domineering and rationalizing behavior in lieu of emotional response. Domain-2 receives the drishti of the 8th lord, suggesting secrecy, extramarital interests and divorce. And domain-9 contains the lord of the sixth house with drishti of the 12th lord, which brings isolation, conflict and illness (also suggesting that the 3rd spouse would be a physician.)
Realistic expectations and goals for Modern Marriage
All nativities have patterns similar to yours - that is, there are no ideal marriages. There is a generous amount of public denial of course; lots of people putting up a nice smooth social façade of "everything is fine" in their marriages! But looking honestly into modern marriage, whether first, second, or third, there will always be and indeed there *should* be plenty of negative mirroring and friction.
The goal is *not* to manifest a marriage which has no growth potential and no dynamic energy for change - that is, a marriage free of individuality and conflict. A lock-down psychic stasis like that might have been an ideal in medieval society when physical survival depended on people taking absolutely fixed social roles and anyway the average life span was about 40 years!
In these days of dwapara yuga, the main goal of marriage is to provide a sanctuary of mutual understanding and emotional support for two independent individuals.
These two independent people choose to trust each other to provide a degree of social dignity and comfort while each partner continues to "work on their stuff". The "stuff" is mainly one's unresolved issues from childhood (and for those with clairvoyant vision, issues from past lives.)
It is essential for the karmic process that one should maintain faith. It is smart and emotionally healthy to enter into partnerships, be hurt, practice forgiveness, be healed, and be hurt again. This process is a privilege.
Hanging onto anger, fear, and grief reactions from past relationships (which are still very much alive in one's head!) prevents the karma from being processed.
Gems work cooperatively with the mind, never against it
Gems cannot per se create permission for the native to release their attachment to the suffering.
After the native has made a conscious choice to practice forgiveness as a lifestyle, then karmic processing speeds up dramatically, and THEN the gems can really enhance the positive experiences in life!
Again, the gems are helpful -- but the only was to "ensure" better marriage results in the future is to release the habit of constantly reviewing the pain of the past.
Attention to Ketu
Consider the myth of Rahu-Ketu.
Shri Ketu does tend to fixate on the past and He has no positive purchase on the future. Ketu tends toward resignation, apathy, and getting stuck in a state of obsessive blame.
Strengthening L-9 Shukra via remedial white sapphire (diamond) will uplift the spirits overall, but Shukra sends no drishti upon Ketu.
Ketu's habits of obsessing about connection that it can't achieve and mournful self-pity (again, think of the myth of Rahu-Ketu! Ketu is very much the victim!) must be dealt with in conscious decision to apply *forgiveness* whenever a thought or feeling about future marriage shall arise.
Wishing you all the best outcomes!
Sincerely,
Barbara Pijan Lama, Jyotisha
May all beings venerate life as a state of deep spiritual intimacy.
updated: 17 November 2008
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