A:Well, Shani is the lord of your 7th navamsha and Shani is not the lord of any trine in the D-1. Furthermore Shani occupies the house of servitude (6). That means marriage is mainly about work-service for you, and that to be happy in relationships, you REALLY have to do partnership in Shani's orderly and regulated way.

Shani is all about rules. But in marriage, rules imposed from the outside are often oppressive. The L-7 navamsha shows the spirit's need to get information for one's "next step" and that information usually comes through the partner (or the ishta-devata). It sounds like you are getting not very desirable information coming in from recent spouses! The reason might be too much personal non-Shani behavior that is blocking flow of Shani-appropriate information.

It's unlikely that any significant satisfaction with a partner will be available until, as Mahatma Gandhi said, one can "be the change one wants to see in the world".

With Shani L-7 navamsha also in the D-1 bhava of conflict and servitude (6), marriage is not set up for you to get affection, respect, and admiration at the early beginning. Rather the expectation is that you will be provided by various partners with information about moral and religious practice (Shani occupies Dhanushya) and to determine what set of rules(Shani) you will consistently follow.

Kumbha rules the 7th navamsha which means that you are really looking for a set of universal principles and practices that will systematically pave your way into the future. Also you have the expectation to use your own experience to guide those who follow (Guru with Shani) into a better future. It is the nature of Kumbha to want to take the group along with one - a very compassionate Bodhisattva practice! But before showing a better future to others, first one must establish rules for oneself.

In the learning process, due to many internal inconsistencies in the marriage practice (Shani occupies bhava-6) - making promises then finding exceptions to the rules, feeling permissive(Guru with Shani) and thus not keeping the discipline of the vow. Promiscuity and other 'exceptions' cause much frustration and disappointment.

• When the lord of the 7th navamsha occupies Ari Bhava, one's own internal argument (6) is projected upon the partner. It is hard to look directly in the mirror in partnership matters when the lord of yuvati in D-9 occupies the disagreeable 6th house. It is more typical to cast oneself as a victim of others' insufficiencies. In order to mask one's own flaws one attracts some significantly flawed partners!
• Bottom line: one will attract better partners when the housekeeping is done on the inside. There must be very clear principles in place, and the commitment to those principles must be strong, and naturally with humans there will be the occasional exception, but even the exceptions should be agreed in advance.

The respect and equal contributions(7) into the marriage would only be possible when one had established an unswerving commitment (7) to principle, and perhaps a regular ritual calendar (Dhanushya) to reinforce the commitment.

• For example Ramadan fasting is a ritualized practice that helps all of its participants to remember and refresh their commitment to a whole catalog of beliefs which frame a lifestyle of principled living. Catholic Lent has the same effect if properly practiced. Tibetans have Losar, with fasting from sex, alcohol, and most kinds of food for a few days before a new moon in spring. The fasting itself is much less important than the ritual refreshment of the commitment and the rehearsal of commonly held principle.

Shani/Dhanushya/6 has no need to be orthodox or conform to any historical or institutional standards. Rather, there is a need for internal consistency with oneself.It is nice to have orthodox support for one's practice of course; as in the above examples it makes personal commitments that much easier to maintain.

Once that Shani-demanding lawful consistency is firmly in place, and one is living in such a way that each look in the mirror evokes self-admiration and delight in the internal orderliness, one will "match" partners of the same vibration.

Right now, one is matching - attracting - exactly the vibration that one is putting out.

Partnership energy has to go out clean. Then it will come in clean. Then you'll get what you want BACK.

Wishing you all the best,

Sincerely,

Barbara Pijan Lama, Jyotisha

May all beings venerate life as a state of deep spiritual intimacy.