Q:
Can Slow-moving graha (Rahu-Ketu, Shani, Guru) which
are associated with relationship bhava or rashi
indicate that a partner has the same sign placement?
and is of the same age?
Is my Budha that likes
to talk with younger people going to get me in trouble
with the law? Is my Shukra going to make me happy in
marriage?
A:
Regarding predictors of the age
of the spouse -- "slow moving graha" are not
predictors. Shani as lord of 7 = Kumbha/Makara is a
predictor of age and other types of seniority in the
spouse. Also for the male, Shukra in a rashi of Shani
gives an aesthetic preference for wife with
established profession.
The
only spousal age indicators
that I have found reliable are the Parashari
predictions that nativities with radix Karkata or
Simha lagna (or Chandra-Karkata or Chandra-Simha) will
tend strongly to marry an elder spouse.
Budha in Navamsha lagna =
Association with Youth and Pseudo-Science
Budha = Kumara, the adolescent. In
your navamsha, Budha rises in
Kumbha, which signifies
a hyper-communicative social and conceptual networking
instinct. You have many chat-friends distributed
across a variety of networks, with a tendency to favor
scientific or pseudo-scientific and social-progressive
associations, and also a strong need for the company
of young people who can think in generationally linked
ways.
Writing Talent
The
upside of
Budha rising in Kumbha navamsha along with the uchcha
Budha in your radix-5 nativity is extraordinary talent
in science-fiction writing, especially the ability to
develop characters that are teenaged, socially fringe,
like to hang out in large but essentially anonymous
group events, and are secret but unrecognized geniuses
who ultimately save the day through systems technology.
I
really do hope you'll write science-fiction --
you have many Jyotisha earmarks that suggest a future
career as a successful fantasy writer.
Immaturity, the
lowest-common-denominator group-mind
The
downside of Budha/Kumbha/D-9 lagna =emotional and
intellectual immaturity. One tends tocontinue to
express a hodge-podge of loosely connected (Kumbha)
ideas (Budha) in the teenage style, even long after
the teenage years have ended. It's a very psychically
absorptive placement, Budha in Kumbha lagna, but
unless Budha's short attention span is harnessed to an
organized study project (such as earning a university
diploma or writing a book or serving a demanding
charitable service project) there is a tendency toward
glossing over the surface of individual ideas without
learning the principles which make sets of ideas into
coherent ideologies.
The
effect of this adolescent
mentality is personal, not marital; however I agree
with you that if one sees oneself as a "freethinking"
(Budha/Kumbha) Kumara then one may seek the company of
those who are similarly networked: teenagers
chronological or teenagers mental. Combined with
your L-7 as the neechcha Kuja, unintentionally but
factually predatory relationships with illegally young
partners always something to watch out for. (since you
asked, I'll answer that one with a "know thyself"
caution - not a prediction, but a note on need for
mature self-guidance.)
Compatibility: Measure it from the
Moon Estimates of Compatibility in marriage as
a contracted alliance are based almost entirely on the
characteristics of Chandra, as you know. That is
because Chandra is the karaka for the astral body, and
marriage is a highly astral (psychic)
experience. Marriage definitely has a material
expression (money, sex, business deals) but most of
the experience of being yoked to another person is
psycho-emotional in nature. Marriage matching in India
is done on the basis of some complex (and rather
arcane) formulae for matching of Moon positions.
Look for the navamsha positions of the native 's
Rahu-Ketu axis matched to the rashi of spouse's radix
Chandra, or the native 's 1-7 axis of navamsha matched
to the rashi of spouse's radix Chandra. If these rashi
correspondences are in place, there is a deep feeling
of familiarity and an authentic desire to support the
Other emotionally and spiritually.
Usually a
prospective couple who show Rahu-Ketu match to Chandra
will finalize the marriage vow. These rashi-based
matches are not a guarantee of happiness in marriage,
but they do indicate a shared behavioral focus.
Looking at navamsha 7th lord in radix, radix 7th lord,
Shukra etc tells us about observable characteristics
of the spouse. Shukra and the other marriage behavior
indicators do not predict whether you will be happy
for a lifetime. As mentioned, your Ketu + Guru in 7
along with the lord of 7 being neechcha Kuja gives a
tendency to get mixed up in overly optimistic and
manipulative relationships.
You do require a higher
degree of self-management as there is a tendency to
manipulate vulnerable people. The good news is that
uchcha Budha is analytical, observant, and very smart.
You can see problems coming - no need to be a victim -
consider the consequences before taking action, yes?
You could probably predict that the wife, a person to
whom you made a vow commitment of marriage, would have
Moon in that would match one of your D-1 or D-9 axes
of Rahu-Ketu, or match your D-1 or D-9 lagna. Yes that
range of rashi axes covers 8 of the 12 possible rashi choices, so
naturally it will be necessary to do a more thorough
compatibility assessment if you meet a suitable
partner, have a mature discussion about marriage and
its responsibilities, and THEN ask the Jyotishi!
As always my advice is that marriage is
NOT about the other person. It's about you. So clean
up your own psychic space, be honest and direct about
your intentions and your needs, and you will quite
organically attract the partner who can best assist
you to life a harmonious life. If there is unpleasant
interior disorder then unfortunately you'll attract
just the right match to that stuff too. The spouse is
only a mirror of self. Polish the mirror!
Wishing you all the best,
Barbara Pijan Lama,
Jyotisha
"Love is always patient and kind; it is
never jealous;
love is never boastful or conceited;
it is never rude or selfish;
it does not take offense, and is not resentful.
Love takes no pleasure in other
people's sins but delights in the truth;
it is always ready to excuse, to trust,
to hope, and to endure whatever comes.
Love does not come to an end. "
~~ I Corinthians 13: 4-8 [Jerusalem
Bible]
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Generally, marriage is a good thing - thus the (first)
spouses are represented most definitively by the two Great Benefics - Guru and
Shukra.
These D-1-to-D-9 links show the issues on which you two
partners are spiritually working together. Traits which are dormant or subordinate in
partner-1 will be alive or dominant in partner-2. Thus each partner
"mirrors" the other's arising consciousness, and facilitates spiritual
growth by evoking astral imagery into real world action.
The navamsha reveals
traits, desires, hopes, dreams, fears, etc. which are dormant but trying to rise
into consciousness in your life.You find the partner who is already acting
these out in the material world. You are intensely attracted to this
person; they are everything you admire, everything you crave, everything you
want to be. This person completes you; expresses you; forms your
"other half".
Examine each house in Navamsha
from the appropriate partner lagna to know the level of your soul that is just now
moving from subconscious to conscious. We usually need
partners to bring out this new personality growth in us. (Even if that
partner is the ishtadevata.)
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Buddhist: if you are intensely attracted to something now, rest assured you will be
intensely repulsed by that same thing in the future!
A significant part of the
"work" of marriage is learning to manage the cycles of desire and
contempt one feels toward one's partner over long periods of time.
All marriages are timed by
Rahu-Ketu,
which means that all marriages involve attraction-repulsion.
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In a love marriage, you personally are attracted
and (later) repulsed - typically by the psycho-emotional qualities of
the partner.
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In an arranged marriageyour guardians are
attracted-repulsed - typically by the social-material qualities of the
partner.
But in either case Desire (which eventually boomerangs to
Contempt) plays a major karmic role in Marriage. The karmic forces behind marriage are so strong that it seems not to
matter much whether one "chooses" one's mate through
"falling" in love -- or allows that mate to be chosen by one's social
guardians.When it is time for the karmic partner to find you, they will
find you!
It
is often observed in modern India, where arranged marriages remain fairly
common, that the success rate of Arranged marriages Approximately equals
the success rate of "love marriages."That is, about 50%
of marriages are satisfying; 50% problematic - regardless of whether they are
romantic or arranged.
The big-picture view is that,
no matter what social mechanism selects
the mate, we will all create (through impetus of samskara) a spouse/series of spouses who perfectly match our karmic
job description :)
The big-picture view is that,
no matter what social mechanism selects
the mate, we will all create (through impetus of samskara) a spouse/series of spouses who perfectly match our karmic
job description :)
Yoked Work:
Maintaining
the Intention to Reach Agreement
Successful Marriage requires
discipline, self-knowledge, and moral effort. Marriage can only survive when there is Agreement on how to conduct the division of
karmic labor. The higher the agreement
level, the easier the partnership.
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Physical work:not only doing
the labor, but agreeing on how to do it, requires constant attention.
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Spiritual work:
For those who feel ready to accept the austerity,
marriage can be a high-speed vehicle toward consciousness.
There is never
perfect agreement (as long as humans have egos, anyway) and so There is never an effortless marriage.
Whom will I marry?
Know who is
"The One" by knowing one's own purpose.
If your seventh radix, seventh navamsha, 7th-from-Moon, and
Venusare agreeable to marriage,
then you will marry the person WHOM YOU CREATE in your quest to to reach
the next step in your search for the divine.
Fully
knowing You - in all your terrible beauty - is a quite effective way of exposing
the presence of That Which Dwells Within.
And who better to expose you :)
than your spouse?
It's their job.
If either partner is significantly traumatized,
marriage can be a completely unconscious, reactive dramatization of subconscious
motives during which very little self-knowledge or movement toward realization of
the divine takes place.
Since most people are pretty heavily traumatized,
unconscious marriage is unfortunately the norm.
These missing parts are the aspects of personality about which we are
"missing" important information, of which we lack recognition - until
the partner through feedback reveals that information.
By marriage I mean the religious not the legal
definition. Religious marriage is a spiritual union made sacred through
speaking a vow.
The marriage partner has a unique combination of good/bad
-easy/difficult traits that are designed to both comfort and disturb.
The comfort is from similar hopes and dreams, habits
and pleasures. The disturbing factor is "matching
energy" - matching pain, matching anxiety, similar childhood trauma,
etc.
Psychologically, "The One" is a personality that
has many of The most difficult, conflicted, or inaccessible traits of your
most difficult parent.Most people have the most trouble during the
childhood interaction with their opposite-gender parents.
As a general
rule, women have more trouble with their fathers
and men have more trouble with their mothers.
Yet some men have more
trouble with their fathers and some women have more work to do with their
mothers.
And some folks are raised in communal settings, by religious orders, or
in other parenting arrangements that are not so easy to identify the
gender-reaction patterns.
Past lives, which are stored in the subconscious, do play a
role in childhood relationships with parents and caregivers.
Vocation
Profession Social Rank of Spouse
Public reputation, social rank, and leadership position of the (first) spouse
would be profiled through a combination of these items, probably in this order
of importance:
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spouse's
material prestige and profession = 10th-from-Shukra (for male) or
10th-from-Guru (for female)
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spouse's public standing in terms of
emotional
affection from friends and social community =
10th-from-7th-from-Chandra = 4th-from-Chandra (this placement is not about
material power or high respect; it is about public appreciation and
affection)
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a more general indication of the spouse's professional
role on the material plane, and some details of the
economic
sector in which the spouse participates professionally, can be seen
through the 4th rashi from radix lagna, and the lord of bandhu bhava. (for
example if L-4 is with Rahu, spouse may handle taboo or exotic materials, do
recycling, or work for foreign interests. If L-4 is a compromised Shani, the
work many is rudimentary or rough, such as agriculture. If L-4 is uchcha
Shukra, the spouse may be a professional musician. Etc.)
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the dignity that one gives to one's own spouse, or the
respect that one feels toward one's
own spouse = 4th navamsha. (Occasionally, thisattitude is
better revealed through the 10th navamsha.) Examine the character ofnavamsha
L-4vis-à-vis navamsha 4th house. (E.g., ifwithin the
navamsha, the L-4 occupies 6/8 from swakshetra, one might feel some contempt
or disregard for the professional role of the spouse.)
All of this information can be read from one's own nativity.
Alternative Sexual Orientation Unions" A
lternative
Sexual Orientation Unions
Certainly the lines between gay vs. straight marriages are increasing
blurred as modern societies move out of survival urgency, and sex-role divisions
of labor fade into history...
Yet, in these early years of the second millennium,
it is generally the case that
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a majority of women experience greater emotional
difficultly connecting with their father,
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and conversely majority of men
experience greater emotional difficultly connecting with their mother.
In order
to continue their most significant spiritual work And break through their most
challenging inner barriers, most women desire marriage to men, and most men to
women. This gender-conventional attraction pattern is the most direct method of revealing and healing their childhood trauma
with the opposite-gender parent.
Which parent is "needs work"?
But what if the greater difficulty, blocked emotional
access, negligence, lack of expected guidance and nurturing, even physical
abuse, is linked with the same-gender parent? Then, it is more likely that the subconscious
will direct the native into a same-gender relationship.
Men involved with men, and women involved with women, follow the same
psycho-spiritual logicof attracting a spouse who mirrors that
comfortable-but-oh-so-frustrating energy of The more difficult parent(including
difficulty caused by absence).
In these intimate relationships, the most difficult parent will hail from
the same gender. These natives need to cross their inner fear barriers -
barriers constructed in the subconscious which greatly limit freedom and
happiness in the conscious life - by getting their healing information from the mirror
of a same-gender spouse.
Natives who follow a pattern of both straight and gay
unions within one lifetime, are similarly recoveringessential but
currently missing self-knowledgethat was
originally sought from both parents, alternately.
Natives raised by
same-gender parental couples, composed of two men or two women in life partnership, will
probably have the same results as children historically raised by
mother-grandmother /father-grandfather or two-sister/two brother pairs; that is,
one will seek a spouse who mirrors whichever parent-partner was more complex or
difficult.
Sex of the spouse will tend toward the sex of the difficult
parent as in conventional unions, but at this point in the logic we need to be
able to distinguish between sex and gender.
a name="How to Know Who You're Going to Marry">How
to Know Who You're Going to Marry
The psycho-spiritual purpose of marriage is to work
out the problems one had, in childhood, with the more-difficult parent.
If you are looking for a marriage partner, it is fairly
straightforward to define who that person is and when you might be ready to
receive them into your life.
Just be honest
about your struggle to achieve complete emotional access to and validationfrom
your more difficult parent.
If you can define that struggle, you can
define your next spouse!
Sugar and Vinegar
Marriage is "yoked" sugar and vinegar. The
sugar comes first, but the sugar is designed to seduce you with shared hopes
and dreams, and extract from you a commitment. The sugar is soon joined
by the vinegar. The vinegar is spiritually essential! The higher purpose of
marriage - which is healing - is only possible to achieve if the vinegar is
present!
There must be pain, confrontation, disappointment, and grief in
marriage... if there weren't, there would be no motive for the native to examine
their subconsciously driven reactions. Only by examining our reactions can the
hidden holdings of the subconscious be exposed.
The struggle to heal deeper pain and experience higher
freedom will go to phase-2 in your first marriage,
phase-3 in your second marriage, and so forth. The struggle for one lifetime
might start and finish within a
single marriage (check palm lines to confirm). However the full healing
endeavor can easily entail 2, 3 or more marriages in the modern era. The
healing process can also go from gay
to straight unions, and vice versa.
If you know your own healing agenda well enough, you'll be able to spot
that next spouse at 500 yards.