Marriage = Mirage

"Doubt thou, the Starres are fire,

Doubt, that the Sunne doth moue:

Doubt Truth to be a Lier,

But neuer Doubt, I loue."

In the Jyotisha charts, several leading "Opposite" indicators show what your Mirror looks like. The qualities of the Other to whom we are deeply attracted will compose a profile of the future spouse.

The radix (root, or natal) chart shows a social position, publicly validated traits, overt behaviors, etc. - are presented at the culturally agreed reality level. These features one consciously wants, and to which one feels attracted.

At the social-material level, one expects this attribute-package to define the Other in the marriage relationship. Upon this limited view of the spouse, one expects to remain feeling happily completed, as the ritual says "until death do us part".

Public attributes of spouse, from radix:

1. 7th-from-radix-lagna (rashi and Nakshatra )

2. 7th-from-radix-Moon (rashi and Nakshatra )

3. 7th-from-Shukra (rashi and Nakshatra )

4. 7th-from-Arudha lagna (radix)

Present-time unions connect us with persons from our past lives. Each partner bears one or more key pieces of information about oneself. Each partner invests the other with the power to validate or invalidate the Self. The validation-invalidation dynamic might last hours or decades. The more value we perceive in a partner = the more important their mirrored information is to our total self-definition project.

If part of the spouse’s value is economic, one might remain in a relationship for economic reasons, continuing to gain self-sustaining value from another’s income. If part of the spouse’s value is spiritual or religious, one might remain in the relationship for religious reason, continuing to gain self-identification information from another’s religious behaviors.

If part of the spouse’s value is financial or political or ideological, one might remain in the relationship for exterior or expedient social reasons, continuing to gain self-identification information from another’s social behaviors. So long as we are validated by the partner and we need their confirmation of our existence in order to establish knowledge of our own Self, then we will stay hooked to that Mirror.

There comes a point in every relationship where one has been effectively reminded of all the lost information. One is saturated at this point (8th-from; 2nd-from) and the relationship ends.

For all persons, whether they are conscious of this pattern or not, One knows more and more after seeing the results of so many tests of one’s beliefs about oneself.

For example, one might believe that one is not pretty, but if the spouse repeats ‘I think you are beautiful’ for thirty years, one will begin to absorb that validation and eventually one will become convinced of the truth of one’s inherent beauty. One comes to own the value.

On the negative side, one might enter a relationship believing that one is entitled to a certain level of luxury or respect or some other value. A karmically selected partner may be on schedule to come in to one’s field of consciousness and correct that over-estimation.

The spiritual end result of relationships is always an acquisition of one more puzzle piece which helps to continue to complete our conscious picture of the divine Self. The final goal of all relationships is to fill in the missing pieces of the self-definition. Over the period of millennia one engages in many mutual-validation relationships. It is essentially a very long process of Jnana Yoga: not this, not this, not this.

One partner says I am beautiful, another says I am ugly. One says I deserve a big house and fancy car, another says I am unworthy and powerless and he will gamble away my money. One partner respects my motherhood and works to protect my family. Another ignores my need protection and abuses the children. One admires my intelligence and praises my tastes; another criticizes my every decision and insults my appearance.

Well – by the end of a gazillion lifetimes – Shukra the Negotiator has swung the pendulum through every possible set of polarities. Every possible value has been attributed to the Self. Every conceivable moral claim and judgment of good/bad, desirable/terrifying, beautiful/hideous, attractive/repulsive has been applied to the Self.

And all those polarities of opposite values has all been found to be absolutely true definitions of the Self (according to 50% of partners) and absolutely false definitions of the Self (according to 50% of the partners) which totals up to a logical zero. Eventually it becomes clear that one is capable of projecting any value imaginable as well as its opposite. One is, indeed, the source of all of those values both positive and negative; one is, indeed, All That Is.

Some people are closer to the end of this exercise than others. They mainly live in monasteries.

Relationships are an intense ‘gyana’ spiritual practice designed to show us via emotional and social validation-invalidation that we are valued-unvalued as beautiful/ugly, rich/poor, happy/sad, etc. The conscious realization that relationship practice is designed to produce is that we are everything and nothing – in other words, we are Divine.

It is rather a long, drawn out process that is fueled by our attachment to sensual pleasure or even the possibility of sensual pleasure (Shukra) . Shukra the Daityaguru tricks us into thinking that human relationships produce pleasure. So we make a promises of Trust (Shukra) with a partner in the expectation of pleasure. Then Shani ruler of Society locks people into Safe and Regular Routines (legal marriage) .

But soon it turns to pain when the invalidation starts. Some mix of pleasure-pain, safety-oppression, validation-invalidation will go on until the pain portion gets too large. Then we bail. But having bailed from one relationship the Shukra-Shani voices are still giving deceptive instructions so we want to start a new one as soon as possible!

People are convinced that they need to, or should, start that next relationship for all sorts of instrumental reasons. The graha give their instructions!

Folks believe also that they have no idea who it will be or what type of validation it will generate. But it is fairly obvious from a Jyotisha perspective what karma is coming next. This jnana-yoga routine of applying values then invalidating those values is a comically logical process. It is quite easy to predict the next relationship based on where the pendulum came to rest in the previous relationship. The next partner = 8th-from.

Whatever was most severely invalidated in the previous union will be corrected (healed) in the next one. And whatever was boast-worthy in the previous relationship that might have caused the ego to become a bit attached to a positive value will be deflated or devaluated in the next one. Remember this is an intricate, large scale balancing operation (Shukra = scales, justice) which results in a definition of Self that contains all positive values and all negative values in perfect equality (Shukra) so that we are “paid up” at the end of the drama of samsara.

Marriage has a public (radix) reality and also a private (navamsha) reality.

Radix shows five-senses level of common reality . Radix shows material outcomes, results, name, rank, and serial number. The spouses career (10th-from-7th); the in-laws (2nd-from-7th); the spouse's health (6th-from-7th). This information is in the public domain.

The navamsha (and all varga charts) show psychic origins of the material results which manifest in the radix. Vargas display a deeper, more personal astral pattern of subconscious expectations (held in past-life memories). This astral pattern is embedded in the interstitial spaces of the physical body. The varga charts can reveal this deeper, intuitive level of expectation as it plays out psychically in the unfoldment of the future.

For example, here is the radix-navamsha of the film actress and children's advocate, Angelina Jolie.

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Jolie's three husbands (two legal marriages and one union producing children) = film actors and/or fashion models.

• 4th-from-lagna = spouse's occupation = Thula

  L-11 Shukra in lagna, these folks make their living from their physical appearance

• 10th-from-7th-from-Chandra = Mithuna

L-3+L-12 Budha in bhava-11 yuti Surya-Ketu, their livelihood involves talking in imaginary scenes (12) and memorizing scripts along with intensive teamwork (3)

• 4th-from-Shukra = Thula, same as above

Navamsha is on the border between public and private.

• 4th navamsha shows more what the native wants her spouse to be doing, and that would be Kuja's department: athlete, father (yuti Guru/Chandra) and master teacher

• Material fact emerging from role of lord of 4th D-9 in radix, is that the spouse's profession is the same line of work as the native 's father

• evaluation starts to move from material to psychological when entering the realm of navamsha.

• Here Kuja as lord of 4th navamsha = this native chooses spouses who act a lot like her father (pun intended).

• Since Kuja with L-6 Guru is inauspicious for father in bhava-9 radix, there will be psychological tension and conflict over the spouse's male-sexual-energy expression within the father's profession as well.

The nativity below belongs to William Jefferson Clinton, 42nd President of the USA.

Bill has been married only once (so far). His wife Hillary Rodham Clinton, USA Senator and Secretary of State, is very well known.

Hillary and Bill met at Yale Law School, so clearly he was attracted to the fact that she was a lawyer [his 7th navamsha = Thula]. According to Jyotisha, Bill was consciously or unconsciously seeking to marry a female [Shukra] attorney, negotiator, deal-maker, broker, match-maker, diplomat... Thula-type behaviors.

What is the Jyotisha evidence?

• 7th navamsha = Thula, and Shukra lord of Thula is very prominent in Bill's radix. His wife is a difficult woman (neechcha Shukra = all his women are difficult women...) but Shukra gains dignity in lagna even when neechcha.

• Drishti upon Shukra from Bill's well place Karkata Shani (parental and patriotic responsibility) shows the work ethic of his spouse.

• Drishti upon Shukra from uchcha Rahu shows the philosophical (9) and financial (uchcha Rahu) gains of the spouse. This pair are very wealthy.

• 4th-from-lagna = 10th-from-7th = spouse's occupation = Dhanusha (rashi of the philosophy of the Law and global travel for purpose of learning). Hillary Clinton eventually developed a spectacular career in international diplomacy. Her career = his karakamsha. Ultimately he is more involved and identified with her career perhaps even than with his own, since he craves and international scope of operations and her influence actually expanded beyond his due to changes in the world balance of power.

• 10th-from-7th-from-Chandra = Karkata

• 4th-from-Shukra = Dhanusha, same as above

= Hillary R. Clinton's paid law practice, and also her unpaid agreement-crafting work as a diplomatic agent for her husband's political offices.

Navamsha = the border between public and private.

• , and that would be Chandra's department: being a mother, handling confidential information (8) and caring for the jointly held assets of marriage (managing their marital wealth)

• Material fact emerging from role of lord of 4th D-9 in radix = aspects of the spouse's true profession are somewhat hidden from public view (8) but her work is emotionally essential to the welfare of the native

One shared trait between public and private is Kuja which occupies the eastern horizon in both D-1 and D-9. Kuja = karaka for sexual pursuit, specifically the aggressive testosterone-driven male type of sexual energy. (Women have sexual pursuit energy too, as seen via a woman's Jyotisha placements for Mangala. It's the Kuja energy that is male, and that energy exists in all bodies, genders and persons.)

the native (Mr. Clinton) is obviously a highly sexual person with a good-sized ego (uchcha Ravi + swakshetra Mesha Kuja in D-9 lagna), and unlikely to remain faithful in the conventional sense.

his D-9 personality is positive, competitive, and perpetually youthful, but it is not reasonable that the two main karakas for adolescent male sexuality would permit a conventional monogamous marriage. It would be good to know this information before committing to a marriage with this otherwise very successful person..

One is attracted to the spouse not only because of their public match to one's recognized needs and desires. One is Also attracted to the seamy underside of frustration, conflict and disappointment. One can sense the "underbelly" coming intuitively (and the Jyotishi sees this underbelly in the vargas). It forms a major component of the attraction.

" However one (typically) cannot name or articulate navamsha dynamics because this underlying psychic script is unknown to the conscious mind. Only when the marriage is materially established and the karmic struggle to define and purify the Self really sets in, does one begin to apprehend the full character of the Mirror to whom one has been so deeply attracted.

It is possible with Jyotisha vision to see the sequence of marriage challenges and to anticipate if not eliminate the nature of the scripted spiritual work that these challenges may involve. For more details, see: Who Will I Marry?

Use the navamsha to predict the aspects of one's own script which are brought into priority status by the marriage partner.

These subtler psychic traits are seen in:

1. navamsha

2. Consider also: 7th-from-navamsha-Moon

[NB: Hart and deFouw use an "80/20" rule for reading the navamsha that seems quite useful in practice. That is, they use 7th navamsha and its lord to represent the first spouse in about 80% of cases, whereas the 1st navamsha will actually represent the spouse (and 7th navamsha represents the native ) in about 20% of cases.]

One useful piece of the profile puzzle for one's spouse may be found by examining The radix position of the navamsha L-7 (or in about 20% of cases, see the lord of navamsha L-1). Every attribute of this graha - its rashi, bhava, drishti upon it, Nakshatra padaa, etc. should be studied carefully to determine the behavior, appearance, and character of the spouse.

• For second marriage, find the second (perhaps 8th) house of the navamsha. Examine the lord of the second navamsha within the radix.

• For third marriage, find the ninth (perhaps 3rd) house of the navamsha. Examine the lord of the ninth navamsha within the radix.

• etc.

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• First marriage: Seventh navamsha is ruled by Shani. See characteristics of the first spouse revealed via radix Shani. This is a possibly accurate view of her brief, teenage first marriage to a similarly young and fame-seeking boy actor, since Shani/Mithuna/12 is very weak as radix L-7 in 12, suggesting extramarital "bedroom" activities and a loss of identity. Another reading could take the navamsha lagna as representing the first spouse, thereby using radix Surya as the interpretive puzzle-piece. This might work better because Surya is all about fame-applause-admiration, in Vrishabha Surya is very sensual, and with Ketu detached, and with Budha = adolescent. I would go with the "20% of cases" marriage reading which needs to use navamsha lagna, the first navamsha, as the primary indicator of the spouse, then examine Surya for the proper characteristics of Ms. Jolie's first, briefly married, spouse.

• Second marriage: if the first navamsha was chosen to represent the first spouse, then the second spouse will need to be read from 8th-from-1st, which is Meena navamsha. The characteristics of her second spouse should then appear through radix Guru. Ms. Jolie's second marriage, to an actor and musician very much her senior, could be indicated by Guru in occupation of bhava-9, the house of the father. Guru is in a highly complex but basically favorable association with Mangala (sexual and athletic energy) and Chandra (motherhood and feminine intuition). Although married rather briefly, the couple did adopt a child into their union, beginning Ms. Jolie's venture into motherhood. The marriage featured Martian behaviors related to knives and blood. By contrast, reading the lord of her second navamsha, Budha, gives an unsatisfactory match to real life: Budha is distinctively the adolescent Kumara, not a proper karaka for a spouse who was nearly 20 years her senior!

• Third marriage: (sanctioned not by vow but by the birth of children). If the eighth navamsha symbolism of Guru-Mangala-Chandra provided a successful match to the real-life data (Guru does appear to be a much better fit than the alternative Budha) then the third spouse should be best characterized via the 8th-from-8th = Third navamsha , ruled by Shukra. Shukra occupies the lagna in radix, a very strong position physically and socially. (Look to the main page for Angelina Jolie for more about her Shukra, that rises in nearly all of her varga charts.) Shukra's lord is Chandra in a 5/9 angle from the eastern horizon, signifying the image of material beauty and nurturing motherhood in favorable balance to each other, the karaka for motherhood. Shukra is furthermore the karaka for all forms of sensual beauty, suggesting that the 3rd spouse is visually attractive, fashionable, and cosmetically decorated just like her. For Karkata lagna natives, Shukra is lord of the gainful, goal-achieving labha bhava and the stable, home-sheltering bandhu bhava. This description of the third spouse seems like a good fit to the public data.

• Fourth marriage partner, if any, would be predicted via 8th-from-3rd navamsha = 10th navamsha ruled by Mangala. All the karaka behaviors of Mangala would apply, in addition the special features of Mangala's association with Guru and Chandra as well as Mangala's Yogakarakalordship of domains 5 and 10 would also need to be considered.

It does happen that one partner enjoys the marriage while the other does not. This will certainly be borne out comparison of the two partner's navamsha charts.

see also: Matching "UP" Toward Bliss: Understanding Psychic Attraction and Repulsion on the Path of Partnership

• 1-7 axis of navamshaA=core dynamic of marriage (i.e., what you see about yourself in the mirror of the first marriage)

  Typically the lord of the 7th navamsha, as He behaves in radix, describes the spouse while the lord of 1st navamsha, as He behaves in radix, describes oneself. However these classic roles can easily be reversed, with Self being more the L-7 and Other being more the L-1. Because marriage is inherently interactive the spouses can switch roles during the course of the marriage also. What matters is, do you see the repeating pattern in the mirror?

• for first marriage, radix L-7's navamshalord, as He behaves in radix

  • e.g., if Vrishabha rashi owns radix-7, find Shukra's navamsha. Then find the lord of Shukra's navamsha in radix.

  • You can see your  matching energy which attracts you (for good or evil) to this spouse. The matching energy is a dormant part of yourself which you will only see through the mirror of the spouse's behavior. The spouse will relate to other people in different ways, but your spouse will relate to you in a way that specifically

• for second marriage, radix L-2's navamshalord, as He behaves in radix

  • e.g., if radix dhana bhava = Dhanau, find Guru's navamsha. Then find that navamsha lord in radix. The radix graha will show what part of *yourself* you are seeking to develop within the 2nd-marriage partnership.

  • for third marriage, radix L-9's navamshalord, as He behaves in radix

• e.g., if radix dharma bhava = Karka, find Chandra's navamsha. Then find that navamsha lord in radix. The radix graha will show what part of *yourself* you are seeking to develop within the 3rd-marriage partnership.

The re are always strong "cross-over" correspondences between the two parties key axes in radix and navamsha. There must be some cross-over between radix and navamsha in order for a relationship to endure. I.e., radix-to-radix or navamsha-to-navamsha is not enough. There must be at least one radix-to-navamsha match for a marriage to even occur - much less succeed!

• Axes of radix lagna, radix Chandra, and radix Nodes

• Axes navamsha lagna, navamsha Chandra, and navamsha Nodes

One way to determine whether a potential mate will become your married spouse (at the appointed time of course) is to evaluate the number and strength of these radix-navamsha connections between mutual Chandra, lagna, and nodes.

Note that significant "cross-over" radix-navamsha matching (which indicates psychic affinity and mutual emotional recognition) will also occur in other essential partnerships such as guru-sishya, parent-child, and grandparent-grandchild.

The se radix-navamsha connections are not about marital sexuality. They are about psycho-emotional bonding: being able to grow together within the field of shared awareness, expectations, and perceptions.

Sometimes, key emotional axes are not matched in the other partner's radix or navamsha. When this happens, the un-validated party must find psycho-emotional validationin another relationship.

Ideally there will be an emotionally close sibling or spiritual friend who possesses the missing match. That ideal friend will be able to "see" and give value to these psychic realities which to the spouse are "invisible". Some marriages with weak cross-matching cannot be sustained without supplemental companionship.

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May all beings venerate life as a state of deep spiritual intimacy.

updated:14 April 2012

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