Marriage relationship compatibility karma balance - Barbara Pijan Lama Jyotisha Vedic Astrology

*Yoked Work:* What is Love? Falling in Love Marital Cycles: Attraction - Repulsion, and Desire - Contempt Maintaining the Intention to Reach Agreement Conflict in Marriage: Key to True Love Marriage Conflict, and dushthamsha Commitment Yoga Marriage as a Public Contract Marriage not a Commodity Marriage is a Living Yoga Arranged Marriage vs. Falling in Love -Shukra vs. Surya *Surya vs. Shukra:* Brief Idealization vs. Lasting Partnership Marriage Dharma Marriage Karma Marriage Anxiety Unfinished marital business from past lives Primary Karakas and Timing Agents Who will I marry? When? Who will I marry? Judging spousal character predictionsfrom karaka lordship in the woman's nativity Vocation Profession Prestige of Spouse Compatibility: Chandra lagna: emotional memory and spousal behavior in marriage Chandra Lagna: emotional relationships judged from Chandra Marriage and the Moon Yogas from Sun and Moon How to Know WhoYou're Going to Marry To Whom - and to What - is the native attracted? Navamsha shows marriage emotional compatibility More information about the marriage from the D-1 and D-9 charts	Timing: Navamshalords and marriage TIMING Three Jyotisha Rulesof Marriage Timing classic marriage and familyJyotisha timing Must we choose an auspicious marriage date to ensure longevity of marriage? General agenda of marriage implicit in the timing Bhukti Profiles: Marriage and the Moon Lord of Chandra's Nakshatra , a Leading Factor in Compatibility Marriage 1-2-3 qualities from Chandra lagna Emotional Relationships from Chandra lagna Emotional memorymirrored in 1-2-3 spouse from Chandra lagna Female nativities, spouse-1 and spouse-2 Second spouse, third spouse, and more -- behavior seen from L-2+ L-9 and from Chandra lagna Marriage sequence and profile of husbands 1-2-3 for Angelina Jolie ;Shukra Checklistfor Easy Human Partnerships Attributes of the First Spouse , judged from lagna of house-7 Suraja Surya in bhava-07, alliances and negotiated agreements Considerations: Realistic expectations and goals for Modern Marriage Words on second marriage In-laws Divorce Timing of Remarriage (case studies) Alternative Sexual Unions Jyotisha and Gender Symbolism What counts astrologically as a marriage? Non-vow partnerships in bhava-11 and bhava-5 ;Marriage as Mirror-Imaging Is this person the properpartner for me? Is this "The One? ;Comments on "Gunaand other Marriage Compatibility Assessments 21 degree of Mithuna - Dhanus - unfavorable for lasting marriage ;Kuja-dosha [Mangalik] Kumbha Vivah
What is Love?	Love is an extremely simple and ultimately powerful energy which must be "discovered in the modern world because the veils of materialism have obscured it. Some of this Love experience would appear to be very deeply karmic. It hurts! However the result of developing one's capacity to Love will be extremely positive and beneficial in every single lifetime. That knowledge gained through struggle to understand Love is the pearl of great price. "Precious! The native will fight - and win- a lifelong battle to Recognize the greater reality of Love. Every other graha competes for the native's attention. Some Graha are functioning in the current lifetime to work against the native's chance for discovering Love Shani's focus onmaterial survival Chandra's emotional need Shukra's attraction to comfortand sensual pleasure Kuja's physicality and competitiveness Budha'smentalism Rahu's constantyearningfor the objects of passion andambition. Ketu's apathetic detachment even Guru's expansive inclusiveness All of these agendas work against the goals of Surya, who is the Center of Divine Love in Earth's system. (There are other centers in bigger systems of which Earth is a part, e.g. our Galactic Sun, but in our perception, Surya is the main center.)
Surya = Greatest Love	Surya (Kuja/Guru) represents the Greater Love. The greater love is not emotionally need-based and cannot be betrayed by loss, disdain or "cheating. The greater love is absolutely personal, and does not involve other humans. Quest for the greater love is fueled by a love of knowledge, a hunger for Truth, a deep and ceaseless Spiritual Desire. The Greatest Love is considered by philosophers (lovers of knowledge) to be the ultimate prize for humans.
Chandra = Lesser but Essential Love	Chandra (Shukra/Shani) represents the Lesser Love. The lesser love is a sincere and genuine expression of human emotional need, cannot be disregarded or oppressed without emotional backlash. Humans need touch. Humans need security, protection, connection to a people and a place. Humans need mothering, sheltering, validation. These are basic needs of the material and astral bodies. If these needs are not met in childhood, then the native will remain "unconscious, chained to the Moon, and living in lifelong hunger for continuous sheltering, ego-reflective mother-approval.
Humans are Sun-Moon creatures.	Each human must learn to consciously negotiate the Surya-Chandra dichotomy of "love perceptions. It is essential to not confuse the two worlds, but rather to appreciate how Chandra reflects Surya, protecting humans from spiritual overload until our electrical circuitry is capable of handling the Greater Love intensity.
Love Intelligence	It is essential to learn to use the correct love toolsin each appropriate Love World. In interpersonal relationships with other sentient beings, the compassionate one attends to the realities of the lesser love. Provide approval, safety, and validation to loved ones. Respond with Human Care. In partnership with the Divine, the compassionate one opens the heart as wide as possible to receive the inflow of brilliant creative spiritual energy. Respond with Divine Praise.
Falling in Love versus Marriage	"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. "~~ *A Course In Miracles* Falling in love(a function of putra bhava) is a Suraj-type ego-driven Idealization projection. One sees the Other as a mirror reflection *Onlyof one's favorable (divine) traits. In the Idealized state, mirror-reflection of non-flattering or negative (non-divine) aspects of oneself are temporarily excludeddue to Surya's instinct to see divine presence in the beloved.* Persons who have married after "falling in love will generally confirm that they "hoped that their Idealized, divinized, heart-love state to continue forever. Experienced persons will confirm that, after marriage vows are spoken, the power of the D-9 comes fully into play. After marriage vows, one does start to receive the Guru-driven D-9"full view of oneself from the spouse. Can the native move from the expectations developed under Surya in the idealized "falling in love stage, toward an authentic Shukra-guided contractual marriage? There is a perceptualand expectations gapwhich must be bridged in order to move forward properly. That gap between the self-admiring, adolescent (5) projection of Suraj's divine intelligence vs. the balanced equality of Shukra's long-term partnering commitment is one of the reasons why " love marriage is considered socially treacherous (and why parents, who have a track record of success in contractual partnership, are often charged with responsibility to arrange their child's marriage.)
Realistic expectations and goals for Modern Marriage	All human nativities have patterns similar to yours. That is, there are no godlike, ideal marriages in human, real life. The re is a generous amount of public denial of course; lots of people putting up a nice smooth social façade of "everything is fine" in their marriages! But looking honestly into modern marriage, whether first, second, or third, there will always be and indeed there should be plenty of negative mirroring and friction. The goal is not to manifest a marriage which has no growth potential and no dynamic energy for change - that is, a marriage free of individuality and conflict. A lock-down psychic stasis like that might have been an ideal in medieval society when the average life span was about 40 years and physical survival depended on people taking absolutely fixed social roles. But in these days of dwapara yuga, the main goal of marriage is to provide a sanctuary of mutual understanding and emotional support for two spiritually independent individuals. These two independent peoplechoose to trust each other.Partners in trust can provide to each other a degree of social dignity and comfort, even while each partner continues to "work on their stuff. The "stuff is mainly unresolved trauma from childhood. (For those with clairvoyant vision, it can be known as trauma from past lives.) It is essential for the karmic process that one should maintain faith in the possibility of a balanced partnership. It is smart and emotionally healthy to persist in the practice of entering into human partnerships, being hurt, practicing forgiveness, being healed, and being hurt again. Entering the intimate psychic and physical space of another person is often a painful karmic process, but it is also aspiritual privilege. to know the heart of another is to know the heart of the divine. Relationships are, indeed, the ultimate spiritual practice! And like all high-value spiritual practice, intimate partnership can feel both exhilarating and blissful, but also bitterly painful and difficult - at times.
To Whom - and to What - are we attracted?	Any spouse would have been known by the native for many, many past lives. When it is time to activate the joint past-life karma, attraction happens (usually via Venus or Rahu) and if Rahu is somehow associated with Venus or the marriage houses, there is a marriage. Whether conventional or unusual in configuration, marriages manifest past-life self-knowledge and this is very much to a purpose. Attraction is all about Matching Energy. We humans are attracted to Others who possess qualities we lack - but need and want - in order to psychically complete ourselves. These qualities may be "desirable" or negative or destructive. Typically, the attraction is quite unconscious. One finds oneself suddenly "in love with an apparently wonderful person, with whom one feels deeply validated, balanced, and complete. There is tangible soul recognitionand mutual spiritual confirmation. The confirmation is not always a completely "positive experience. However, even if there is negativity and tension in the love relationship, it is a comfortable, familiar sort of trouble that seems well-remembered, necessary, and just right. Whether positive or negative or an interesting mix, this combination of qualities to which we are so convincingly attracted is indeed the right match. Each human is on a missionto acquire the self-knowledge necessary to feel complete within ourselves. We attract, and are attracted to, the partners with whom we have a past-life agreement to work together on this grand mission. Direct knowledge of our own subconscious is, for most people, totally blocked. The only way most of us can find out what's really going on in that vast heap of past-life accrual called "Self is by watching our own thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors played out in the mirror of our relationship to Others. The most powerful of all Other-Mirrors is the marriage partner. Marriage is, for most people, the most demanding spiritual practice in life.
~~BPHS Ch. 77, shloka 11	The affectionate relationship between an employer and employee (master and servant) and man and women (husband and wife) will be invariable and stable if they possess the same attributes.
~~BPHS Ch. 80, shloka 17-21	If the 7th bhava be without a planet (without strength) and without benefic aspect, the female born will have a coward and contemptible wretch for her husband.
~~BPHS Ch. 80, shloka 17-21	When the 7th bhava is a moveable [ chara] rashi, the husband will always be away from home.
Marriage is "Commitment Yoga"	Marriage - especially the first marriage - is represented in the radix chart by *yuvati bhava, the 7th house. "Yuvatimeans "yogaor yoke. Marriage is the central yoga, the central balance point, the central control, and the central discipline, of the entire life. Even the ordained celibate religious are "marriedto their ishtadevata, the god of their heart. Everyone has a primary Other- whether that "Otheris a fleshly spouse, a deceased spouse, a passionate ideal, or a spiritual spouse taken in holy vows of ordination. Everyone is "yokedon some level to a mirroring, judging, responding, participating partner. Like any yoke- or yoga - marriage creates both stability and bondage. Whether the public union of marriage is experienced as Ablessing or a curse* depends on the condition of yuvati bhava, and its relationship to each of the other 11 houses of the radix chart. The marriage yoke binds self- lagna to "other-7th (See bhava yoga page for more on yokes.) two partners enter the Yoke like two oxen. After the yoke is on, they have to work together, pulling in the same direction. If they don't, it hurts- and nothing gets accomplished. If they do, a nice plowed field will manifest - and everybody, including the oxen, will flourish.
Marriage as a Public Contract	Despite the Euro-American romanticizing of marriage as a strictly personal, emotional decision, the Jyotisha view is that marriage is a very strategic choice which must be carefully considered in light of its future impact on the native's public standing. Being 10th-from-10th, marriage is a critically important social status indicator. Social status is indicated in order of importance by: house-10 public authority and leadership role house-7 (10th-from-10th) marriage status house-4 (10th-from-10th-from-10th) property ownership house-1 (10th-from-10th-from-10th-from-10th) physical appearance Marriage conditions are of high significance in social ranking and personal dignity. A strong marriage to a helpful, enthusiastic, appreciative partner can hugely assist career developments. The spouse and (by extension of the signification of house-7) other peer partners in business and community life, can potentially double one's effect in the world, which increases the public recognition and approval defined in house-10. A weak marriage house bodes poorly for the native's self-respect, and makes high levels of public approval fairly inaccessible. And while a good 10th house might "trump a bad 7th house, it's unlikely that the native with a severely damaged 7th house will be able to fully ascend the ladder of social recognition no matter how excellent the characteristics of karmaa bhava.
Unfinished marital business from past lives	Details of the private side of marriage are seen in navamsha, where the partners' subconscious expectations (residue of unfinished marital business in past lives) are exposed. Without conscious intervention, subconscious marriage programming will play out naturally, as if the native were acting out a movie script. Whether marriage is A blessing or a cursedepends a good deal on this navamsha script, and whether the native possesses critical consciousness necessary to "edit the script in real time - i.e., while we are in the process of living it! Editing requires conscious use of "forgiveness which is very demanding emotionally, and should only be attempted by those who have reached sufficient levels of spiritual development.
Marriage not a Commodity, Possession, Goal or Achievement (although it is promoted as one!)	Sometimes I am asked to predict the timing of marriage. this is a fairly easy thing to do in Jyotisha, but I am uncomfortable doing it for clients who feel a great urgency to "get married" (acquire property) as a way of satisfying their parents' social demands, or as a method of protecting themselves against social insecurity. Unfortunately, marriage is understood by most people as a property contract, and people rush into it on an acquisitive material basis. The partner is assessed upon spiritually irrelevant criteria which have very little to do with how this person will operate in an intimate mirroring relationship. E.g., physical looks, sex drive, fertility, professional credentials, shared social activities and intellectual interests, earning power, social rank, blah-blah. However, what actually matters in the bubble of intimate relationships is emotional compatibility and equivalent expectations. The worst test of the viability of the marriage bond occurs when emotional reactions conflict and when expectations are disappointed. Therefore it is essential for these two elements of personality and culture to be effectively matched.
Unclear Intentions	In the context of the anxiously acquisitive, parent-pleasing, social-worth process which surrounds this core spiritual event, "Getting" married questions tend to disturb effective divination. The anxiety underlying the inquiry - esp the interjected psychically manipulative energy of parents -- often deprives the native of their sense-of-self earth grounding. When the native lacks authentic grounding at the time of the query, the spirit-guides who (ultimately) provide the answers to divinatory questions can get confused about who is really asking the question. Is it the client's own question? Is it the question of an insecure parent? Is it the question of an institution or social-authority entity like a family corporation, a caste authority (panchjyat), a church, or a government? There are too many voices involved in this question and this interference can prevent the guides from delivering a clear answer.
Reflection upon the Purpose	I am very much of the opinion that the period before marriage should be a deeply contemplative and reflective period, no different from the assessment and re-conviction period required before taking the vows of any religious order. In other words it ought to be a rather long time (at least a year) of reflecting upon personal readiness to undertake the single most spiritually demanding exercise of human life, and this reflection should have NOTHING to do with the perceived social-material assets or liabilities of the Other. By contrast, divorce should be easy and neutralized.
Preparations for Partnership: handling arguments (6), emergencies (8), and loss (12)	In particular the two partners must have high levels of pre-existing agreement about the proper response to periods of life crisis (6, 8, 12) when the bond of trust is likeliest to break. The partners must go into the union with pre-existing cultural or intellectual commitments ALREADY ESTABLISHED. A plan must be in place for how to handle the portfolio of the three dushthamsha: illness or addiction (6), illicit behaviors and crime (6), arguments (6), sudden wealth (8) or sudden poverty (6), children's education (8), separations due to hospitalization, imprisonment or long sojourn in foreign lands (12) death of children (6), extramarital affairs (6, 8, 12) betrayal of trust (6), secret financial dealings (8) and perhaps the most difficult of all, how to handle in-laws (8).
Core Values (Shukra) and Expectations (Chandra) must match
Maturity	First of all it should be mentioned that for a sane, mature adult there is a big, obvious difference between "expectations" and "ideals". Expectations reflect human cultural norms. Ideals are standards of godlike perfection. This fact of human life should become patently obvious to all thinking adults sometime near the age of 31. From a Jyotisha perspective, by this point in life, the native has endured three Rahu-Ketu cycles and the Saturn return is finished. One has endured at least a single occurrence Shani Ashtamsha, or two occurrences if Nishturabhashi Yoga applies (Shani + Chandra). According to modern neuroscience, the human brain reaches cellular development maturity at approximately age 30-31. (This is one of the strongest arguments for the unpopular but medically sound proposal to raise the USA legal drinking age to 30.) Marriage before age 31 It stands to reason, therefore, that marriages accomplished before the age of 31 should be closely supervised by elders who have a much more clearly articulated perception regarding the difference between expectations and ideals. Young marriage partners have not yet fully individualized. They do not, characteristically, have much objective information about the cultural values that they have been raised to internalized. It is not easy for a young person to truly accept that there might be several acceptable and viable ways of responding emotionally to a given social situation. Rather, a young person tends to asume that one was raised in the "right" way by one's own worshipful parents/culture, and that anyone whose behaviors veers from the standards and HABITS with which one was raised in an (unexamined, unanalyzed) family-culture setting must be "wrong" or "crazy". This natural, adolescent ir own culture. tend to be very idealistic. Longevity of marriage - individuals (1) remaining legally bound into the property (4) contract (7) - is perceived as the highest value of marriage. Naturally longevity of financial investments is one of the best ways to develop material wealth, and society (10) favors long contracts for purposes of system (11) stability (4). But again longevity is most patently NOT the highest spiritual (9) value of marriage. Rather, depth and intensity of the shared (7) spiritual work between partners is what counts from the viewpoint of the death-bed.
~~ Prince Philip Mountbatten, 1997 golden wedding tribute to his wife	"I think the main lesson we have learned is that tolerance is the one essential ingredient of any happy marriage. You can take it from me that the Queen has the quality of tolerance in abundance."
Marriage Anxiety	Before attempting a marriage divination, I like to make sure the client recognizes what they are asking for. Yes, they are asking for the timing of an event - and that is what Jyotisha does best! - but do they realize the significance of this event? How this event will change their life forever, in an often very difficult and angry way? So, I usually counsel anyone anxious about marriage to note that despite intensive marketing of wedding products and our lifelong socialization to "getmarried as a major status achievement, marriage is in fact not a fixed commodity. Marriage is, more than anything, a state of mind. This seems to be an important level of awareness for many marriage-timing clients, particularly those with insecure, demanding parents. First of all, we are benefited to remember that guilt causes reactive confusion And resulting poor decisions. Embarking upon a marriage for the central purpose of to assuaging filial guilt will perpetuate the guilt in the marriage environment. Parents who push their children into marriage to alleviate their own social insecurity are compounding the marriage anxiety and making the astrologer's job hard to accomplish! The client who "needs to be married within the next yearin order to satisfy some social requirement (esp. parents) is likely to be entering a very low consciousness marriage, and to not be using their own healing agenda as a guide to choosing their marriage partner. Yes I can see the timing of this event, but I can also foresee the bitter consequences. The client him/herself who demands marriage within a favorable time-and-money framework rather than allowing the spiritual healing agenda to dictate when they feel ready to take on a partner, is in "victim mode.Such a person feels that marriage is an uncontrollable experience which happens "toone. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Secondly, anxiety about loneliness, inferior social status of single women, etc. are is also symptomatic of an unconscious marriage. Unless bare physical survival is at stake, I like to counsel clients to be aware that marriage will cause many more problems than it solves. The se are good problems to have, of course - the problems of intimate healing, the problems of sharing the devastation of the cycle of birth and death with another being, the problems of vital and vigorous negotiation of identity, of meaning, of balance. Good problems to have. Having a wedding will not solve your problems. Having a wedding does create the possible conditions for healing, but at least in the short run being married simply compounds the scope and number of problems because there are two people's karma to manage now. I like to preface any anxious consultation about the timing of marriage with a rather sober lecture on taking responsibility for how this marriage unfolds, rather than hyperventilating with unbearable uncertainty about the calendar day of the ceremony. If it wasn't for the vow, which makes this union a truly sacred commitment, the day of the ceremony would have no value at all. The real work is not in "getting married but in "being married - for sure!
Rather, marriage is a Living Yoga	As the old joke goes, everyone wants to get married, but no one wants to "be married. But of course it is the "being married which is the true reality. There is really nothing to "get, except the social approval. All the work and all the reward is loaded into the "being" part. Marriage is actually a living spiritual environment like a garden which must be lovingly tended, through drought and frost, in good years and bad. It has weather cycles like the earth. A long dry spell might kill it. Much like a child, it is constantly in process, constantly negotiating for change, and requires constant awareness and attention. Clearly marriage is not a "thing or an "achievement but rather an interactive process. Marriage is an Ongoing yoga:a vital and supremely demanding negotiation for self-definition, core meaning, emotional security, and higher truth. Marriage is a sophisticated spiritual practice which needs dedication and wise guidance. The core of marriage practice is ongoing forgiveness which allows us to register disappointment, anger, grief etc. Forgiveness allows the native to accept responsibility for the karma, and - at the point of acknowledgement - to release the addiction to suffering, by releasing the attachment to the cause.
Marriage Dharma	n particular, the Marriage house's location in 9th-from-11th and 11th-from-9th shows how marriage expresses the power of Dharma in the native's life. Marriage partner brings Dharma (in the sense of Wisdom) to the native in two essential ways: as 9th-from-11th the marriage partner emerges from the web of native's friendly associations, as its finest fruit . Marriage partner is the Best and Wisest Connection in the native's entire network of associations (11), and as such the marriage partner attracts much prosperity as 11th-from-9th the marriage partner is the basis of "sangha or community of the wise. I.e, the marriage partner is one's Most Essential Connection to the wisdom that gives permanent meaning to life.
~~Dan Millman	"Inward spiritual practices such as meditation, breathing techniques and self-analysis generate insights and enhance abilities. But none are so useful as learning to live harmoniously in a committed relationship, being a skillful parent, or juggling the demands of daily life. "
Navamsha	Varga or "divisional charts show the results of any undertaking of life. the varga for marriage is Navamsha or 9th division, which shows the " fruits of Dharma. Presuming an accurate birth-time, navamsha (D-9) will be consulted side-by-side with radix (D-1) chart, to evaluate not only the material but also the inner psychological dynamics of marriage. Accurate predictions require concurrence between material (d-1) and psycho-emotional (d-9) configurations. Normally there is reasonable concurrence in the two perspectives. However, when the navamsha and radix spousal indications are contradictory, there is usually to be found a public/private split in which things look on the outside (d-1) much different than they feel on the inside (d-9) in the marriage. By and large there is also a matching pattern between: your navamsha and the partner's radix The partner's navamsha and your radix your navamsha and the partner's navamsha Moon linkage plays a major role The se D-1-to-D-9 links show the issues on which you two partners are spiritually working together. Traits which are dormant or subordinate in partner-1 will be alive or dominant in partner-2. Thus each partner mirrors the other's arising consciousness, and facilitates spiritual growth by evoking astral imagery into real world action. The navamsha reveals traits, desires, hopes, dreams, fears, etc. which are dormant but trying to rise into consciousness in your life. You find the partner who is already acting these out in the material world. You are intensely attracted to this person; they are everything you admire, everything you crave, everything you want to be. This person completes you; expresses you; forms your other half. Naturally, you marry them! Examine each house in Navamsha from the appropriate partner lagna to know the level of your soul that is just now moving from subconscious to conscious. We usually need partners to bring out this new personality growth in us. (Even if that partner is the ishtadevata.) navamsha 7th house represents first marriage spouse; navamsha lagna is you navamsha 2nd house represents second marriage spouse; navamsha 8th house is you navamsha 9th house represents third marriage spouse; navamsha 3rd house is you
Yoked Work: Managing marital cycles of Attraction-Repulsion, and Desire-Contempt	Every action has a reaction. *Every attraction contains its own repulsion.Ask any good Buddhist: if you are intensely attracted to something now, rest assured you will be intensely repulsed by that same thing in the future! A significant part of the work of marriage is learning to manage the cycles of desire and contempt one feels toward one's partner over long periods of time. All marriages are timed by Rahu-Ketu, which means that all marriages involve attraction-repulsion. In a love marriage, you personally are attracted and (later) repulsed - typically by the psycho-emotional qualities of the partner. In an arranged marriageyour guardians are attracted-repulsed - typically by the social-material qualities of the partner. But in either case Desire (which eventually boomerangs to Contempt) plays a major karmic role in Marriage. The karmic forces behind marriage are so strong that it seems not to matter much whether one "chooses one's mate through falling in love -- or allows that mate to be chosen by one's social guardians. When it is time for the karmic partner to find you, they will find you! It is often observed in modern India, where arranged marriages remain fairly common, that the success rate of Arranged marriages* Approximately equals the success rate of love marriages.That is, about 50% of marriages are satisfying; 50% problematic - regardless of whether they are romantic or arranged. The big-picture view is that, no matter what social mechanism selects the mate, we will all create (through impetus of samskara) a spouse/series of spouses who perfectly match our karmic job description :) The big-picture view is that, no matter what social mechanism selects the mate, we will all create (through impetus of samskara) a spouse/series of spouses who perfectly match our karmic job description :)
Yoked Work: Maintaining the Intention to Reach Agreement	Successful Marriage requires discipline, self-knowledge, and moral effort. Marriage can only survive when there is Agreement on how to conduct the division of karmic labor The higher and more spiritual sophisticated is the agreement level (spiritual, mental, social, financial, physical) the easier is the partnership. Physical work:not only doing the labor, but agreeing on how to do it, requires constant attention. Spiritual work: For those who feel ready to accept the austerity, marriage can be a high-speed vehicle toward consciousness. There is never perfect agreement (as long as humans have egos, anyway) and so there is never an effortless marriage.
Alternative Sexual Orientation Unions	Certainly the lines between gay vs. straight marriages are increasing blurred as modern societies move out of survival urgency, and sex-role divisions of labor fade into history... Yet, in these early years of the second millennium, it is generally the case that a majority of women experience greater emotional difficultly connecting with their father, and conversely majority of men experience greater emotional difficultly connecting with their mother. In order to continue their most significant spiritual work and break through their most challenging inner barriers, most women desire marriage to men, and most men to women. This gender-conventional attraction pattern is the most direct method of revealing and healing their childhood trauma with the opposite-gender parent. Which parent = "needs work"? But what if the greater difficulty, blocked emotional access, negligence, lack of expected guidance and nurturing, even physical abuse, is linked with the same-gender parent? Then, it is more likely that the subconscious will direct the native into a same-gender relationship. Men involved with men, and women involved with women, follow the same psycho-spiritual logicof attracting a spouse who mirrors that comfortable-but-oh-so-frustrating energy of the more difficult parent(including difficulty caused by absence). In these intimate relationships, the most difficult parent will hail from the same gender. These natives need to cross their inner fear barriers - barriers constructed in the subconscious which greatly limit freedom and happiness in the conscious life - by getting their healing information from the mirror of a same-gender spouse. Natives who follow a pattern of both straight and gay unions within one lifetime, are similarly recoveringessential but currently missing self-knowledgethat was originally sought from both parents, alternately. Natives raised by same-gender parental couples, composed of two men or two women in life partnership, will probably have the same results as children historically raised by mother-grandmother /father-grandfather or two-sister/two brother pairs; that is, one will seek a spouse who mirrors whichever parent-partner was more complex or difficult. Sex of the spouse will tend toward the sex of the difficult parent as in conventional unions, but at this point in the logic we need to be able to distinguish between sex and gender.
How to Know Who You're Going to Marry	The psycho-spiritual purpose of marriage is to work out the problems one had, in childhood, with the more-difficult parent. If you are looking for a marriage partner, it is fairly straightforward to define who that person is and when you might be ready to receive them into your life. Just be honest about your struggle to achieve complete emotional access to and validation from your more difficult parent. If you can define that struggle, you can define your next spouse! Sugar and Vinegar Marriage is yoked sugar and vinegar. The sugar comes first, but the sugar is designed to seduce one with shared hopes and dreams, and extract from one a life commitment. The sugar is soon joined by the vinegar. The vinegar is spiritually essential! The higher purpose of marriage - which is healing - is only possible to achieve if the vinegar is present! There must be pain, confrontation, disappointment, and grief in marriage... if there weren't, there would be no motive for the native to examine their subconsciously driven reactions. Only by examining our reactions can the hidden holdings of the subconscious be exposed. The struggle to heal deeper pain and experience higher freedom will go to phase-2 in your first marriage, phase-3 in your second marriage, and so forth. The struggle for one lifetime might start and finish within a single marriage (check palm lines to confirm). However the full healing endeavor can easily entail 2, 3 or more marriages in the modern era. The healing process can also go from gay to straight unions, and vice versa. If one knows one's own healing agenda well enough, it is quite possible to spot that next spouse at 500 yards.

In non-conventional unions, the symbolism of Sun as masculine and Moon as "feminine will signify father and mother, husband and wife, reason and intuition, etc. One of the strongest and most satisfying energetic pairings is male-Sun with female-Moon. This Sun-Moon configuration is both interpersonally and socially validating, and it contributes a major endurance factor into any partnership.

However, it is critically important to be intellectually vigilant in Jyotisha analysis of alternate sexual orientation unions.

The Sun-male/Moon-female balance works just as well emotionally and is just as socially sanctioned, when it occurs between a male guru and a male student, in a naturally dominant-subordinate or manifest-dormant type of wisdom relationship, such as guru-sisya.

The partner whom one attracts for the purpose of balancing a weakness of "Surya energy will have - relative to oneself - significant "masculine qualities such as stronger public presentation, more rational decisiveness, better developed (even overdeveloped) Ego.

The partner who is attracted in order to help balance a weakness of "Chandra will have significant "feminine qualities such as stronger listening skills, more patience, better developed intuition, and emotional sensitivity than the native.

However, despite the general patterns, there is no fixed requirement that this helper should have any particular anatomical attributes.

Healing, conscious intimate partnerships are legitimate and available in virtually every configuration of Sun, Moon, male, and female.

Sanjay Rath Opines that the native will Meet their first spouse during a period of Shukra.

In addition, the native should have marriageable age and status, according to the customs of their own culture.

A: Namaste, Generally speaking, marriage occurs in Vimshottari subperiods of one of the following graha

To trigger the marriage event, there should be a corresponding transit of Rahu-Ketu to one of the key points in either radix or navamsha, such as

More information about marriage from the D-1 and D-9 charts
D-1 Moons	Relationship between the partners' respective Moon lords will tell about overall emotional harmony in the marriage. E.g., Mesha Moon and Meena Moon although 2/12 have friendly lords, which assists compatibility.	Opposite moon pairs, such as his=Virgo, hers=Pisces, are auspicious for emotional balance and mutual cooperation in marriage. However the benefits of opposite-pairing are reduced when Moon lords are unfriendly, such as Leo-Aquarius, Moon in same rashi is excellent but beware both partners will get hit with Sade Saati at the same time.
D-1 Lagna	Relationship between the partners' Lagna lordswill tell about physical harmony	Opposite lagnas, opposite Venus-Mars can give lasting physical attraction. Same lagna is also very compatible.
D-1 Sun	Aspects between Moon and Sundisplay private vs. public role coordination. Psycho-emotionally these aspects reveal the mother/father balance in each person. Female Moon, in same rashi with Male Sun - or - Female Moon, in same rashi with Male Jupiter is excellent	Ravi in bhava-7 gives a broadly independent streak to the spouse. Surya here tends to attract partners who, while they may be very loving, also have their own way of doing things. On the plus side, Ravi in 7th gives strong negotiation and contract-agreement skills, so that you are also gifted to craft rational agreements between partners (presuming each Mercury position is OK). Do not expect much "naturalor emotional-affinity-based concord between the spouses when Surya occupies 7th radix or 7th navamsha. Surya represents the rational intelligence and leadership. Expect to do a lot of negotiating in marriage because both partners are strong-willedand self-concerned.
Venus (Shukra)	kalatrakaraka shows love attracted; rules incoming pleasures	To be happy over the long term, a couple must derive pleasure from at least some of the same habits, customs, ways of spending time and money, etc. Coordinated Venus positions really help. Venus in 7th makes aperson physically attractive and highly skilled in the erotic arts, but their sensual nature is strong enough to extend their affections to a second marriage when that time comes. Usually the first spouse is quite attractive if Venus in 7th is strong. Venus in the 7th house means two marriages,because there is "overflowwhen Venus occupies his own house. The first marriage may be very satisfying in its day, but eventually a second marriage should be expected (during some future bhukti of lord of the 2nd navamsha).
Mars (Kuja, Mangala) kuja dosha	shows love projected, gives outgoing sexual energy	wo opposing Mars, or Mars opposing Moon, may create a powerful emotional/sexual attraction initially. But unless other planets step in to smooth communication , Mars makes fights. he two partners' Venus and Mars positions reveal sexual communication style. These styles determine physical, emotional, and possibly spiritual sexual compatibility.
Mercury	profiles communication abilities	compatible Mercury positions are a major blessing, allowing the couple good internal communication Buddha characteristics also contribute to education levels; similarly educated people have high levels of cultural agreement that is a benefit in marriage
Jupiter shows wisdom, open-mindedness, and religious nature	represents religion, values, and consciousness, blessings earned in past life. em he couple's charts should show either religious agreement or personal respect (good Jupiter aspects to Sun, Mars, Mercury). Otherwise, arguments about ethics and religion can destroy mutual trust.	The person whose D-1 Jupiter conjuncts or trines your D-1 Moon will protect you and improve your life. Partner's Jupiter conjunct your Moon is generally a VERY GOOD thing. i > Ideally (very ideally) Jupiter in the male chart and Moon in the female chart should be in the same sign or trine signs.
Saturn shows responsibility and karma	determines one's karmic obstacles and work style	the partners' Saturn positions should be compatible if they are to enjoy an adequate division of labor Tight orbs between her Saturn and his Moon, or his Saturn and her Sun, may reveal emotional oppression. Conversely, well-related Saturn positions can give excellent working relationships, mutually respectful joint planning, and great wealth. Saturn and bhava-4 (10th-from-7th) shows the "public faceof the marriage.
Rahu- Ketu	Partner's Rahu conjunct your Moon is generally NOT a good thing. The person with Rahu in the same sign with your Chandra will cause you sorrow.
Dara-Pada	Arudha lagna of the rashi 7th house shows theinner truth of a marriage, Often a quite different story from how the marriage appears on the outside.