Unions 24:
Aspiring Film Star (Bollywood cinema)
Inquiry regarding future marriage partner(s)
Material Appearance of the Spouse - Primary agents of spousal appearance: - Characteristics of the spouse seen from the radix domain-7
Respected Madam,
Namashkar,
Thankz for updating the queries, also is Mars/Saturn, period will it bring marriage in my life, as per the Navamsha lord method looking for matching energy and expectations, it comes out very true that I have always wished my life partner to be BEAUTIFUL, SMART, TALL and committed to me, which the most missing element in my life.
Since Shani is D-1, D-9 Lord of 7th and occupies Tula Navamsha, and Venus in Scorpio, I guess the expectations are likely to be matched.
But other placements of Rahu, Shani and Ketu impact on seventh house makes a bit fearful about the martial harmony.
I wish that conflict and disharmony/divorce does not happen in marriage and after marriage. bcoz we r suffering from such conflict based marriage problem of my sister.
I read in one of your article (Lisa Presley) that if Rahu joins 7th house lord it gives multiple marriages, I have that combination in 1st house.....
Also I am wearing a Yellow Sapphire and Mooga, and Mars is combust, along with Mercury and Mars weak Shadbala points.
Best Regards,
Jai Ganesha.
A:
The first step in reasoning out the marriage patterns via the vidya of Jyotisha is to examine the navamsha.
L-7 navamsha is the most critical item. In this nativity, L-7 navamsha = Shani.
And, Shani is also - as you note - also L-7 radix.
So, Shani will be extremely influential in matters of spousal appearance & behaviors. The Shani characteristics of discipline, small or cramped size, restriction, delay, fruits of time and neutrality, scarce resource management, time, time, time, age, bones, work, working classes, conformity, rigidity, rules, structure, limitations, conditions, restrictions, common sense, lowest common denominator, conservation, and maturity will all influence the appearance & behavior of the spouse.
Domain-7 receives drishti of Shani/Rahu.
Kuja/Shani period approaches during the simultaneous period of gochara Rahu/Ketu crossing the navamsha lagna. So, yes, expect marriage during Kuja/Shani period.
Clearly the spouse will be:
relatively short statured, due to Shani.
loyal in marriage, by and large, due to Shani.
health and debt problems, due to L-6 Shani
relatively conservative in social outlook, and identified with working class concerns, due to Shani
Shani/Rahu's drishti makes her willing to marry across conventional caste/tribe/religious lines, and break some taboos while respecting others. May be a confusing mix of conservative politics and dire negativity regarding social reform, along with personal laissez-faire and surprising entitlement to abandon her impoverished roots & improve her own circumstance.
L-8 in domain-12 = the spouse contributes very little money to the joint assets of marriage; however she may contribute something worth more than money, which is secret connections to confidential information, and an international network of well-wishers
Dark in complexion, due to Shani/Rahu drishti.
From a foreign or different class background than the native, due to Shani/Rahu drishti.
Emotionally distant due to Ketu/7.
Compelled by harsh circumstances, due to proliferation of Shani effects. However these circumstances have to some extent built a powerful work ethic and deep understanding of class/social structure.
an entertainer, political organizer, humanistic educator, poet, storyteller, sports enthusiast; NGO or charitable organization worker; very concerned with social justice but often (rightfully) pessimistic about it
professional service occurs in the marketplace of Women (Shukra in 10th-from-7th) offering women exotic beauty products or experiences. May be a manager or guide to struggling cooperatives of women workers, or concerned with the welfare of prostitutes or female slaves
There may be long marital separations caused by duty, due to Rahu-Ketu in lagna/7 and Shani.
Both spouses have fixed nature. Both are good-quality people.
Violent disagreement is unlikely. Quiet, perpetual disagreement on proper distribution of scarce resources is very likely.
This marriage requires a firm financial budget and pre-marital agreement on the number of children and how to educate them.
If both partners understand that they have chosen a solid, materially frugal path of marriage, they will not suffer from disappointed delusions. Being clear, neutral, and morally mature will make this marriage much more pleasant.
Occupying a rashi of Shukra in navamsha (where uccha Shani is well-positioned in kendra albeit yuti some unhappy co-tenants), Shani tells us that the spouse will evoke dormant Shukra behaviors & perceptual patterns in the native.
What is the influence of the radix lord of L-7's navamsha?
The native fosters a great desire to be loved and cherished; yet, Shukra is over-energized in the rashi of Kuja, and the native may take on some of the traits of his parents (domain-4) enjoying ego-validation and praise from the public. If the spouse does not praise him and frequently applaud - which is not really natural for the exhausted wife and mother of small children - the native may direct his energies out of the home, toward the public stage - where he is likely to hear the applause he craves.
The purpose of each incarnation is complete self knowledge. When the Self is fully understood, the native will identity with and comprehend the Divine. Until that time it is necessary to keep attracting partners who serve as Mirrors of the Self.
These can be spiritually intimate partners (ishtadevata), or physically intimate partners, or very complex social partners in business & politics. But all of us do attract partners, and interact with those partners, constantly. The yogi in the cave is involved with some extremely complex and demanding partners, albeit they communicate on the astral plane. The more spiritualized the partnership becomes, the harder one must work to break through barriers of opposition and difference. So, if you have a simple, commonplace materialistic marriage based on raising proper children and keeping your anxious parents at bay, count yourself lucky! The further one moves away from conventional social-material marriage and toward marriage with saints & deities - the harder it gets!
Why do we need Mirrors?
It is similar to driving an automobile. Not all the information needed to drive safely can be known from looking straight ahead. Mirrors are needed to see the sides and back of the car. Only then, looking at the whole action-reaction environment, can a safe driving choice be made.
In marriage, it is similar. Not all details of the Self can be known through introspection. Much information about our subconsciously driven reactive patterns can ONLY be discovered during the process of reacting to someone. It is necessary to be reacting frequently, over an extended period of time, to understand how one is behaving in the full action-reaction environment.
If only THAT person would change. If only THAT person would leave me alone, or make more money, or improve their behavior.
Yes, the process of projecting, blaming, transferring responsibility to the Other - i.e. marriage and partnership - this is mission-critical spiritual work. Everyone is involved in this work. It is the essence of human reality.
Shani is the greatest of all the graha, and the greatest spiritualizer. Shani is honest, sober, and practical. The spouse is a hard working woman with a sincere concern for social justice. Marriage may have financial, health, and cultural conflict but there will also be genuine good will and dedication to the marriage.
Material Appearance of the Spouse
Respected Madam, Namaskar,
This question is about the external appearance of my spouse. In D-9,shows all the internal beauty of spouse, in relation with me. Madam i have always wished, my spouse having both external and internal beauty, i am 71 inches tall, and i wish her to be at least 66 inches, slim and fair. Can all this be determined, u have stated before that she will be dark, that shud apply to me becoz Rahu is in my Lagna, hers wud be Karka lagna in D-9,and moon with venus shud make her beautiful and fair as i expect along with inner beauty of gud heart of tula fourth house.
Wish me tht i get atleast the partner of my desire.....tht wud change my life and give me happiness and new direction.
-- Jai Ganesha.
IMO the radix domain-7, its lord, and drishti upon this domain will determine the material constitution of the spouse.
The navamsha is much more definitive of the psychic and psychological character of the spouse.
In both radix and navamsha, indicators of the spouse are actually mirrors of unfulfilled or dormant qualities in the native which s/he wishes to develop by living with these qualities in a sustained intimate relationship.
Therefore domain-7 of radix and domain-7's relationships to all the other radix bhavas will reveal more definitively the appearance of the spouse.
Of course the hierarchy of energy manifestation is that spiritual originates, spiritual percolates into the interstitial spaces between causal-layer particles, then causal layer particles percolate into the interstitial spaces between astral plane particles, and finally astral plane particles will percolate into the wide spaces between material plane particles.
Therefore it is absolutely true that astral bodies, which are represented in the navamsha, will "shine through" the physical body. Indeed, the physical body does not originate anything, but rather the physical body is entirely the result of cascading patterns of spiritual energy finding a resting state at causal then astral then physical layers.
So it is absolutely true that the navamsha defines the appearance of the spouse in the sense that our astral bodies define or set the framework for our physical bodies. Indeed the astral particles manifest first, take their positions, form their patterns, and only afterward do the material-body particles enter the spaces available in the lattice patterns set by the astral form.
So, yes, we must read the navamsha to know the truth of the spouse including psychic factors which ultimately define and control their material appearance.
However to read the material appearance directly the radix, which reads the material plane, should be consulted directly.
Primary agents of spousal appearance:
Lord Shani owns and aspects domain-7
Rahu drishti to Domain-7; Ketu occupies domain-7
lord of Shani/Rahu is the golden-red Surya/Dhanau
Shani is also L-7 navamsha so the material manifestation of spouse in navamsha would be provided via radix Shani behavior anyway
Shani occupies the nakshatra of Purvaphalguni, padaa-3
"You will shoulder many responsibilities, you have trouble saying "no" and can be somewhat overburdened at times. You will get no monetary benefit in return, whereas even earned income is lost in such public service. However, you will be renowned for your sincerity, truthfulness and several activities are based on your presence. It may appear to the public that all activities will come to a standstill without you." (Das/Behari)
Keep in mind always that the "purpose" of having a spouse is to benefit spiritually from seeing hidden aspects of one's own self & behavior, reflected in the mirror of Other.
All traits of Shani are indeed one's own past-life accruals which are simply displayed in bright clarity in the mirror of the spouse. The spouse is a blessing & their presence in one's life is a huge benefit for spiritual development.
Resist any temptation to judge or control the spouse. They mirror back what is projected upon them. Instead, consider the nature of one's own projected energy and adjust those projections.
Characteristics of the spouse seen from the radix domain-7 include:
L-7 in domain-1 = the spouse is deeply socially identified with the native. Her husband is everything to her. He defines her. The native provides this spouse with a strong public identity & a sort of "engine" of social performance, setting tasks & goals for her, through which performance she supports him. Her own identity is quite detached. She may have a special devotion to Shri Ganesha.
Shani is darkest blue, matte, opaque, fear-driven, herd-instinct, ruler of jungle creatures. He rules fixed patterns and processes of all kinds.
Rahu is oily, smoky grey. Ketu is hazy whitish.
The spouse is conservative, respectful to elders, perhaps lower caste, & quite sexual. The high sexual awareness & permission to experiment comes from Ketu, which in domain-7 gives disregard for social norms. This person is detached but hard-working and might be fun to travel with because she is open to new experiences. However normally the strong Shani influence makes this person need a fixed daily routine.
Appearance will be largely controlled by Shani/Rahu/Ketu. Dark dry (Kumbha) skin with oily patches. Abundant kapha luxurious hair & strong white teeth (uccha Guru/domain-8 for spouses face/hair/teeth), glowing dark-reddish-copper cast to the complexion (due to Shani/Rahu being in Simha & Shukra ruled by Kuja). Shani makes the native relatively short in stature. Kuja ruling Shukra contributes an attractive and athletic musculature, with a tendency toward broad and fertile hips.
Rahu gives a charismatic or exotic beauty, but with some dark red wildness. The native may be darker complected than her siblings. Ketu in domain-7 causes the native to live in her own head somewhat; so that the body has a gracious appearance, often slender, and a distant expression. . General effect of Rahu = exotic attractiveness.
Characteristics of Shukra also can be taken into account. Shukra the karaka for spouse is ruled by yogakaraka Kuja/Dhanau, and Shukra receives drishti of uccha Guru. The native is raised in a loving and sensual home, and the spouse will continue the female emphasis on home life, roots, and deep psycho-emotional engagement with the family. The spouse may prefer to remain at home, eschewing public life for the comforts of her own den. However, Shani may compel her workforce labor at various times for survival purposes.
Kuja's rulership of Shukra contributes a dark-red-golden-copper cast to the complexion. The combined effect on Shukra is contributed by all three Dhanau graha - Kuja/Surya/Budha - with Surya having most effect because Surya also rules the L-7 Shani/Rahu. The spouse is beautiful in the light of dark golden radiance, similar to a much-worshipped brass temple image.
Uccha Guru drishti to Shukra plus uccha Guru as lord of all the Dhanau graha gives fertility. Blessings of a small number of children and a happy home. Number of children is restricted by hot & barren graha in native's domain-5, but the drishti of uccha Guru upon Shukra is beneficial.
Spouse may decorate & operate her home in a very similar cultural pattern to what the native was raised with by his own mother. Blessings of comfort & indulgence in the family home. The home welcomes naga-spirits, represented by shamans & practitioners of tantric arts. The wife's religious ritual is indicated by 9th-from-7th, domain-3. Her external religious practice (not meditation but daily home-blessing rituals) is concentrated into the home itself, due to L-3 Shukra occupying domain-4. She has minimal need to attend outside temples, and indeed may do so quite rarely.
She is articulate (Budha), capable (Shani), and reasonable (Surya). The spouse's hands - 3rd from 7th - are indicated by Chandra-Mesha whose lord Guru is exalted. Therefore she will have fine, intuitive, skillful hands.
There is no indication of unusually fair complexion or more than average height. The person is relatively dark-complected, relatively short-stature, & indeed quite attractive in her own dignified way.
Rahu in 4/10 angle to Shukra suggests one dimension of spouse's public persona is dealing with the immigrant or foreign-born working-class poor who have also many fascinating attributes. This professional disposition can manifest as success in the tourist/travel industry, in social work serving an immigrant population, or in the spouse being publicly viewed as a leader of a dark or occult population. (The people she leads are living in the cultural shadows, unfamiliar behaviors not understood by the mainstream). While somewhat detached in personal life, she has strong & steady character in public life. After marriage you and your family will live & work in a land of unfamiliar customs, outside the country of your birth.
Remember that we arrange spousal contracts long before the current birth. It is a mutual agreement providing mutual psychic benefit. although we often forget this in the current lifetime and blame the choice on parents or priests.
Q.
You know my worst weakness: love & emotions. I just lose all my inner strength gained in isolation or tough situations, when ever I fall prey to love. Not just for female. Also I tend to fall in love with places, things & people around me.
I am working in tough job conditions. As 3 months have passed, I feel I am in love with the oppressive heat in the factory environment, and the workers around me. At times, I feel I cannot quit the job, because many are facing these oppressions & surviving. I cannot run away from my roots which are so vividly present in this reality.
This love is my weakness. It stops me, it attaches me to the people around me, but this love only gives me pain. Eventually the people only discard their affection or they cheat me. It has always happened, but still I forgive them.
Help me how to tackle love & the inevitable later deceiving. How deal with pain? Such repetitive cycles have made me strong also. But the period of pain is heartbreaking. Love is the universal emotion and it should not be repaid by cheating.
A:
Shani/Rahu/Simha = karma = effort to discover True Love (Surya) currently oppressed in a Rashi of Shani
The native will fight - and win - a lifelong battle to Recognize the greater reality of Love which lies behind the the Lesser reality of Shani's focus on material survival & Rahu's constant yearning for the objects of passion & ambition.
The forces of materialism are especially strong in the social identity, when Shani/Rahu occupy lagna. This is not an inherently negative placement. It simply describes the intelligence work that the native has chosen for oneself in the current incarnation
Some of the Work involves emotional painful experience which is the result of confusing emotional need-based "love" with divine truth-based Love. This is a very reasonable confusion for a native whose spiritual agenda includes developing a powerful political identity with the working classes, their ethical rights, and their hunger for change & power, & the reality of their labors.
The experience of repression & restrictions in love is at least partially attributable to the challenging reality of Shani/Rahu in Simha, the rashi which rules self-expression that flows from the intelligent heart.
The native must accommodate his relationship to the working class while striving inwardly to develop an aristocracy of the spirit.
This is a tremendous challenge because, until the second Saturn Return at approx. age 56, there will be very little external, material evidence of inner royalty. If the native is too attached to external appearances and public validation of social identity, there can be 56 years of frustration and shortcoming.
However if the native knows in advance that his Greater Love nature - in the deepest and most spiritual sense of love, which means compassion - is his priority in life, then he can proceed to develop his knowledge of divine love without unnecessary concern for public approval.
There will be much hard work with this combination in lagna, but also the blessing of certainty that life is *intended* to be full of restriction and obstacles, especially in the area of Love.
Matters of need-based love and hunger for sensual experience should be understood more through placement of Chandra & Shukra. If the native can develop a strong conscious awareness of the differences between the nine primary channels of human experience - represented by the nine grahas - it will be much easier to distinguish between "love" in the higher sense of compassion (Surya) vs."love" in the sense of emotional need for social sheltering and ego-approval (Chandra) vs. "love" in the sense of sensual pleasure and physical attraction (Shukra).
It will be essential to establish an understanding of the distinction between the two main types of Love that humans crave. Humans hunger for both Divine Love, which is the true goal and which is not affected by emotional concerns like approval/betrayal or "cheating". But humans also hunger for Emotional Love, which in adulthood is the re-creation of the mother-child relationship.
Males in particular tend to crave the support & companionship of a mothering female. Males in particular would prefer this female to take control of the male's emotional world and satisfy those needs, so that the male can be free to do other things such as create material success.
It will be beneficial to be aware that each person, whether male or female, has their own set of emotional needs and that each person is responsible for understanding and addressing one's own needs. The partner is only a mirror.
If there is a repeating pattern of "betrayal" or "contempt" or "disdain", the native must accept emotional responsibility for owning the psychic template which continuously re-generates that pattern. The pattern emerges from a subconscious expectation of rejection or emotional harm which is a product of the native's own beliefs. One heals oneself emotionally, then partnership quality will improve.
The partner is only a mirror.
It is always a pleasure for humans to enjoy appropriate companionship with other humans. We are social animals. However it will backfire both emotionally and spiritually if the adult native expects a magical Other to enter their life and satisfy their emotional needs. Each member of the human partnership is fully responsible for continuous self-knowledge and conscious pursuit of emotional & spiritual truth.
Often the partner appears to show aspects of the Self and point to forward movement on the path. Partners are wonderful aids to emotional healing! But a satisfying, equal, and productive partnership is only possible after the native has looked carefully at one's childhood & examined the residual deep needs for sheltering and unconditional approval. Only on this basis can the appropriate partner be sought, and appreciated for the stability & nourishment they contribute to one's life.
For wholeness, each human must take a full inventory of their true emotional needs, hopes, and expectations; as well as consciously articulate one's own hopes to progress along the path of spiritual wisdom aiming toward ultimate merger of human and divine consciousness, the final blending of Sun and Moon. If there is a negative pattern in relationships, it can be eliminated through self-inquiry and emotionally intelligent practice.
The partner (including the partnered material environment, the partnered social class, the partnered advising relationship) is only a mirror.
May all beings venerate life as a state of deep spiritual intimacy.
updated: 15 April 2008
