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Emotional and Relationship effects in Radix and Navamsha Q: Hi Barbara -- What is it about Azlesa? It seems like the Jyotish scriptures, and most consulting Jyotishi's, complain about Azlesa too much. I have an Azlesa Moon - and I've been warned by several Indian jyotishi that this thing can get me into trouble. Something about snakes? What can you tell me about this position? Anything to watch out for emotionally? Do I tend to get stuck in a particular type of anxiety or unmet need? Any good stuff? Healing powers? Thanks. A : As H.H. Dalai Lama says, the desire for happiness is the most fundamental characteristic of human life. Everyone wants to be happy! The question of whether or not a person will be happy, feel happy, register the confirming thought that one is indeed experiencing a state of happiness - all depends on the person's belief system. Whether one achieves the happiness of a deep and satisfying connection with divine love, or whether one spends most of the incarnation in a state of resistance to that love, depends on one's subconscious expectations Andone's consciously held beliefs. For example, there are people who subconsciously believe that money is the root of all evil, or who believe they are not worthy enough to earn money themselves and therefore must steal it in order to have any at all. Those people will not ever be happy in the money department! Every time they go out to earn money, spend money, or have anything to do with money, their subconscious belief that this stuff is evil will destroy their ability to manage, possess and enjoy material wealth Similarly in the love department, what is one's fundamental belief about love? Is love defined as one's ability to see the divine in another human? If so then one's potential for happiness is amazingly complete and absolute. By contrast, if one's definition of love is "Attention for me, meeting my unmet childhood needs, flattery and sexual attraction" then this anxious desire to meet a chronic emotional need, rather than to simply bask in the glory of divine life, will frustrate that person in all of their love relationships. There is one key first step to transforming every single experience in life from a negative judgment into a positive confirmation of the presence of the divine in every molecule and every moment. That is to realize that here are no victims. Nothing happens "to" anyone. Each person is intentionally and individually creating his/her own experience, every detail of it. Conscious experience is generated precisely from The scriptof one's own subconsciously held beliefs and expectations. There is only one person who has the power to control one's script. No outside person or agency can originate any action or influence that the native is not subconsciously in agreement with. to sit around < class="auto-style22">waiting for "good" things to happen "to" oneself and at the same time living in fear of "bad" things possibly happening "to" one is a form of psycho-spiritual debility called superstition. Superstition literally means "above one's own place". Superstition is the extremely self-destructive mental act of placing the responsibility for one's own experience outside of the self, of investing one's reality-creating Authority into the person of a mysterious "Other". There is no "Other". The divine is the creative force, and The divine lives within. The divine is the source of all experience and the seed of all Love.If you are interested in looking CLOSER to the karmic learning curve assigned to the Azlesa Moon, look to one's own childhood trauma. Azlesa = a deeply needy Moon. Azlesa Chandra wants endless holding and attention. Yet Azlesa is convinced in advance (due to past-life and early childhood trauma) that it must sneak and slither and manipulate and cajole, invading boundariesboth physical and psychic, in order to get the loving emotional recognition (esp ouch) that it needs. Typically the seeds of this script are buried in childhood rejection trauma. The parents were too busy or unavailable to the child in a way that the child needed to sneak into the parents' lap, or their bed, or slither in like a snake silent and deceptive, in order to have the only possible chance at being recognized and held.Mom in particular is likely to have been mentally distracted and unable to sit quietly with the nurture-craving child. Most likely the mother's attention was directed to her own mercurial sexual-conversational relationships (Azlesa is a Nakshatra of Budha) not only personal but also administrative and commercial activities. Mom is a busy person with a lot going on in her head, and the child develops a manipulative style of getting her attentive touch - often involving deception. The key childhood behavior is to "sneak" into the parental embrace - such as waiting until the busy parent sits down for a work break, and instantly sliding into their lap - or sneaking into the parent's bed when they are sleeping. Then (here is the key Azlesa behavior) refusing to let go. Azlesa develops a patternof putting their loved ones into psychological and sometimes physical bondage, and even to the point of entrapment,in order for Azlesa's need for touch-healing and emotional attention to be satisfied. As a result of deep unmet needs getting locked into the repeating deceptive-entry and bondage pattern, Azlesa can be a manipulative and demanding "control-freak" in adult relationships. In Azlesa's own mind, one tells oneself that one is reaching out to touch others as a nurturing healer. But the deeper motive is usually a profound personal need. Unless that need can be satisfied on the level of divine union, Azlesa tends to exert too much Anxiety-drive controlin human unions, and their marriage-type unions generally do not last long. Despite the fact that when Azlesa factors are conscious and controlled, the Azlesa moon can be a great healer, the partners and children of less conscious types of Azlesa natives often learn to resent the man or woman with Azlesa Moon. One famous Azlesa Moon woman is Queen Elizabeth II of UK, who is famous for super-manipulating her children but at the same time being unavailable to them due to her public responsibilities. In reality, she rarely held them. Typical of Azlesa, Elizabeth used guilt and psychic manipulation as the primary glue to try to hold her core emotional relationships together, and naturally she felt resentment and anger from most of the recipients of this treatment within her family. The public may admire her, but she is not overly loved in her own family, due to the constant insecurity that drives her to manipulate anxiously rather than trust that her need for connection will be met in an honest fashion. Azlesa tends to be emotionally dishonest. Azlesa Moon also represents her own anxious upbringing with distant, distracted parents who used guilt and moral obligation As the primary method of bondingwith their loved ones. Unique factors for your personal Jyotisha nativity:
Because your Chandra sits directly in the Ascending rashi (the seat of the social personality "self") it is especially difficult for you to be objective regarding how you might be affecting other people. combust = Moudhya Chandra and Surya in the ascendant gives characteristic solipsism. With Surya, Shukra, and Chandra all in Azlesa lagna, there is an All-defining need for validationand attentionfor the Self, but not much energy available for validating and attending to the divine in others.
Attention is sought for one purpose, and that is to feed a deep need
for "
love". Unfortunately it is impossible to love others in
the true sense of love when one believes that the love comes from
outside, from the other person. Much of the pain in this relationship
scenario will reduce when one realizes that
"love" is not an act of possession. Unethical love relationships Certainly the
Azlesa graha in this nativity exacerbate the drive to possession, but
at the same time Shani's harsh and invalidating transit to Simha-Rahu is
battering Rahu's similar need to possess the object of its desire.
Shani's gochara oppression to Rahu temporarily imposes an unethical
quality upon the objects of one's desire. Thus the native is involved in
a hopeless dilemma of being
entwined in a profoundly unethical love relationship which
seems to be ill-conceived (Shani-Rahu) and yet due to the compulsions of
Azlesa one feels a deep and driving need to
hold this person in sexual and emotional bondage. Love indeed has nothing to do with any other person. Love originates
not outside the self but rather inside oneself. Love is always present
inside the self. In a love relationship, love is a gift to the other
person. Love can not be "obtained" - especially not from
surreptitiously binding and controlling another person! These may be the "Simha" lessons intended to be learned in this nativity during this very
difficult period. With such a cluster of "personal" graha near the
Chandra-radix lagna, this incarnation features a tremendous focus on attention to self. A constant questioning
of "what about me?" "what am I getting out of this"
"where is my reward?" along with psycho-mental distortions such as
jealousycan be
expected whenever the Azlesa cluster is triggered by bhukti or by a
strong gochara graha. The person is usually quite positive even radiant sociallyand
a pleasurable companion -- until the emotional hunger for attention rises
to the
moment of urgency. Even while one believes that one is acting from a
motivation to love others, all decisions in relationship are ultimately
motivated by one's very deep expectation that
without boundary invasion, without
manipulation, and without guilt, one will never be loved. These are deep
convictions that are often buried down in the subconscious expectations.
Yet it's worth looking intoifyou are interested in looking CLOSER.
p>Ashlesha people have the constant potential to develop into great healersesp. in any of the physical or psychological healing-touch professions. They are wonderful with children because of all the
touch and emotional bonding that teaching, nursing, and other
therapeutic professions require. Attentive and successful psychologists,
psychiatrists, hair stylists, and match-makers in traditional
cultures.
They are angels to the weak, the addicted, and the victim class. However the
Azlesa moon, esp for the female, will tend as a pattern to
alienate
their emotionally mature partners in adult life. Azlesa has the contradictory traits
of being psychically
invasive.
Initially, the Azlesa native makes a concerted effort to
earn the other person's trust. Azlesa works assiduously to discover as
many
private details as possible about the other person. In the beginning of a relationship, Azlesa's hunger for information
may feel to the new partner like flattery or admiration. Yet the soon- alienated
will often come to realize that Azlesa's motive
for prying and slithering so deeply into their
psychic-emotional-physical space and trying to bond so tightly, is
really just a way for the Azlesa to feel secure. The Azlesa
native bonds through
manipulation and entrapment, seduction, and guilt.The longer term
prognosis for honest and open relationships with almost any other adult
(except possibly other Karkata or Vrischika Moons) is typically quite
limited when Azlesa consciousness remains trapped in its default,
emotionally urgent bonding patterns.
Azlesa mothers love their children. Yet they usually combine a
distancing-rejection pattern with a guilt-bondage pattern . They pry into
their adult children's lives claiming a motive of love; but unfortunately
it is a deeper motive of hungry neediness for bondage and control ( Queen
Elizabeth II). There are no victims. Azlesa is always capable of reversing
the emotional dysfunction but few actually do. Azlesa's early
deprivation of affection trauma imposes is a deep pattern of
waiting passively for prey, deeply invading, not trusting, and then
feeling extremely resentful that the Other has withdrawn. Usually, in Jyotisha readings, I like to focus on positive traits. Most
people get more than enough criticism in their daily lives. It is
usually not helpful to frighten people! I prefer to validate Spirit,
knowing that everyone is doing the best they can at one's current level
of consciousness. Yet, one of the values of Jyotisha is the power of the vidya to
detect certain
past-life originating behaviors. Azlesa Moon is a notorious marker for superstition (placing love
power outside oneself) as well as self-centeredness masquerading as a
sincere concern for others. The Azlesa native will be healed from the
dysfunction through conscious replacement of the subconscious conviction
that things
happen "to" one with the
conscious conviction that one is
completely in charge of the moment-to-moment roll-out of one's own
incarnation. And as a corollary, confirmation of the principle belief that love comes only from the divine
heart within - love can never come from without. With these positive beliefs in firmly in place, there is no need to
feel anxious regarding the love behavior of another person. There is no
basis for the compulsion to bind
and manipulate so that one can "receive" love, be validated,
be held, be praised, be recognized, be honored. All the wonderful
feelings of support and validation indeed originate within. These
feelings can be matched by outside mirrors
whom we attract through the beauty of our souls. Let us not be deceived
(like Narcissus!) into believing that the truth somehow originates in
the mirror. The true source of love is the eternal and unchanging
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