insert nativity - NY/NJ

Namaste,

Be looking for strong patterns of advanced aggressive narcissism in the senior authority figures of the environment. Your own father, your younger sibling, the husband's father, the husband's mother and the husband himself are all implicated. Your own mother by Jyotisha evaluation would not have been a narcissist but may have been destroyed by one.

In the West we see narcissism as a response to devastating childhood trauma of being either not recognized or given negative attribution. Something happens to make the child self-hating. The survival response becomes desperate self-glorification. Not having their own inner value, narcissists need to appropriate the goodness of others. They are users.

Mainly the vampires are men, but women sometimes have it. Particularly women who are smart and also victims of racial or ethnic hatred, or women whose own father 'trained' them to address self-hatred with self-aggrandizing. Self-hating parents pass along this behavior to their children. Although if there are several children, usually only one child will be the heir apparent, usually a son. It's definitely a family affair.

Jyotisha-wise, a selfish vampire man (or men) shows up during time of Saturn and the Sun. Sun signifies male energy, especially rationality. (Your Sun is very strong which indicate the Father is very smart and rational.) It just so happens in your Jyotisha nativity, that the points for your father, brother, husband's parents, and husband himself are all being assaulted by the major markers for brutally advanced narcissism.

So I would predict that you will become the servant or even slave of these self-obsessed people in your attempt to be a highly ethical person, during the current period of Shani transiting Simha, where Shani brings oppression to Simha which is your purest ethical Self. It is possible to be very badly oppressed under these planetary circumstances, so I would urge you to set boundaries and protect yourself from the worst implications.

Beware of illusion of their sincerity or gratitude. You are not being appreciated. Any good actions you perform on their behalf must be rooted either in your personal altruism, or your firm personal intention to do what pragmatically works for you.

I mention this because the planets involved represent a heavy oppression of the Ego function which can be very damaging to the self-esteem unless it is consciously managed. Of course a Buddhist awareness of ego-mind structure and its essential nonexistence will be helpful, and practices for eradicating negative energy will also be healing. However IMO the psychological reality for anyone who still has working ego attachment in their lives (I.e., everyone except possibly the great saints of history) is potentially devastating. Thus my words of caution.

Narcissists never say thank you - unless that thank-you somehow reflects back upon them. Narcissists are extremely selfish to the point of insanity, but they do need to be *seen* as good (often supremely good) people. They have a fake self that does nice things and says nice things. But the fake self is not the real self. It appears only temporarily in the theatre of social interactions, as a fishing device, to get praise and admiration. They will offer compliments if in their own mind that is what a good person should do. But any compliment or acknowledgement which emits from the fake self, however nice at the moment, is not meant to nourish you: it is meant to reflect off you, who are seen by the narcissist( s) as a sort of inanimate mirror. Whatever gratitude you thought was being offered to you is not for you. It will ricochet back where it came from, back into the abyss of the self-hating person who is trying to look good. So the compliment can be destroyed in the next instant, as the narcissist returns to their vindictive, blaming, regular self.

I know I am preaching to the choir here considering your experience and professional background. However, your sense of self and basic moral decency is definitely under attack. It can be a learning experience if you have the physical energy and the presence of mind to use this barrage as a teaching example, of what you probably went through as a child, and young adult, with your own father. It may be helpful to have a clinical view of the disease.

But mainly from a Jyotisha point of view, this is an era of heavy karma. Self-protection and distancing from the worst of the assault - if done consciously - will satisfy Saturn's requirements to transform ignorance into wisdom. There is no grand cosmic rule that says you have to endure a victim role. What Saturn demands is structural understanding. If the psycho-emotional attacks are too brutal, a wise person will walk out of it. Not reactively, but as the result of mature, comprehensive, realistic appraisal. Saturn demands realism.

If necessary for your own survival, turn the situation over to professionals. Be sure that all ethical considerations have been reviewed. You will need to respond to a great deal of criticism from every possible angle. But put your own mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health first. Under these circumstances there may be no one to turn to except the voice of the divine. This is why I counsel to pursue spiritual company, ideally with scholars from one's own moral tradition. Negotiating your responsibilities properly and with good personal results for yourself will require a new perspective.

Surrounded by a group of narcissistic vampires who will drain your psychic energy until the moment of their death!!