Matching Up Down in Partnerships along the path

"... Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest,

whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure,

whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report;

if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise,

think on these things."

~~ Philippians 4:8(King James Version)

Essentially, the radix, varga charts, and various dasha systems divine the characteristics of what psychics call your "matching energy."

We are the complete movie-making team - producer, director, costume designer, casting agent, et al - within ourselves.

The way people create the beings and inanimate environment around them is by projecting our internal imagery on to a blank screen.

Human internal encoding pours out a massive stream of information. This information is permanent. It is stored from lifetime to lifetime in the container which our culture calls the "subconscious."

Only a small slice of the total information bank is available to conscious awareness. We acknowledge only that small slice as we proceed through normal life. Our limited access is actually a blessing because human body/mind is not yet evolved enough to handle greater truths. If we had access to the whole truth most of us would circuit-overload and go insane.

However, through meditation, trance, and other spiritual trainings it is possible to plumb the depths of the subconscious just a little bit, in a safe way, that can bring peace and confidence.

H.H. Dalai Lama. (2001.). Dzogchen: The Heart Essence of the Great Perfection.Thupten Jinpa and Richard Barron (Trans.), Patrick Gaffney (Ed.), foreword by Sogyal Rinpoche.

"In the realm of matter, one and the same object can serve as

a cause of happiness for some living beings,
and a cause of suffering for others.

Certain plants, for example, function as

medicine for some creatures,
but for other species they can be poisonous.

From the point of view of the object itself there is no difference,

but because of the physical constitution and the material state of the particular living being,
that single self-same object can affect them in different ways.

Then, in the sphere of our own experiences, the same holds true.

certain individual may appear to some as very friendly, kind and gentle, and so gives them feelings of happiness and pleasure.
Yet to others that same person can appear harmful and wicked, and so cause them discomfort and unhappiness.

What this kind of example points to is that, although external matter may act as a cause for our experience of pain and pleasure, the principal causethat determineswhether we experience happiness or suffering lies within."

Q: [from a person experiencing the repulsion part of the cycle, specifically repulsion to the partner's punishment energythat generates anger and manipulation in relationships]

You say that "If the punishment energy that holds the victim role (either living it or enabling it) in place is consciously released and spiritual harmony becomes the core truth, then spiritual harmony will be reflected back in all the heart relationships that ground through one's core."

How can punishment energy be released without destroying a historic, core, important relationship like a troubled marriage or a relationship with an abusive parent?

A: Releasing the punishment energy (a victimizing complex of guilt and grief) is a simple psychic act that has no predetermined social, financial, or moral consequences in a relationship.

Having set the energy at relaxed neutrality, it is quite easy to catch the people in one's environment who are throwing negative, grosser, reactive energy into one's space, because The contrast between the nice vibe where you set your psychic center versus the icky vibe where they pitch the energy, is felt in the physical body.It's easy and obvious to feel the difference in vibration.

Note: Most psychics use colors to set their energy. They'll often choose to set their spiritual space at gold, their work space at green, their children space at rosy pink, etc. But that's too complex for what we're talking about now - we're just talking about setting the core energy at neutral.

After the core energy is set at neutral any non-neutral energy (anger, anxiety, guilt grief etc.) that tries to penetrate the core is very easy to spot. And the purveyor of that energy is easy to identify because when you're around that person *if the boundaries are weak* you will lose the neutral centering and slip down into the lower poo-poo to match the privileged invader. (I.e. when the boundaries/conviction weaken one remains vulnerable to invasion by historically privileged negativity, old yucky patterns that might not be nice but one is habituated to them and they sneak in with a familiar person...)

So having set the core energy, made the commitment to operate from a psychic base of neutrality and amusement, what happens when some familiar person constantly barrages one with sustained onslaughts of negative energy? Initially there is lots of trial and error. I set my energy high, I want to live in peace and awareness, but some privileged person in my life constantly throws at me criticism, fear, belittlement, free-ranging anxiety, obsession, etc. What can I do to sustain the relationship?

Actually, there is nothing to actively do. Each soul is determined to advance out of ignorance toward merging with the divine. That's what souls do; that's what we're here for. If my awareness just took a big step up and I actually recognize the beauty of that neutral, reflective, clear state I am going to want to stay there - stay high on the ridge top. I will naturally, because of the nature of the human spirit, resist going down into the foggy bottom again. Ram Dass used to say, once the seed is planted, you can't really turn back. The seed grows upwards. It's our nature to strive upwards in consciousness, toward God, toward bliss.

Good verbal communication is the key at these junctures: the partner ahead talks about how he/she wants to feel in the relationship, the partners talk together about the repeating event configurations where habitual negative energy arises, and they work together consciously on those troublesome configurations to proactively release negative energy as it enters the shared activity field, never permitting it to enter the core.

Most importantly they proactively consciously replace the historic negative energy with positive energy ( intelligence, creativity, love) so that they can continue to share their bonding experiences (like child-raising) but at a much higher vibration.

However in order for the following partner to catch up with and match the leading partner's energy he/she MUST BE ABLE TO RECOGNIZE THE NEUTRAL PEACEFUL SPACE within themselves and they MUST WANT TO BE THERE.

If they don't know what that space is, if they have never felt the calm bliss of trust, or if they have perhaps felt it but they have been acculturated to believe that this calm state is the enemy -- so that their instinctive reaction to that neutral space is to destroy it, try to weigh it down into something grosser, slower, more familiar like anxiety or hatred or bitterness or fear - then from where would they match?

If the behind partner can't match "up" then in order to sustain the relationship the ahead partner will need to abandon his/her higher center and match "down". The human psyche naturally matches "up". It's trying to get to divine bliss. The path to the divine is orchestrated into a series of love matches, as we meet people who are running very slightly higher vibrations than ourselves, are attracted to them (gurus, parents, partners, children, friends) and we match "up" to the more subtle vibration of their higher awareness.

The prognosis for successfully "matching down" is poor indeed because it is simply against nature to "choose" unhappiness.

Even though the psychic decision to set one's core energy at neutrality is strictly personal with no pre-determined external implications, it definitely impacts all the core-to-core relationships as soon as one leaves one's own space and enters into social communication with another being.

Say for example, that after much deliberation one is firmly committed to feeling neutral [technically the valence of that state is neutral-to-slightly-positive, it's blissful amusement] but perhaps a financial obligation persistently invades one's space with negative energy. Say it's an old debt, maybe it's not a "fair" debt and there's lots of injustice, scarcity, bickering energy around it. Perhaps it's been hanging around forever dragging down one's energy but one stays in the conflict about whether one "should" [ guilt language] pay the debt.

If the commitment to neutrality is strong one wants this type of repeating negative energy out of one's space pronto. It becomes obvious that -- regardless of legal or moral principle -- to get this lingering junk out of one's space it is most efficient energetically to pay the bill and get on with life. In obvious housecleaning issues like money and law courts one knows that the goal of resolving the dispute is to obtain thatfeeling of freedom;knowing how one wants to feel and generally what it will take to restore that feeling allows one tocut to the chase very quickly. There is very little lingering in matters of principle and who was legally or morally right etc.

By contrast, somebody who is stuck at the lower levels will want to drag out these discussions about "fairness" forever as a control strategy. But "fair" is a construct of social morality designed to sustain societies full of people operating at lower levels of consciousness. So one of the consequences of setting higher core energy is that one is prone to "let go" of negative energy very quickly.

One is -- As a result of firmly setting a neutral valence in the core which opens one to rest in a state of trust-- largely liberated from bondage to public opinion and from an obsessive relationship to material wealth.

(However liberation from obsessive relationship to material wealth tends very much to increase wealth at ALL levels as state of trust/openness to abundance greatly eases and increases permission to enjoy!)

Q: You said that "Occasionally, an important relationship that was grounded in the former victim/blame space will be unable to reground at the higher energy level after the upgrade."

As I set my energy at neutrality while my partner wants to fight and bog me down in negativity, I think I see an unbridgeable gap. But I'd like to salvage my life partnership! We've been together a long time and we have a great deal invested in joint projects (family, business, sangha). Does the baby always goes out with the bathwater?

A: No, not if the partner is CAPABLE AND DESIROUS of matching at the higher level.

This is what last chances are all about - one final pass, REALLY CLOSELY CHECKING to make sure that the fallen-behind partner is given every opportunity to match up.

(There are 75-100 such core connections for each of us which reconfigure each lifetime.)