<bgsound src="../Dvorak_Slavonic_Dance.mid" loop="infinite"> </head> <body link="#0000FF" vlink="#800080" bgproperties="fixed" bgcolor="#999966"> <div align="center"> <table border="1" bgcolor="#FFFFFF" bordercolor="#000000" cellspacing="0" width="65%"> <tr> <td width="12%" rowspan="4" bordercolor="#000000" valign="top" background="../../backgrounds/plaid_July.jpg"></td> <td valign="top" bgcolor="#999966"> <p align="center"> <a href="../bAstrHom.htm"> <img src="../bpa_graf/bpl_jyotisha_logo3.gif" align="center" width="581"> The ight="297" alt="Barbara Pijan Lama Jyotisha Jyotish Vedic Astrology"> </a> </td> </tr> <tr> <td valign="top"> <p align="center"> <strong><span style="font-variant: small-caps"><font size="5">Sibling 1:</font></span><font size="5"><em> </em></font> </strong></p> <p align="center"> <strong><em> <font size="5"> Mentally Ill Twins</font></em> </strong></p> <hr> <p align="center"> <img border="0" src="sib_ch1_sib1.GIF" align="center" alt="sib_ch1_sib1.GIF" hspace="12" vspace="12" width="550"> The ight="277"></p> <hr> <strong><img border="0" src="sib1_sib1_D3.GIF" align="right" width="274"> The ight="273"> </strong>Nothing is harder to accept than <span style="background-color: #FFFF99"> mental illness within one's own family.</span></p > A mentally ill parent, child, or sibling forces the difficult choice of separation versus continued disturbance, and often attacks, upon the native.</p> his nativity represents the twin female who reports that her troubled sister has exhibited <b>long-term mental illness, constant verbal accusations, outbursts and verbal aggression</b> throughout their shared lifetime.</p> he reporting twin denies that she participates in this negative behavior. Instead, the reporting female twin (who is slightly elder) reports that she "distances herself" and tries to work out a reasonable solution - only to collapse in tearful frustration at the aggressive verbal attacks.</p> he twins were born only a few minutes apart and thus have <i he same radix nativity</i>, above.</p > However the finer vargas display some important differences, esp. D-12 for relationship to the parents. See below.</p> <hr> <font size="4">Sibling karakas:</font></p> <ul> <li> 3rd-from-Chandra = Kumbha, no tenants</li> <li> lord of 3rd-from-Chandra =<b> Shani + Rahu</b></li> <li> 3rd-from-lagna= <ul> <li > <b> Occupying Shani + Rahu,</b></li> <li > <b>mutual aspect to the Budha-Ketu pair</b></li> </ul> </li> <li> lord of 3rd-from-lagna =<b> inauspicious but powerful L-3/L-8 uchcha Kuja</b></li> <li> Lord of 3rd-from-3rd = L-5 =<b> Shani + Rahu</b></li> <li> Kuja (brethren, the co-fighting aspect) = <b>L-3/L-8 uchcha Kuja</b></li> <li> 3rd-from-Kuja = L-4/L-7 <b>uchcha Guru</b></li> <li> Budha (brethren, the co-communicating aspect) = <b>lagnesha L-10 (public reputation) Budha + Ketu</b></li> <li> Lord of 3rd-from-Budha = <b>Mula Chandra</b></li> <li> role of L-3 in <a href="../Topics/Varga_divisional.htm"> Drekkhamsha</a> = <b>Kuja + Budha, aggressive talk, arguments</b></li> </ul> <hr> <font size="4"><img border="0" src="sib1_dasha1.GIF" align="right" alt="sib1_dasha1.GIF" hspace="12" vspace="12" width="163"> The ight="578" wins</font></p> hese non-fraternal female twins <b><i>Hofi</i> </b> And<b> <i>Helga</i> </b> Are the sole children of their parents.</p > <b>Rahu/Shani </b>period during the twin's mid-life era, greatly exacerbated a lifetime situation of extreme jealousy and attacks directed by twin #2 upon twin #1.</p> he core jealousy trigger in mentally ill "twin #2" seems to be extreme anxiety in getting attention from the mother. The twins have played out this competition-for-attention dynamic their whole lives. However, during their joint <b>Rahu/Shani </b>period the mother became an elderly dependent, and the mentally-ill twin #2 renewed verbal and physical attacks upon twin #1.</p> <hr> Twin-1 reports that this pair, together since conception, were always <span style="background-color: #FFFF99"> competitive, disliked each others' friends, and distrusted each others' motives.</span></p > Twin-1 was socially conservative, academically superior, and imitated her parents both physically and culturally.</p > By contrast, Twin-2 was 'polarized as experimental or wild in nature and an academic underachiever. Twin-2 moved away from the family both psychically and physically at an early age.</p > Twin-1 married in early adulthood and created a stable work history, although no children (L-5 Shani in intensifying parivartamsha yoga with inauspicious L-3/L-8 uchcha Kuja in putra bhava).</p> win- has never married nor produced children, and Twin-2 has a historically unstable work history.</p> he reported discomfort in their sibling relationships occurs not in public performance, but rather in very stressful intensely private internecine "acting out" struggles <span style="background-color: #FFFF99"> between the parents and their twin daughters.</span><b><i></i></b> </p> hese dramatic outbursts are identity-defining events in the lifelong family dynamic, and have persisted from their childhood into middle age.</p> <hr> <font size="4">Salient features of the nativity:</font></p > <font size="4">Special consideration for Twins:</font></p> <ul> <li> <span style="background-color: #FFFF99"> Ketu + Budha (vitally important for a twin!)</span></li> <li> <span style="background-color: #FFFF99"> Budha = lagnesha</span></li> <li> <span style="background-color: #FFFF99"> Ketu-Budha in mutual aspect to Shani-Rahu</span></li> </ul> <p > Ketu + Budha gives a deep and ineffable sense of loss for the true-equal conversation partner, who seems to have been taken away by circumstances beyond one's control.</p> <p > Ketu + Budha produces a longing for the <b>imagined satisfaction of union</b> with the <span style="background-color: #FFFF99"> perfectly matched and mirroring twin</span>.</p > Because Budha is also lagnesha, the native's sense of social role and social function is tightly bound to the dysfunctional behavior of her twin. The native becomes personally defined by the twin's actions, and by the native's reactive dissatisfaction (Ketu) with the thoughts and behaviors of the twin. They are a dysfunctional pair who are deeply defined by their joint dissatisfaction and disconnection from each other.</p > <font size="4">Special consideration for the Twins' relationship to their Parents:</font></p > <b><a href="../Nakshatras/Chandra_in_27_Nakshatra/19Mula_Chandra.htm"> Mula Chandra</a></b> in bandhu bhava =</p> <ul> <li> emotional trouble with the mother's recklessness, compulsive distancing behaviors, or unreliability. Insecurity deriving from the mother's detachment from her maternal role in maintaining basic security and nourishment in the home.</li> <li> General trouble with women who are expected to enter a supportive or nurturing role in the native's life (such as early life school teachers, grandmother, caretaker-guardians.)</li> <li> Mutual aspect of the <a href="../Topics/planet_friends.htm"> wo enemies</a> Shukra and Chandra gives both twin girls a slightly "spoiled" personality</li> </ul > <font size="4">Double Parivartamsha!</font></p > Budha + Shukra</p> <ul> <li> The native is a <b>highly accomplished literary translator</b> with a number of prestigious publications to her credit. Her linguistic and musical fluency is remarkable especially considering that she lives in a rather parochial environment.</li> </ul > Kuja + Shani</p> <hr> o evaluate sibling relationships, we look first at <a href="../Topics/3sahaja_bhava.htm"> bhratru bhava</a> and its lord, including the characteristics of L-3 in navamsha.</p > Additionally, we check the <i><b>drekkhamsha</b></i> a 3rd harmonic divisional chart or varga, which shows more subtle details of relationships with siblings. Behavior of radix L-3 in the <b><i>D-3</i></b> is often significant when analyzing a sibling issue. However, as with all varga charts, the <b><i>D-3</i></b> is only informative if the birth time is accurate!</p> Although Twin #2 has been mentally unstable troublesome since birth, her outbursts have increased in frequency and intensity since onset of <a href="../VimshottariDasha/Rahu_dasha.htm"> Rahu mahadasha.</a></p> <hr> <strong>he twin's third radix house </strong>is obviously a <b> stressful</b> place. L-6 Shani, who brings animosity, joins "churner" Rahu to provide a lifetime of mental duress from the sibling.</p > However there are planetary compensations which prove they will never be completely separated.</p> <ul> <li > <strong>Drishti of uchcha Guru </strong>from house-11 of older sibling shows some buffering of the troubles through the generous nature of Twin #1.</li> <li > <strong>Drishti of lagnesha Budha </strong>keeps them in communication no matter how emotionally wrenching the troubles may be.</li> </ul > Budha is also L-10 for Kanya lagna, which suggests that Budha's drishti to house-3 improves their joint public respectability. Each is a fairly dignified person in public life. Their troubles occur only in the sanctuary of family interaction.</p> <hr> <strong>Other karakas: </strong></p> <ul> <li > <strong>L-3 uchcha Kuja </strong>occupies 3rd-from-3rd, <b><i>putra bhava</i></b> .</li> <li > <b> Third house from Mangala </b>= Meena, L-7 = uchcha Guru</li> </ul> <hr> <strong>Mars' <a href="../Topics/dwadamsha.htm"> dwadamsha</a> </strong>sector is "discrimination"- giving the native many other successes in life against which to contrast her troubles with the sibling, so that the native will not feel crushed by her historic psychic oppressor!</p> <hr> <strong>Mars in navamsha </strong>with Ketu in Gemini, the sibling sign, suggests that trouble with siblings impacts her husband as well, so that her twin's antics disturb the native's marriage as well. Native confirms this is the case: after more than 20 years of enduring her antics, and after an especially high-voltage dramatic outburst, her long-suffering husband finally ejected the troublesome twin from their home in the beginning of Rahu mahadasha!</p> <hr> <strong><img border="0" src="sib1_sib1_D3.GIF" align="right" width="274"> The ight="273"> The "drekkhana" </strong>or Third Divisional Chart is the <i><b>"varga"</b></i> which reveals a more subtle truth about our relationship to those beings who have contracted to be our siblings in the current life. The native's <i><b>drekkana</b></i> shows Ketu rising, surely an indication of confusion in the sibling situation overall. (Also a clue that objectivity, meditation, and emotional detachment are the best strategies over the long term.)</p > <strong>Mars is fairly well situated in the D-3, </strong>accompanying Budha who is lagnesha is D1 and D3. Further confirmation that these siblings are very connected on a body level (they are twins!) and that under even the most stressful circumstances, they can probably arrange some type of communication. It might be Mars-type communication - fighting and yelling - but there will still be a connection, both physically and verbally.</p > <strong>Mars aspects the D-3 <i>sahaja-bhava</i>, </strong>showing the adversarial nature of the relationship, but Mercury also aspectsshowing improved communications since both siblings are intelligent and articulate. <b><i he favorable Mercury aspects suggests that most of the time, no matter how angry they get, these twins can talk.</i></b></p > <strong>Saturn </strong>again occupies the third house and aspects <i><b>bhratru-karaka</b></i> Mars within the D3, verifying that the sibling and the native are in bondage to each other through the link of their significant, shared, mutually oppressive mental depression. These twins may not get along at all pleasantly, and the native is 25-years married, but as a pair these twin females are still largely focused, psychically, on each other.</p > Saturn's bhukti mid-summer 2004 until spring 2007 should be especially difficult for the native and her twin. Undoubtedly the twin will suffer some type of mental-health breakdown or a related form of trauma.</p > On the good side perhaps the native and her sibling will enter into some form of guided healing interaction. Family therapy, past-life regression, and trance healing are all suitable to these psycho-dramatic Scorpio planets!</p> <hr> <p>Q: (from Helga):</p> <p><i>Hofi and I have been trying to work together to care for our ill, elderly mother, but Hofi seems to undermine and contradict every act or suggestion that I make regarding our surviving parent. She is jealous of any attention I get from my aging mother.</i></p> <p><i>Hofi blames me for everything that has gone wrong in her life, all the mistakes she's made (she has very bad judgment generally). She resents me as the "favorite one" - but Barbara I have to tell you, I have never felt that I was favored. This is something Hofi perceives but I do not perceive. My parents also deny any favoritism.</i></p> <p><i>Caring for my ill mother and resolving mama's financial mess has become almost impossible due to Hofi's disruptive interference. I am exhausted.</i></p> <p><i>Hofi has been accepted into a nurse-training programme abroad. Despite the heavier elder-care burden it will create for me, I am very much hoping that Hofi will leave our town and take her psycho-mental problems with her. Will she leave?</i></p> <hr> <pA: [these embattled twin sisters are 60 years old]</p> <p>Both you and Hofi are in the grips of a very heavy sense of responsibility [Shani]. However, each twin sister expresses her desire to Do the Right Thing from a different motivation and style. Twins generally agree in their perception of what's important, but their choice of <b>how to respond</b> to what's important will vary according to the very fined-tuned <a href="../Topics/Varga_divisional.htm"> Amsha</a> charts.</p> <p>You Helga and your only sibling, twin Hofi, have similar paths on many things but you start to vary considerably when it comes to parents, and how you each see yourself vis-à-vis the mother and the father. You Helga are more attuned to your parents actual values and behaviors. Most of your adult choices carry out the values of your upbringing.</p> <p>For example you returned to the roost to build your adult life, staying in Reykjavik for many of the lifestyle reasons that your parents chose to live there. Hofi was confused about whether she was eligible to carry on the parental traditions, because her uncertainty about her parent's connection to her dominates her consciousness. So, Hofi went to a foreign land to start a new life. (But, true to Ketu, she comes back often to try a to reconnect again. It barely works.)</p> <p>Hofi doesn't see her relationship to her parents in a stable way. She tries to make a positive connection with them but she rarely succeeds. She has many wishes, dreams, and delusions about the Right Response to her parents, but she misses most of the clues about who They are, because she is so focused on herself...</p> <p>You Helga on the other hand may not always agree with your parents but you have a practical and realistic sense of who they are. They may frustrate and disappoint you Rising neechcha Surya in Helga's dwadashamsha) but you are pragmatically inclined toward the parental relationship. You can negotiate most conflicts because your sense of who <i>you</i> are is quite clear and your sense of who <i hey</i> are is quite clear also (Sun/Moon opposed in D-12).</p> <p>You Helga can evaluate how much influence the parents have wielded in shaping your character (a lot) without launching into speculative wish-and-dream, nor blaming. Hofi due to <a href="../Topics/Ketu_Ganesha.htm"> Ketu</a> rising in the <a href="../Topics/Varga_divisional.htm"> Dwadashamsha</a> lacks this ability to see the parents clearly as external operators, as adults in their own right. She only sees them as agents of deprivation and taunting, as symbols of what she is NOT achieving in this life: social worth, connection and meaning. You are clear about your goals - if not always fully effective in achieving them - within the parental relationships. Hofi remains serious frustrated and confused about how to achieve that parental (and by extension, social-authority) validation, throughout life.</p> <p> OK so Hofi is faced with a stay-or-go choice. Stay with Mom which might be the Right Thing by someone's values - but it is Right according the way Hofi sees her parents? She won't know and she will change her mind frequently. She's still hoping for validation but she's been scape-goated as the "weird child" most of her life, and secretly suspects she can't win the praise she seeks.</p> <p>My prediction is, based on the dwadashamsha (her chart for parents) that she will - after much waffling - <b> Abandon the attempt to gain approval by nursing her mom</b>, and shift her prospects for approval into a public career - that is, <b>seek validation for nursing professionally</b>. This will be a very difficult choice for Hofi. She is so confused and upset by it that she will be rampaging through her environment looking for something/someone else to blame for her frustration.</p> <p hat's my reading of the differences between your "parent chart" and Hofi's "parent chart" (D-12). You Helga are in a perception zone of being detached from having big goals. You realize that even smaller goals will be hard to reach. (<b>Rahu</b>/<b>Shani period,</b> where Shani yuti Rahu occupies domain-3 for siblings, in parivartana with uchcha Kuja, another karaka for siblings.)</p> <p>It's a <b>slow, painstaking and nearly hopeless situation</b> with constant disruption. Maintaining stability (an asset of Shani) however should be fairly straightforward. But the important fact is that you are not expecting much change. Responsibilities are heavy but the situation is structured and stable.</p> <p>Shani in parivartana with His Lord Kuja has some excellent benefits: a slow, realistic, but determined capability to make material improvements (such as getting your Mom into a senior care center and organizing her financial affairs) despite resistance and interference from old family grievances, and the mental instability/aggressiveness of most of the family members involved.</p> <p>Hofi on the other hand has a confused relationship with her parents at birth. She doesn't know how to read the behavior of the parent realistically. She's still working on a very early childhood - maybe fetal - fearful expectation of abandonment by the parents (Ketu rising in D-12) and still trying to get validation through connection for them. As we note, the hoped-for connection is simply not forthcoming in this life.</p> <p>For spiritual reasons related to Hofi's path, that validation which she craves is very likely not going to manifest in this lifetime. Spiritually she has decided, a long time before she actually incarnated, that she prefers to cultivate detachment in the area of relationship to parents (D-12). This is a viable spiritual discipline and she will appreciate some gains in awareness caused by the deprivation, as she passes into her post-body astral awareness immediately following the time of death.</p> <p>But of course few people remember making a choice like this, nor can they appreciate that being deprived of something essential to ego completion, such as the approval of one's parents, can really be an intentional "choice". These folks feel like victims of others' uncaring, negligent, selfish behaviors - and the default for low consciousness holders when Ketu rises in most amsha's is to spend their whole lives looking for someone to blame for the fact that a particular type of supportive relationship is dysfunctional/disconnected. They are in emotional and psychological pain from abandonment. If you can muster compassion for this difficult-to-manage person and her erratic blaming behaviors, you too will benefit even though (barring Hofi getting meditation consciousness!) you can expect a lifetime of this sort of "acting out".</p> <p>So Hofi is in a sense condemned to rushing in to a care situation, then rushing out, and in again, all with a desperate, confused, needy sense of needing to connect - but not knowing where to plug in because she cannot really locate the parents in her frame of reference. It makes more sense for her to go the long way, and try to get validation as a Good Person and Healer Caretaker from the public at large.</p> <p>So I think that's what she'll do. But she's mighty confused, so she'll thrash around and blame whoever's nearby for blocking her, misleading her, and otherwise being the agent of disconnection between her and the parent. She's a nutcase in the areas of siblings and parents... although reasonably functional in many other areas.</p> <p>Hofi will have an <b>excellent career period 10/2008 until 5/2011</b> during the Rahu/Budha period, where Budha = L-1/L-4, very verbal, productive, and mentally alert! You will realize the same career benefits, Helga!</p> <p>If Hofi chooses to start nursing school in autumn 2007 the first year will be difficult because the antaradasha of L-6 will still be in progress... expect health problems, debt and animosity. But then rather miraculously when Rahu/Budha starts in Oct-2008, the career scene will improve, a lot!</p> <p>Hope this is helpful!! You two are quite the pair!</p> <p>Sincerely,</p> <p>Barbara Pijan Lama, Jyotishi</p> </td> </tr> <tr> <td valign="top"> <p align="center"> <img border="0" src="../bpa_graf/das_screens.GIF" width="446"> The ight="98"></p> <p align="center"> <strong><a href="../how_readings_work.htm"> <img border="0" src="../bpa_graf/read_req.GIF" width="382"> The ight="138" align="center"></a> </strong> </font></p> </td> </tr> <tr> <td valign="top" bgcolor="#FFFF99"> <p > <img src="../bpa_graf/Om_mani.jpg" alt="Om_mani.jpg" align="right" border="0" hspace="12" width="163"> The ight="76" vspace="12"> updated:<b> 21 July 2010 </b> </font></p> <p > <a href="../bpl_copyright.htm"> Copyright © 1994-2015 by Barbara Pijan Lama</a> - <a href="mailto:jyotisha@barbarapijan.com">Contact</a> - <a href="../../sitemap.htm"> Sitemap</a> - <a href="../payment_Jyotisha_services.htm"> <b>How to Request a Jyotisha Reading</b></a> - <i><a href="http://www.barbarapijan.com">www.barbarapijan.com</a></i></p> <hr> <p > - Barbara Pijan Lama Jyotisha Jyotish Vedic Astrology Horoscope Readings Surya Sun Chandra Moon Mangala Mars Budha Mercury Guru Jupiter Shukra Venus Shani Saturn Rahu Ketu Graha Planets Dasha Timeline Nakshatra Navamsha Marriage Children Wealth Career Spiritual Wisdom Death</p> </td> </tr> </table> </div> </body> </html>