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Lord of
House-7 and
Lord of 7th-from-Chandra
in the Twelve Domains role of the
Yuga pathi
Bargains, deals, agreements, contracts, negotiations, seeking balance,
alliances made to promote mutual interest, marriage, partnership, union
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L-7
in
Domain
1
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Auspicious and identity-enhancing position, L-7 in
7th-from-swakshetra.
Spouse builds the native's capacity for iconic and symbolic body-image
representation. Developing the psycho-physical appearance is the most
important result of marriage.
The native's social identity is deeply invested
in one's marriage status. One sees oneself as a married person, a
properly contracted person, and a socially balanced person. No matter the degree
of conflict or incompatibility, divorce is usually too high a price to
pay for this native.
One's choices in life are much determined by the
spouse and the spouse's character. If the spouse is caring and
dignified, the native's own uncertainties are much reduced. |
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L-7
in
Domain
2
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Inauspicious and secretive position, L-7 in
8th-from-swakshetra.
Spouse builds the native's capacity for wealth and acquisitions.
Developing the historic bloodline or cultural lineage of both wealth and
knowledge is the most important result of marriage.
Problematic for the
first marriage. The spouse is psychologically complex and controlling.
Similar to the "virtual widowhood" of L-7 in domain-8. It
is as if the spouse is married to the greater world, and not to a human
partner. Spouse is
concerned with the zeitgeist, performing on the stage of history,
wealth-building, huge movements of social values change, and major turnings of the
cycle of birth and death. The spouse is self-identified as a
public agent of transformative change. Most
of the relationship energy is diverted into developing the spouse's own
role upon the world stage. As a result, the native is ignored. Indeed
one may feel quite unworthy of requesting the spouse's interest, since
to do so would distract them from the greater matters which demand their
attention..
As a result of the spouse's energy being largely
consumed with giant transformative forces (8) the native may not get the
marital attention one requires.
The native's simple need for companionship
gets somewhat left behind in the spouse's concern with larger matters,
and
unless the native is willing to sacrifice one's own life in the process,
marital infidelity can easily result. There is typically a hidden
outside companion, and the companion is also married.
If Shukra is damaged (Prince
Charles ,
Bill
Clinton) expect scandal through the marriage difficulties.
L-7 in domain-2 signifies
a second marriage which is better aligned with the native's deeper life
needs than the first. The second marriage typically fulfills
the native's positive expectations of spousal love and commitment. |
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L-7 in
Domain
3
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Auspicious and guidance-providing position, L-7 in
9th-from-swakshetra.
Spouse builds the native's capacity for producing publications and
announcements. Communications skills development is the most important
result of marriage. Spouse
may be in charge of the marital money; stronger
when L-7 = benefic. Spouse is organized and administratively minded.
Spouse takes a sibling attitude toward the marriage partnership, and is helpful
in the style indicated by the nature of the graha which is L-7.
Spouse
brings assets into the marriage, either social or financial or both.
The native enjoys a tolerance for constant travel and occasional loss of the
one's home
through professional relocation (domain-3) or a lifestyle of shifting
between several homes (George
H.W. Bush,
Oprah
Winfrey). If L-7 is poorly aspected, spouse may
have mental health concerns. |
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L-7
in
Domain
4
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Auspicious and respectable position, L-7 in
10th-from-swakshetra. Spousal behavior will strongly resemble either of
the parents, more often the mother.
Spouse builds the native's capacity for sheltering and establishing a
home. Stability and security through reinforcement of cultural roots is
the most important result of marriage.
The native's social
and emotional
security depends considerably on the behavior of the spouse. Spouse has
a conservative nature, is loyally attached to the cultural values of
their birth land. Spouse is strongly identified with being a parent and
cultural role model. May
be a school teacher, property manager, or a patriotic government
official.
If malefic, the parental behavior which the spouse
repeats is difficult to manage. |
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L-7
in
Domain
5
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Auspicious and gainful position, L-7 in
11th-from-swakshetra.
Spouse builds the native's capacity for creating children and other
performance art. Political, royal, and literary performance is the most
important result of marriage.
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If L-7 = benefic graha,
spouse is gainful, friendly, creative, and identifies strongly with children
from the marriage. Spouse will be involved in positive amusements such
as romantic weekends with the native, creating and working with
children, and
writing of inspirational speeches, poetry and fine literature.
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Even
if L-7 = malefic, this graha will be fruitful in
domain-5. Creates at least one child, at least some profits, and
generates a community of associations around the marriage.
If malefic, spouse will be involved in more
negative (nevertheless interesting) amusements such as
gambling,
rough political contests, and lower forms of theatre. Spousal
intelligence is strong, but if L-7 = malefic, the creative path may have
vulgar qualities. |
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L-7
in
Domain
6
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Inauspicious and loss-causing position, L-7 in
12th-from-swakshetra.
Exceptionally inauspicious for marriage, particularly when L-7 is a
natural malefic (lagna of
Vrishabha,
Karkata,
Simha,
Thula).
Spouse builds the native's capacity for argumentation. Dealing with
chronic underlying distrust is the most important result of marriage.
Loss of
marital agreement is part of the experience.
If L-7 is dignified, this position can grant a good
career for the spouse in one of the professions that manages social conflict
(attorney, physician, urban planner, social worker, etc).
However the
spouse is likely to have considerable inner conflict also. Even if L-7
in domain-6 helps the profession, it will afflict the marriage to some
degree.
Psychological withdrawal
and withholding of
full participation in marriage, along with lack of initiative to make
needed changes. Exhaustion, loss of identity within the partnership.
Chronic resistance to marital negotiation, therapeutic dialog, or legal action.
Unable to act in either a positive or negative direction; tends to
subsist in a low-energy state. Most of the marriage energy goes into the
realm of the imagination.
The native is unhappy, and the spouse is
"stuck" in their own problems. Typically, spouse self-medicates.
Substance addictions and depression in the spouse.
Rue McClanahan
(Golden Girls "Blanche")
= six marriages,
theatrical career roles also emphasize marital disagreements
Dennis Hopper
= five marriages, theatrical career roles also emphasize marital
disagreements |
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L-7 in
Domain
7
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Auspicious socially,
yet the partner may become an overwhelmingly strong influence in one's
life.
Spouse builds the native's capacity for making alliances.
Contract-making is the most important result of marriage.
Constant bargaining and deal-making
may consume the
vitality of both
partners, leaving little energy for more harmonious resting in the
existing agreement.
The partner has such a
vivid personality that the
native's psychological growth into maturity is stunted. "Too much partner." Usually
a vigorously negotiating partner.
The partner has a dominating personality according to the nature of the
L-7. The need to accommodate one's partner's interests and style
can dominate one's agreement-crafting and social balancing process.
Marriage defines the personal identity to an undue extent.
Spouse is in charge of the couple's social
life; one's spouse represents the couple in public. The native will permit
this spouse to control the public image of the marriage, even if that
image is intimately inaccurate.
Typically the native is authentically engaged in the sexual aspect of
marriage, as well as other interactive and negotiating behaviors of relationship.
The spouse is welcoming when L-7 = benefic.
If
L-7 = Shukra, yuvati bhava will = Vrishabha or Thula. The partner's
role in one's life = provider and procurer of wealth and pleasure.
However with Shukra as L-7 in 7,
karako bhavo nashto
(too much bargaining for pleasure or for
wealth) may apply.
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L-7 in
Domain
8
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Inauspicious and forced-change position,
L-7 in 2nd-from-swakshetra.
Spouse builds the self-destruction and rebirth. Sudden, catastrophic and
potentially healing transformation of the native's identity
is the most important result of marriage.
L-7 in domain-8 of sudden, forced changes is notoriously difficult for
marriage. The native may experience infidelity to the marriage
contract. The spouse in this lifetime has a rather mysterious motivation for
joining the marriage. The spouse becomes a major catalyst for forced change in the
native's self-consciousness awareness.
The spouse may be a tantrik priest, a therapeutic
healer, a surgeon or psychiatrist, a covert operator, or a handler of
dangerous and confidential
information. If the graha is very difficult, the spouse may be a person who is
severely emotionally closed due to trauma, and resistant to adult intimacy.
L-7 in domain-8 indicates that the spouse
is prone to martyrdom, perhaps a great saint, committed to sacrifice, and
often wishing to transform the basic instinctual human sexuality of domain-7
into something 'higher' via religious abstinence or other sacrificial
transformation. Thus the spouse is often not sexually available.
Although divorce is not required and in
fact the spouse is often committed to religious beliefs which proscribe
divorce, one feels effectively divorced or more accurately widowed. The native
rather predictably turns to other companionship.
Conventional society expects that spouses
should support and
stabilize each other's social identities. However, when L-7 occupies domain-8,
the spouse does not accept one's current identity, and in fact sets out to
destroy it so that the native can be pushed forward to a higher destiny or
otherwise 'improved'.
When in domain-8, L-7 the agreement-maker is forced to express its
balance-seeking behavior in context of sudden, often catastrophic, changes. In
this psychic environment, marriage finds no stable foundation. Rarely can the
couple remain faithful
nor even share the same house.
However, all is not lost. If L-7 is a
favorable graha, the
spouses may greatly respect each other for their respective
strengths and personal integrity. They may continue to help
and
support each other in non-intimate ways. Tantrik knowledge is
obtained. Spiritual benefits arise.
The general public need not know the
intimate details of this marriage, since domain-8 is the house of hidden
things. The external appearance of the marriage may mask an interior
reality of virtual widowhood.
Interpersonally L-7 in domain-8 is a
difficult
placement for marriage. Yet if the graha is good, the external
appearances, material and moral support, and other non-intimate
components of marriage may be successful. |
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L-7
in
Domain
9
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Auspicious and communicative position, L-7 in
3rd-from-swakshetra.
Spouse builds the native's capacity for religious practice. Religious
development is the most important result of marriage.
The spouse is an agent of good fortune in ways
dictated by the character of the graha. Spouse functions as one's moral
adviser and guru. The relationship is naturally somewhat sibling-like,
with a competitive an affectionately adversarial under-layer.
The spouses are comfortable with each other as
typically this angle attracts those with a similar mentality. However a
mental basis is not quite enough to sustain a lifelong engagement, and
the native may outgrow such a first marriage especially if the mind is
very active.
Spouse is morally supportive, and organized in
matters of social networking through the sangha of professional, religious or
scholarly fellowship.
Spouse is often a fellow professional, respected
practitioner in an allied field, or highly ranked in one's own spiritual
or artistic lineage.
This position of L-7 in 3rd-from-swakshetra does not
prevent divorce, but after divorce the couple may remain sibling-type
friends, with many amicable connections in common. |
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L-7
in
Domain
10
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Auspicious and emotionally stable position, L-7 in
4th-from-swakshetra.
Spouse builds the career. Professional development is the most important
result of marriage.
The spouse is a steady
and grounding force of
parental quality who strongly supports and stabilizes one's own career.
Spouse is a practical, hardworking overseer of the home, often a teacher
and often the primary parent, yet quite capable of high ranking
leadership in their own professional area. Great parental stability and
care. Spouse has strong cultural roots very compatible with the
native's basic cultural upbringing.
However this good auspice can always be reversed if L-7 is a graha of
poor quality (see Jodie Foster). |
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L-7
in
Domain
11
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Auspicious position, L-7 in 5th-from-swakshetra.
Spouse and allies are the agents who builds one's network of associations.
Networking is the most
important result of marriage.
The spouse is friendly, creative,
and
speculative, and gainful
according to the character of the graha that is L-7. Spouse
functions like an elder sibling or cousin, friendly and guiding.
In cultures where cousin-marriage is supported, the spouse may literally
be a mentor-level of
cousin (Queen
Victoria) slightly elder or more experienced but favorably inclined
to help the native achieve one's goals.
While supporting the native's goal achievement; the spouse has
independent charisma (5). Presuming L-7 is well-disposed, partner =
successfully networked into a market of associations.
The life-partner may be
highly social, creating a large network for the couple to enjoy. Spouse
is often associated with large assemblies of profit-makers, and the
marriage increases the native's own gainfulness according to the
strength of L-7 by rashi, drishti, and lordship.
Spouse
may be politically active, enjoy fund-raising for community development,
or just really like going to parties. Spouse is speculative, likes
taking risks, enjoys celebrity and fame. If the graha is intelligent and
productive, this is a literary angle where both the spouse and the
native enjoy writing and reading in literary culture. |
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L-7 in
Domain
12
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Inauspicious and unrealistic position, L-7 in
6th-from-swakshetra.
Spouse builds the sanctuary. Private seclusion is the most important
result of marriage.
Marriage difficulties due to spouse's need for privacy, spouse is
emotionally or physically withdrawn, or spouse takes long residence in a
distant setting. However, the spouse may also contribute positive
support to the native's clairsentient, intuitive, meditational, and
sanctuary-sustaining activities. If the native is involved in
clandestine or otherwise private, enclosed projects, or perhaps
campaigns in foreign lands, the spouse serves as contributing agent to
further those projects.
The spouse is a shadowy figure whose
identity is not integral to the native's self-image, and whose behavior is not well
understood by the native.
Spouse may hail from a foreign land, or have been
raised in a culture whose values are foreign to the native. Spouse may
be chronically ill, have a private alternative sexual life, or have
other ways of closing off him/her self from the marriage, into a private
enclosure either mental or physical or both.
First spouse may have vulgar characteristics, hide
in illness, or have a passive-aggressive personality (or all of the
above).
Private imagination
The native may construct an interpretive story about their spouse in one's
imagination. This story fills in the missing details about the
spouse's true motives and what the spouse is actually doing. Yet
this is a story drawing from the native's own subconscious childhood
memories, and not necessarily an accurate account of the spouses actual
behavior or intent.
A native with dramatic talent can put oneself into
the theatrical role being deeply in love, and successfully act out that
role in public life (see: Nancy Reagan, Angelina Jolie, John Edwards).
This native will appear to be touching and gazing adoringly at their
partner. It is possible to use this imaginative projection as substitute
for authentic interpersonal understanding, and those with dramatic
training who are living in the limelight of public life frequently
do.
Typically there was unresolved conflict between
the spouse's parents. This embedded memory repeats continuously in the
native's subconscious mind. Thus the native carries uninterrupted
childhood expectation of adversarial attack from the partner into
marriage(s).
Therapy and
forgiveness
practice can be beneficial to at least bring this subconscious negative
expectation up to the surface of consciousness, and behavioral changes
can be applied after that to reduce the habitual reactiveness.
Formal marriage is less desirable for this native.
If multiple marriages have failed, it is probably not a good idea to
just keep getting remarried - at least until the underlying fears have
been revealed. The bulk of the karma is paid off with the first
marriage, but the pattern of expectation-of-conflict-and-attack will
persist in shadow form throughout subsequent marriages, if it is not
discussed and corrected in therapy.
Public image of the marriage may be rather
glamorous, esp. if L-5 is strong; because when L-7 occupies domain-12,
the Arudha lagna of marriage becomes domain-5, the house of
celebrity and fame.
However the interior reality is that the native
carries a persistent subconscious expectation that the spouse is an
enemy.
Marital conflict often addressed by the spouse's
taking long journeys, sequestering in ashram or hospital, or seeking private alternative liaisons.
Problems with the spouse eventually cause a loss of positive social identity for the
native, during the periods of L-7. |
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A Balanced and
Flexible Approach to Life
~~ H.H. Dalai Lama
and Howard C. Cutler, M.D.. (1998). The
Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living. www.snowlionpub.com
Developing a flexible approach to
living is not only instrumental in helping us cope with everyday
problems--it also becomes the cornerstone for a key element of a happy
life: balance.
Settling comfortably into his chair
one morning, the Dalai Lama explained the value of leading a balanced
life.
"A balanced and skillful
approach to life, taking care to avoid extremes, becomes a very
important factor in conducting one's everyday existence. It is
important in all aspects of life.
For instance, in planting a
sapling of a plant or a tree, at its very early stage you have to be
very skillful and gentle. Too much moisture will destroy it, too
much sunlight will destroy it. Too little will also destroy
it.
So what you need is a very
balanced environment where the sapling can have a healthy
growth.
Or, for a person's physical
health, too much or too little of any one thing can have destructive
effects. For example, too much protein I think is bad, and too
little is bad.
"This gentle and skillful
approach, taking care to avoid extremes, applies to healthy mental and
emotional growth as well."
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